Daughters are relatives when they get married.

Daughters are relatives when they get married.

Daughters are relatives when they get married. The so-called "water spilled by married women" is what rural people often say. A woman is no longer a family member from the day she gets married. Although her parents are in her home, the relationship with her family has changed a lot since the day she got married. Below I will tell you about the idea that my daughter is a relative when she gets married.

Daughters are relatives when they get married. 1 Daughters are no longer relatives when they get married. Now it needs a decent gift to visit relatives.

Although her daughter is married, she is still the daughter of her parents, but her family is not only her parents, but also many brothers and sisters and foreign daughters-in-law. My daughter's marriage is not good, and her husband's family's economic situation is not good. Abba and mom love their daughters dearly, but other brothers and daughters-in-law don't necessarily understand you like mom and dad, and even some brothers and daughters-in-law will say that you are poor, that the gifts you bring are not beautiful, and that you don't understand the world ... Some brothers and daughters-in-law in my hometown really do. Although they don't do very well, they will say how you are. Who told you that your marriage is not good and you have no economic conditions!

In the eyes of mom and dad, the daughter is a relative and can't get anything back. But in the eyes of parents' brothers and daughters-in-law, the daughter is married, no longer a relative, but a relative. When relatives return to their parents' home, they must bring a decent gift to each family. Different people have different views on what a decent gift is. A snob will think that a woman with a good marriage and good financial situation will be decent at home, while a woman with a bad marriage will be decent at home. They are mean to women who marry badly, that is, they look down on you, and no matter what you do, they will talk about you behind your back.

Her husband's family had no money, so she was rejected when she returned to her family.

When you are poor and your parents' brothers and daughters-in-law are snobs, you will know that it is really unpleasant to go back to your parents' house, especially those who live with the elderly. If you go back to your parents' house, you will see them. Parents don't dislike their daughters, whether they are married or not, but those brothers and daughters-in-law are all the same. Although they won't speak ill of you in front of your husband's family, they will start to speak ill of you when they return to your husband's family, even in front of outsiders. Maybe next time you go back to your mother's house, you will hear them speak ill of you from others.

In our hometown, there is a woman who doesn't marry well. When she comes home, all her brothers and daughters-in-law can stand on the moral high ground and accuse her husband's family of ignorance. Those people were talking about her when she went back. A woman and her husband worked hard to make money and gradually started their own businesses. They bought the house and the car in full, and they lacked nothing. When she returned to her parents' home, all her brothers and daughters-in-law praised her for her good marriage and ability, and her husband's ability to be a man. ...

This is the weakness of human nature. Everything is fine with money. When you have no money, everyone accuses you behind your back. If you don't marry well, your parents' brothers are snobs. If you want to be filial to your parents, you'd better go back to your parents less and send some money back.

Husband, poor parents will not look down on you, or even look down on you.

Marrying a husband is too poor to be liked by her family, especially her brothers and daughters-in-law. They will say that you can't choose a man, or even that you are as bad as your husband, otherwise how can you be together!

Some people really say that. They don't care whether it sounds good or not, or some people speak directly without thinking, but some people don't really speak directly, but speak specifically about you.

Pointedly talking about you and your husband, saying that you are not sensible and can't be a man, is actually abandoning your poverty. Although the gifts you bring are better than those women who are happily married, some people still want to talk about you. They are not aiming at what you bring, but at your poverty. They want to care about you.

It really is. This kind of taste can only be deeply understood by a poorly married woman.

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Woman, from the day you get married, everyone in your family has become your relatives except mom and dad. It's decent to visit relatives now. If you don't have the financial conditions, then try to go back to your mother's house as little as possible, unless there are only parents at home.

From the day of your wedding, your mother's home is no longer your home, but the home of your relatives. People with financial resources are welcome to visit relatives, while those without financial resources have nothing but embarrassment. Go back to your mother's house if you have no money. Make money and live hard.

The married daughter is a relative. Does a married daughter have the obligation to support her parents?

Yes, children have the obligation to support their parents whether they are married or not.

I. Civil law

Article 26 Legal Obligations of Parents and Children Parents have the obligation to support, educate and protect their minor children.

Adult children have the obligation to support, help and protect their parents.

Article 1067 Parents' Maintenance Obligations and Children's Maintenance Obligations If parents fail to perform their maintenance obligations, minor children or adult children who cannot live independently have the right to ask their parents to pay maintenance fees.

Parents who fail to perform their maintenance obligations, lack the ability to work or have difficulties in living have the right to claim alimony from their adult children.

Two. Law on the protection of the rights and interests of the elderly

Article 14 stipulates that the supporter shall fulfill the obligations of economic support, life care and spiritual comfort for the elderly and take care of their special needs.

Supporters refer to the children of the elderly and other people who have the obligation to support according to law.

The spouse of the supporter shall assist the supporter in fulfilling his maintenance obligations.

Third, local customs.

In many rural areas of China, some local traditional customs believe that the responsibility of supporting the elderly should be mainly borne by sons, and the married daughter has married, so the responsibility of supporting the elderly will be less. However, it does not mean that there is no responsibility to support parents at all.

However, from the legal provisions of our country, I can know that children have the obligation to support their parents, and parents who are unable to work or have difficulties in life have the right to ask their children to pay alimony when they fail to fulfill their obligations. Adult children who can afford it, whether married or unmarried, should fulfill this legal obligation when their parents need to support them.

Supporting parents is the legal responsibility of every child and the tradition of our nation. We should consciously fulfill this glorious obligation.

When a daughter gets married, she is a relative. 3. When my daughter gets married, her parents make her feel cold.

Leave the property to the son, and filial piety is thinking about the daughter.

My friend's parents have two children. She is an elder sister and a younger brother. After graduating from college, I began to work. Save money with your husband to pay the down payment when you get married. Usually, there is not much left after the completion of the project. I wanted my parents to help me, but I don't know when my parents bought a suite for my brother. Parents took a down payment mortgage. Thinking that my brother was going to marry a daughter-in-law, my friends didn't say anything, but within two years, my parents bought my brother a house in full and never discussed it with her. They only wrote my brother's name.

My friend thinks my parents are too partial to do this. Although she is married, her responsibilities at home have not diminished. The year before last, my mother was ill or she took the operation fee, and she took care of her at the bedside. My younger brother has no job and idles around all day, and there is basically nothing at home. In the future, she can't ignore what her parents have. These two houses are almost all her parents' property. How can she refuse to discuss these problems with her?

Everything at home, big and small, has nothing to do with my daughter.

A colleague, when she was in college, her father died and her brother was still in high school. She went to work early and decorated her house with the money she earned. Because my brother was young and my mother was uneducated at that time, she had the final say in all major and minor matters at home.

It turns out that the whole family will get together to worship their ancestors during the Chinese New Year. Later, when they got married, their uncles wouldn't let her go, saying that after she got married, she didn't belong to her family, and according to the custom, she couldn't go to the ancestral grave again. Slowly, she was not allowed to take part in some family activities. She said that sometimes she felt very chilling. Why wasn't she a family when she got married? Is there no place for her married daughter in her family?

After marriage, I no longer care about my daughter as before.

Once, I chatted with a treasure mother. I saw her taking care of two children alone, so I asked her why she didn't let grandma help. She told me that her parents were very kind to her before she got married. But after marriage, I always feel that my attitude has changed. My parents are very polite every time I go home. She was pregnant and gave birth to a baby, and her mother didn't take care of him much. But after her mother-in-law was busy, she once wanted to ask her mother to look after her baby. As a result, her mother opened her mouth and said, "Isn't there still his grandmother?" From now on, she will never speak to her mother again.

I used to think that no parents could throw their daughters out like water. After all, they are their own children, but later I found that some parents, especially those with several children, have really different attitudes towards their married daughters. This kind of differential treatment will inevitably make her daughter feel chilling.