Dad has been dead for several years, and my mother is going to live with her partner who knows square dance. What should you do?

After my father died, my mother met a partner by dancing in the square dance. I don't think this acquaintance is necessarily the person with the strongest feelings, just through dancing. If they are combined, is it too soon to make children worry about this mother? So I think as children, there must be such an idea, because whether their mother can enjoy the happiness in her later years is what their children expect most, so it is natural for them to be more cautious about the second marriage. So, there is a reason why you don't agree. I hope my mother will often observe and understand her, so that she can find a wife who has a congenial temper and can live wholeheartedly.

Mom can fall in love with anyone, and she will never fall in love with an old man who dances square dance.

Sister Li, a neighbor, met a male teacher who taught dance, and they fell in love. The beef noodles of the male teacher were fixed in the morning. This Li Jie was jealous and contracted the breakfast of the male teacher.

Lunch is usually a meal for male teachers and female students, and later it became a meal for two people, Li Jie and male teachers, and Li Jie paid the bill. Dinner and sleep will be natural.

Sister Li has a problem. She likes to bask in the sun, especially her brother Ma. Just this male teacher, his back is straight and his head is raised to the sky. It feels funny. Sister Li feels very handsome.

On one occasion, Sister Li took Teacher Ma to a class reunion. Most of what Mr. Ma sees on weekdays is the sister of the square dance, but what he sees at the class reunion is different. Teacher Ma showed his true colors. He was kicked off when he was sneaking around, and then he touched someone's ass and scratched his ear directly.

Someone said directly to Sister Li: Come by yourself later. Don't bring garbage people. We don't welcome them.

This Li Jie doesn't live up to expectations. He still has a crush on Marco and stares at Marco every day for fear of being secretly asked out by other partners. Every day, she lives in a heart full of money and people.

These are all things that Sister Li cried to us personally after her lovelorn love. The crying old horse was cheated away by the old demon, and she cried hysterically. Later, when I calmed down, I found that Teacher Ma was eating more and more. Not only did she have to pay for food and drinks, but she also changed her clothes and bags. She wants an Apple mobile phone. Sister Li has a career in her heart and spent money on it. Teacher Ma made up with Aunt Zhang, the former stereotype. Aunt Zhang's retirement fee is higher. A daughter is abroad, old and fat, but be nice to Teacher Ma.

So Sister Li broke her heart and left the ocean dance circle in the park before coming to us to cry.

I don't know all kinds of dance circles in the park, because I don't touch them. Most of the news is that sister Li chats as a joke on weekdays. She told us when she was cheated and felt depressed. We had no idea when we were in love.

In my eyes, all the people who dance square dance are Jianghu people. The water is too deep to understand. Normal people should not step into rivers and lakes. There is a saying: you always have to pay back when you come out.

Do a job for your mother, and you can find a normal life. Don't find an old man who dances, live with your mother, and guarantee that you can only dance with your mother in the future?

There is a saying: it's going to rain, and if mom wants to get married, let her go. What do you mean by that? These are all natural things and no one can stop them.

According to the information provided by the subject, the man is a master who has nothing but people. Since people can rent a house, what is your mother's good solution to save money and let him live in your house? Zhou Yu plays Huang Gai, which is consensual.

However, you still own the house. You can communicate with your mother calmly, express your personal thoughts, and let her put forward her own views and solutions to this problem. In this way, there are two kinds of results, so you should be mentally prepared.

First, your mother is a very strong person, who doesn't listen to you at all and goes her own way, putting you in an awkward position. This is a very annoying result.

Another situation is that your mother respects your opinion and rents a house with the elderly. But the child may not take care of you anymore. This may be the result you don't want to see, but it is very common to see such things.

And the difficulty of your mother's body to cool you down. Although people have moved out, their hearts are still at home. She will take care of your children in her spare time, which is the best ending. As for your unwillingness to let her get along with the elderly, it is both unreasonable and illegal. Only let nature take its course and avoid asking for trouble. (20 19/07/ 10)

Aunt Wang met Uncle Li when she got married. Both of them divorced because of dancing in the square dance. Aunt Wang has a daughter, and Uncle Wang has a son. Now they are married.

In the second year when Aunt Wang and Uncle Li were together, Uncle Li was paralyzed by a cerebral infarction, so Aunt Wang stopped dancing square dance and served Uncle Li at home for fifteen years. They should cherish each other when they leave family of origin together, but in fact they all have their own selfishness and distrust each other. Aunt Wang thinks that Uncle Li always secretly gives money to his son who doesn't do things for himself, and Aunt Li can't go out for too long, otherwise Uncle Li will ask her where to go when she comes home, and then there will be a quarrel, so Aunt Wang can only eat with her friends near home, and friends should prove that Aunt Wang is with them on the phone.

Aunt Wang said that she was very tired and wanted a divorce. Uncle Li disagreed and lived like this.

I also saw some videos, in which the grandfathers and grandmothers who danced in the square dance did not respect themselves or love themselves in front of everyone, which made people doubt the starting point of modern square dance. Of course, this negative energy is still a minority.

Let's get back to the question. Dad died in many ways. It's okay for mom to find another partner. As long as mom thinks it over, she should be supported from an early age. Now you should support her, but you have doubts. To put it bluntly, you are not practical. The house you live in has been transferred to your name. Don't worry about this. You're just worried that he doesn't have much income, and whether he wants to enjoy life. From the bottom of your heart, you feel that he is just an outsider. He is indeed an outsider. How can this sense of exclusion be eliminated? Here are some suggestions:

Generally speaking, I think you can secretly observe the behavior of your mother's partner, whether you are really with your mother, and the authorities are blind to the beholder. Protect your mother and your home with appropriate agreements. Of course, I hope the result is good, otherwise my mother will be so sad.

That's good. Old people have their own lives, especially if they can find someone to live with, and children will be much more relaxed.

You are very lucky. My mother-in-law has been single since her father-in-law died, and her personality has become more and more eccentric. For many years, my wife went to accompany her for two days every weekend. She was still not satisfied and tortured my wife to death. There is no way. What should we do if we are going to send her to a nursing home? Support! Would you like to see your mother die alone? Do you think you can stay with her for life without doing anything? If you can't do it, don't dwell on this problem. In order to let mother spend the rest of her life happily, and also to let her have a partner who can take care of her. If you don't ask her to get married, support her! Bless her!

This will make your mother happy and solve your worries. Why not? What is filial piety? Mom raised you. As long as she is willing to do something, as long as she is happy, you follow her and support her. This is called filial piety. There are many remarried old people around me who live well and are very happy. Raising you so big, you can't just care about yourself and ignore the old people. Can you stay with your mother for three meals a day? Children have children's lives, and old people have old people's lives. Isn't that bad?

In fact, many children don't agree, mostly because they feel ashamed of being so old (after all, this is their age), but because they have their own careers. Such as support, inheritance, children and so on.

Say support first. It is natural for children to support the elderly. Didn't you have to support your father when he was alive? There will be someone to accompany your mother instead of your own father. Is there any loss for you? Aren't you glad that your father died early? If not, then you didn't pay much, or even a lot of trouble. You shouldn't be grateful for this. Are you willing to take care of your mother? Unlike young people, old people are busy and they feel lonely easily. Filial children should encourage the elderly to find another job, instead of being a stumbling block to their remarriage.

The problem of inheritance, in fact, what I despise most is to control the private life of the elderly because I am afraid that others will divide the inheritance! It's a kindness of the old man to raise you. You have hands and feet. Even if you get married, you still care about the money that the old man has saved all his life. Old people give money to whoever they like. Why do you care? If parents would rather give money to others than to their children, do you want to reflect on why? Some parents are neither pro nor biased towards their children. I don't think this is a problem. The real problem is that you think you have the right to dominate your parents. Why? You love them for money? They don't give you money, so you feel unbalanced and don't have to be filial to your parents? What a ridiculous and selfish idea. The affection between you and your parents existed when they raised you, and your parents will never finish it. Do you still think it's inappropriate to scratch something?

With regard to children, there is no reason for the elderly to look after your children. Every generation has its own hardships, and it has to carry its own burdens. Don't expect everything from your parents until you die. Some people babble that if they don't look after their children, they won't give them old-age care. That's everything! Old people struggle all their lives, helping you is friendship, and it is also their duty not to help you. Are old people born to serve you? In that case, why not just give birth to you and sell it to subsidize yourself!

Most importantly, I don't think children should interfere too much in the lives of the elderly. Their choice has nothing to do with you. But old man, why did you choose to live together instead of getting married? Aren't you afraid of children's noise and money sharing? Afraid of taking on more responsibilities? At this time, children should not put pressure on the elderly, but take care of their parents. After all, love rat is old love rat, and green tea is old green tea. Those who run around asking for money and a house clearly tell the elderly that children don't want this, but they can't let the elderly be cheated of their manpower and financial resources. If it is really good for the elderly, these are nothing. Perhaps, the old man would rather exchange them for a partner in his later years. It's just the Su Like Wall. You explain the form to him clearly, and they know that you don't object to their remarriage, so they will naturally keep an eye on their own capital.

Forgive me for telling the truth: why do you have to find a so-called' dance partner' to live with when you have retired and have children? Can you live with the parents of children who have worked hard to build a family all their lives? (unless it is the cause of domestic violence before death): I (personally) think this is a disrespect for the elderly, and it is no wonder that it will be disgusted and hated by the younger generation! Aren't such parents ashamed? Parents who embarrass their children are not good parents? ! It's hard to say: the dog man lets the dog woman hurt the deceased (husband or wife) even for his love and idleness! No good result! (Personal opinion) Don't spray.

First, give mom a suggestion about whether she really loves this partner. Second, you should seriously understand whether this partner really loves your mother. If you really love your mother and are healthy, your partner's children will support you. You should also strongly support them to register for marriage. Instead of living together. Life is a little inconvenient because people are old. Isn't it better to have a companion to take care of each other, support each other and accompany each other when you are sick? Children are filial. Can you stay with her every day? It's night. What is filial piety? Obedience is filial piety, respect is filial piety. After my mother died, I encouraged my father to find another partner. Because I know he is lonely, and our children can't be with him every day. He was accompanied by someone, and both of them were very happy to talk. My mother will be happy in heaven, too.

For this matter, you think it should be treated rationally.

First of all, your father has died for several years, and your mother has the right to pursue a happy life in her later years. From your description, your mother's partner lives in a nursing home and wants to rent a house after meeting your mother. Judging from his thoughts, he really wants to have a good life with your mother. Since you really want to be with your mother, let him and your mother go through the marriage formalities, which will be more formal for the elderly, and your mother will not have to put up with the neighbors' pointing fingers.

Secondly, in the matter of renting a house, your mother chose to take her partner home and didn't want to live outside. As we all know, living in her own house is definitely more comfortable than renting a house outside. According to your description, this house was bought by your father when he was alive. Now that the house has been transferred to your name, you don't want them to live alone. I think you can make it clear to your mother. Your mother doesn't necessarily want to live in this house. She just wants to live a better life. I think you can pay some money to let them rent a better house after they get married.

Finally, for this kind of "yellow love", we should take good care of the elderly. If after a period of investigation, it is found that the other party is really good, some measures should be taken. We can't go out and "live together" after only knowing each other for a few days. A woman in love has almost zero IQ. We want our mother to enjoy the happiness of love, but we also need to take preventive measures in advance.

Your mother is a dance lover, and she developed feelings with her partner in the dance. If you want to live together, if the other person is single and has positive energy, then raise him as a child. Don't think that dancers are not good people. On the contrary, dancers are people who pursue life, love life, and are loyal and responsible.

When you are old, although sometimes your children take care of you at home, you can't stay with them all the time. When a person calms down, a bleak sense of loneliness will arise. The living can never live in the shadow of the dead and have the right to pursue the happiness of marriage. Since your mother has found the other half of her life, she feels happy. As a child, she is happy to bless them! Old ideas should be eradicated and new ones should be promoted.

I'm a dancer, too. I've seen this with my own eyes. Some of them are single, others are single. Things are different. After starting a family, they all had a good life. Hobbies and words are the same key! Life has increased joy and feelings have developed. Dancing in the morning and evening, writing poetry and painting during the day, singing and dancing, isn't that what they yearn for and pursue?

I have a female apprentice. I brought her into the dance circle. She has a boyfriend and lives together. They have different interests and hobbies, and they often quarrel. After the dance, they became male companions, just like your mother's appeal. They came together. Since they got together, they have had a good life and have a good relationship. Life is very happy! They thanked me and said that thanks to your teaching me to dance, I had a good life today and filled me with hope and future. I hope your mother can be so happy.

I wanted you to tell your mother and the old man that you rented a house, but on second thought, your mother had to babysit for you. The old man is also helping. You really can't see them when they leave. Oh, relax, just find an old man to look after the children for free!

This kind of thing, one is willing to fight another, it's nothing. You hate the old man. Really, who likes this kind of person, not to mention his mother's "new love", suddenly lives in your house, and, importantly, he has no income, and your heart is disgusted.

However, I can't help it. It's going to rain. My mother wants to get married.

Now that it has happened, don't complain. On the bright side, his appearance,

One is to solve your mother's loneliness for many years.

Second, he may also be helping with the housework and looking after the children.

I can't help it. Let's make do. In a few years, when the children are older, you can let them go out and rent a house. I hope that at that time, the two old people can still live alone! Maybe you don't have to worry, they will also say that they are more casual than young people. )