How to be a man, do things and talk

Skills of speaking and doing things

The ancients said that great things in the world must be done in the details. The so-called details are the details

Skills of speaking and doing things

The ancients said that great things in the world must be done in the details. The so-called details are the details in life.

After all, there are only two details in life, one is talking and the other is doing things. The two are mutually causal, and the words are caused by things, and nothing is nothing; Birds of a feather flock together, and if a word doesn't agree, it will bury the cause of the accident. Therefore, how to speak and do things is worth thinking about.

Before you figure out how to speak and do things, you should position yourself first. This position is the time, place and thing that happened to you. Time, place and what, these three elements can be big or small. In a big way, time is the stage of life, the place is the unit where that stage is located, and things are the undertakings that that stage is engaged in; Simply put, time, place and event can be specific to a specific time, place and event. A big orientation helps to find out your position and "potential" in the overall situation, and does not make the mistakes of being careless, doing nothing, twisting your arms and legs, being arrogant and belittling others; Small positioning helps you understand what to do next and how to follow suit under the overall situation and big positioning.

It is about what we say and do in a small position, and it is also a concrete tactical move under the strategy of a large position. Therefore, life is like chess. Although a word or thing is small, a wrong step often determines the direction of life.

We often say that life opportunities are hard to find. Where is it? I think opportunities are around us and everywhere. For example, an opportunity to speak, an opportunity to do things, is an opportunity. It is good to make an impression when the agreement is made and things are done, and good karma will be forged. Maybe one day there will be unexpected surprises. But unfortunately, we often don't realize what a precious opportunity it is to talk and do things once. A lot of things are said subconsciously, which is not in line with the rules, or not on the road, or nonsense, and some people still say some angry words out of temper; Things are either anticlimactic or so-so, which makes people unhappy.

There are routines for talking and doing things.

The routine of doing things is skillful and clumsy, soft and rigid. Many people in life and work are calculating, or they want to be lazy and save trouble, or they want to avoid disaster and take refuge, or they want to earn more fame and fortune, or they want to vent their anger for a while. In short, we may all be victims of calculation. What should we do? Against them? No, haggling over every ounce is not only too tiring, but also reduces your mind and pattern. We need to see their routine clearly. As long as it doesn't harm our core interests, it doesn't matter if we run more errands, listen to other people's angry words and occasionally transfer fame and fortune. This is clumsiness and softness. But clumsiness and softness do not mean stupidity, but cleverness and rigidity. You are a novice at work, and old comrades always make you do unnecessary things. You don't say anything once or twice, and the third time you should express it euphemistically, so that he knows that you are not a person without principles and bottom lines. As for how to express it, it is through talking.

There is also a routine to speak, and the routine to speak is to turn from beginning to end. In recent years, combined with the memories of who can speak and who can't, I have seriously thought about the communication skills in Guiguzi, such as making love, rubbing feelings, flying editing and so on. And I thought about what a friend called the "trust pyramid" model. I find that people who can talk pay attention to the combination of inheritance and integration, which makes people feel like spring breeze, that is, refusing in person and persuading each other. What people who can't talk don't pay attention to what they say? They blurted out nonsense. When they bump into people's hearts, they offend people without knowing it. They think it's good.

The beginning of the transition is to find out what the other person is thinking, thinking and thinking, which is the premise of speaking. For everyone you meet in life and work, including familiar parents, wives and children, relatives and friends, classmates and colleagues, you should pay close attention to what you are thinking, thinking and liking before you speak. Don't open your mouth if you don't know, otherwise you won't make jokes like "It's a beautiful day today" and embarrass the other party, otherwise you are making an irrelevant and irrelevant mistake. We often say that people talk late, which is a late place and do their homework late. The other is that once you meet someone you can talk to, they will make you feel comfortable, so this person may be a master in this field. As for the way to find out each other's wishes, Guiguzi has various reactions, such as observing their interests, understanding their aspirations, paying attention to their recent ideas and plans, beating around the bush and so on. However, in life, many people claim that they are outspoken and don't keep their words. So, Daimon Masaru opened, so that people can know their intentions without thinking.