Su Mingyu and Fang Sijin, who were both poisoned by "patriarchal preference", why were one admired but the other disliked?

The TV series "An Jia" is currently being aired on major platforms, and Fang Sijin, played by Sun Li, has also been hotly discussed by the audience. As the house mother's demands for house money continue to escalate, Fang Sijin's image of "Fu Di Mo" becomes more and more impressive to the audience. Her submissive attitude towards her family and her refusal to resist no matter how much she is bullied has attracted a lot of attention. The audience complained one after another.

After the scene where Fang Sijin was tricked by her mother and younger brother, many viewers thought of a TV drama heroine with a similar experience, who was played by Yao Chen in the hit drama "Everything Is Fine" Su Mingyu. With the blessing of two great drama stars, Sun Li and Yao Chen, they have created two contemporary women who are deeply poisoned by the "patriarchal" mentality. Fang Sijin took on the mortgage for her younger brother, and Su Mingyu was almost crippled by her brother Su Mingcheng. Today let’s talk about the similarities and differences between these two people.

First of all, let’s talk about the similarities. The unfortunate family experiences of Su Mingyu and Fang Sijin are probably the most similar. They both come from a family that values ??sons over daughters. Su Mingyu suffered from the contempt of her mother and the jealousy of her second brother Su since she was a child. Mingcheng's bullying, Fang Sijin was almost thrown into the water because she was a girl. Secondly, Su Mingyu and Fang Sijin both have the drive to work hard to change the harm in their families. Through hard work, the two of them got a job with financial freedom, and both changed their destiny even though they did not have access to the best educational resources (Mingyu's mother did not allow her to go to a key university because of her good grades). In the end, Su Mingyu and Fang Sijin both met him, who changed his personality. Shi Tiandong and Aunt Xu were both salvation-like existences for them, and even directly changed their destiny.

After briefly talking about the similarities, let’s analyze the differences between the two in detail. What exactly makes the audience appreciate Su Mingyu but dislike Fang Sijin?

Fang Sijin’s character has a fatal flaw. She has never been able to be truly cruel to her family. This is why she still paid out the mortgage even though she knew her mother had teamed up with her brother to trick her! She resents her parents and family, but can't let go of her longing for home.

In contrast, Su Mingyu lived a much more sober life. She had a clear understanding of her family members very early. She knew that her two brothers were unreliable, her mother resented her, and her father was weak, so she I don't place my hopes on this family. Even when these people asked her for other things in the name of family ties, Su Mingyu refused. She would not pay off the debt for her brother Su Mingcheng, nor would she buy a big house for her unreasonable father. In all cases, the rational Su Mingyu had her own ideas and perceptions. In other words, her attitude towards her family is actually much more ruthless than Fang Sijin's (this is not a derogatory term).

The second thing about Fang Sijin that made the audience complain is that she has always accepted the harm done to her family! But Su Mingyu was different. She could send her brother to prison with her own hands. The first time Fang's mother went to the store and made a big fuss, which made Fang Sijin laugh at the neighbors and colleagues in the community, but her way of handling it was to immediately pay 200,000 yuan to ask her mother to leave quickly. Unexpectedly, her mother escalated again and blocked people at the door of her house. She still endured it silently. She was videoed and lost her job. However, it was Aunt Xu who always thought of a solution. Fang Sijin seemed to have regarded everything as a habit.

Where is Su Mingyu? Her brother Su Mingcheng beat her, so she hired a lawyer and asked Su Mingcheng to apologize before she could reconcile, and even wanted to send her brother to jail; her brother Su Mingzhe threatened her with family morals of "obedience" and "filial piety", but Su Mingyu didn't even listen to the words. Just leave. Su Mingyu's personality is much stronger than Fang Sijin's, and she will never condone unreasonable family members. As long as you don't do it right, you can be cruel to Su Mingyu.

Last point, Su Mingyu actually does her best to be good to her family, while Fang Sijin always does things beyond her capabilities for the sake of family ties.

The most intuitive manifestation of this is the economic level of the two people. Su Mingyu is the vice president of a large company and lacks everything. She can hire a nanny for her father and buy an expensive cemetery for her mother. She is considerate to her family within her own financial means; but Fang Sijin is different. She is an intermediary who earns quite a lot of money. Based on her hard work, she should have achieved economic freedom long ago. However, she overdrafted her finances time and time again to subsidize the family. From every time her mother asked for debt to as big as her brother's house, she was already using more than her ability to afford this family relationship. She was seriously overestimating her capabilities. ?, which brought a lot of burden to myself.

She cannot learn to refuse weak requests, and she has to go into debt even if she is overdrafted. This is the biggest difference between her and Mingyu.

In fact, when many viewers saw Fang Sijin, they missed Su Mingyu in "Everything is Fine" because Su Mingyu was the one who really found an exit from his original family. Mingyu has a very strong character. She once longed for the warmth of her family, but when her family disappointed her time and time again, she learned to be strong. Fang Sijin failed to do this. Although it is indeed not easy for a person to work in a foreign country, and she also feels that she is extremely strong, Fang Sijin is actually a "paper tiger" who is strong on the outside and has never been able to reconcile with her native family. The exit of the original family does not lie in how much responsibility or forgiveness you have to bear for the family, but in finding a way of survival that truly suits you like Su Mingyu. As long as you feel it is right, stick to it without hesitation.

We are all too similar to Fang Sijin, but not everyone can be like Su Mingyu!