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For a sociable person, there are no strangers in his eyes, only friends who haven't had time to communicate.

The purpose of learning cold reading is to build trust with others and win their trust. Therefore, if you want to read cold effectively, the key first step is to strike up a conversation.

Today I will share with you how to start a conversation with strangers quickly.

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Effective opening remarks

Neil strauss once said that in the relationship between men and women, he summed it up as: looking for a goal-chatting up people-showing attraction-establishing follow-up contact.

If you want to give full play to the role of cold reading, you need to bridge the mind.

Needless to say, we are all animals, and some physical feelings will make your eyes shine for what we want or for people.

The key is how we communicate with our goals. You can't look at him coldly from the beginning: you are a person with extremely delicate feelings, and you don't care about other people's opinions on the surface ... sb, you! ...

I used to chat with girls, but girls didn't return my WeChat. Even if they reply, it's uh-huh, sometimes even blacked out by girls. I never understood why girls do this to me, until I accidentally read Zhuge's book "The Secret of Love", only to know that this situation is caused by not being attracted to girls. According to the method inside, I changed it. Chatting with girls up to now is 90%. I strongly recommend you to read this book. You can find this e-book through online search. Apply what you have learned, eternal truth, good luck to all brothers.

(1) Skills of the first sentence

Say what you want to say sincerely.

Li Ka-shing once said, "greetings don't need to be cautious, but they must be sincere and touching."

So in the face of people we want to know, we don't really want fancy greetings (such as those old-fashioned ones, where we seem to have met ...), and we sincerely say what we want to say, and the other party will take you seriously with the confidence attached to that sincerity.

Hello, I found you attractive from the beginning. There are so many people in the whole meeting that I can't take my eyes off you. I wonder if I can get to know you.

What needs to be noted here is that although you say you want to speak your mind, don't be too naked. You should have empathy and think about whether it is acceptable to say the other person's attributes.

In the face of a pure little sister, you can't say, hello, I feel you are so beautiful, I miss you C -ao.

Facing a handsome senior, you can't say, senior, can you break up with your present job? Let's be together (unless you are really rich and beautiful)

Then there is extension. Don't wait for the other person's consent or not, tell him your occupation or what you are doing at once, and then ask him what he is doing now.

The principle is to introduce you to him, and at the same time, you can turn the topic framework into a new friend you just met.

Because people are lazy to think, when you give a closed question of "Do you know", the first reaction of people's inner defense mechanism is to resist when facing strange things, so ask open questions of "What do you do" and "What are you looking at". At this time, the other person thinks, "What is my job and what am I doing?" Because they are lazy, they are too lazy to recall what the last question was.

The closed-ended question "Can I know you" aims to tell the other party the reason why "I am looking for you";

* What is my current status (what occupation, what am I doing)? The purpose is to tell the other party, "I am a normal person and have no malice."

* Open-ended questions, such as "What's your job" and "What are you reading", aim to expand and continue the theme.

(2) Gold for 3 seconds

To put it simply, you must act within 3 seconds in the face of what you want to know.

The purpose is to force the chat-up person not to give himself room to think. Once he thinks too much, he will hesitate, and the chance of failure will increase when he hesitates.

Many times when we just take a fancy to a person, there will always be some voices of opposition in our hearts. "Seeing that he has such high taste in clothes, it is impossible to be friends with me." "She walked so fast that I went over and asked her if she would be rejected." ...

Especially for newcomers who have just learned to strike up a conversation, meeting new people is also a strange field for them, and it is only true if they take the first step bravely.

So the golden 3 seconds is to give you a hint.

1) I have an idea about what I want to say, but I have no idea about my lines (prepare 100 times, it is best to go on stage 1 time).

2) Don't think about whether this is the best time to strike up a conversation, tell yourself that if you don't do it this time, you won't have a chance next time.

3) Naturally, it may be a little difficult to behave, and subconsciously treat the other person as someone you already know (there is nothing to lose by being rejected).