Keep the good things and forget the troubles

Nine times out of ten life will be unsatisfactory, so let’s keep the only one or two! Our hearts are already small, so we should leave more room for beauty. Keep more good things in life and forget more troubles, and it will get better and better!

Let me tell you my story below. I hope it can give some inspiration to friends who read this article. I grew up in a single-parent family. I have never enjoyed complete parental love in my memory. The environment I grew up in when I was a child was not harmonious and warm. So when I grew up, I was not cheerful enough, lacked confidence and security. It wasn't until I read a lot of books, met many enthusiastic friends, teachers, and fell in love that my situation improved.

Depressed Childhood

My childhood was happy, but when I thought about my dad, I felt depressed because I couldn’t feel my dad’s love at that time. He was very strict with me and often criticized me, but he was kind to other people's children. Every year when I pay my tuition fees, I usually end up among the last ones in the class. I almost cry and it’s very hard to pay for the study materials. At that time, my father often drank to relieve his sorrows, and sometimes he thought I was a girl. Every time my dad goes out to do errands, I silently pray in my heart: Dad must not get drunk. So when I was a child, I had no confidence in marriage, and I felt especially insecure! Either I won’t get married, or I will never find a partner like my dad. When I grow up, I am not as cheerful or confident as the children from a complete and harmonious family. I am often cautious!

Meeting by fate

Actually, my husband and I had never crossed paths before we met! He is four years older than me. We are not classmates and colleagues. I am from Huludao and he is from Shenyang. But fate is so subtle, two completely unrelated people meet and fall in love online. I was also slightly moved by him. At that time, he always picked me up from the shuttle bus stop back to the place where I rented the house, rain or shine, and then walked home. Although the journey was not far, he persisted until we got married.

Usually he would accompany me to the construction site to visit my dad and celebrate his birthday and Father’s Day. His drinking capacity is very small, not as big as mine. So I don’t have to worry about him getting drunk and I don’t have to worry about his drinking. Even though he was a small drinker, he would drink with my family before getting married. Every time I saw him feeling sad, I would blame him for not being able to drink enough to politely refuse. But he always said that you should be sincere and do your best!

Now that I think about it, I am very moved even though we have had conflicts. In fact, before marrying him, I was very hesitant and unsure. They say that being in love is sweet, but that is not the case after marriage. I'm also afraid that he won't be so kind to me after we get married, that he won't be responsible for the family, that we might quarrel and get into trouble, in short, all kinds of worries!

Marriage life

With the blessings of relatives and friends, and with anxiety and nervousness, I got married to him. After the wedding, we went to the four cities in East China (Shanghai, Wuzhen, Suzhou and Hangzhou). I would like to say that I had a lot of fun and was not tired during those days. I felt like I didn’t have enough fun and didn’t want to go back to Shenyang. Because he is responsible for all the trivial matters such as booking flights, hotels, finding places to eat and play. I just wanted to eat, drink and have fun, and he would take photos for me from time to time. I eat well and sleep well no matter where I go, but he never sleeps well no matter where he goes. All in all it was a very enjoyable honeymoon trip.

After coming back, it’s time to go to work and live a life of daily necessities and daily necessities. Fortunately, his working hours are relatively free and he can come to the company to pick me up from time to time. Sometimes we also work together. Most of the time in spring, summer and autumn, I can avoid the pain of crowded buses and traffic jams, and at the same time, I can often enjoy the beautiful scenery along the Dahun River!

Dad stayed at our house for more than two months last winter and celebrated the New Year with us. Fortunately, he didn't dislike it. Sometimes he took the initiative to buy cigarettes for his dad, sometimes watched TV series with his dad, and sometimes played mahjong with his dad. When I was working overtime, he was always at home chatting with my dad. In short, he is very good to my father, and I am satisfied. At that time, I wanted to find a partner who was good to my father. After all, it was not easy for my father to raise me, and I was married far away.

In June and July of this year, I experienced my first hospitalization for surgery. He took a week off to be with me and was busy with me. The weather was very hot during the days of physical examination, but he still took me to and from the hospital and home on an electric bike (the hospital and home are only 20 minutes away). Many people don't like to stay in the hospital for too long, and I am no exception. I stayed in the hospital until the day before the operation, and went home without infusion after the operation.

When I got home, he took care of all the housework and even helped me wash my hair. My parents-in-law also gave me food. Now I am recovering well under the care of him and my parents-in-law.

How time flies! Before we knew it, we had known each other for four years and been married for almost two years! Married life is not as bad as imagined, just like a pony crossing a river. Only through personal experience can you know that things are not that good but not that bad either. All in all, the nearly two years of marriage have been more joyful than troublesome. Although we sometimes quarreled, it seemed like he always apologized first. Although he is lazy, he will also clean up when I am not feeling well. Although he loves smoking, as long as I talk to him, he will consciously change places. I am very grateful to him for his tolerance and understanding of me, which has made me more cheerful, beautiful and confident than before!

Written at the end

Here are some tips for married couples with children. First, since you have decided to hold hands, don’t let go easily. Divorce will more or less leave a psychological shadow on children. We must give our children a complete home and complete parental love. Because a home lacking a father lacks masculinity, a home lacking a mother lacks warmth. Even if you must divorce, please minimize the harm to your children, let alone each other. Second, try not to quarrel in front of your children, and try to give your children a harmonious and happy growth environment. Let your children grow up healthily and happily, let them have a carefree childhood, and let them bravely face the ups and downs of life! Third, as parents, you must be responsible for your own life and family, live a good life and work hard! When encountering something unsatisfactory, be optimistic, think more about the good times of the past, look forward to a better future, and keep moving forward hand in hand. Don’t forget your original intention, keep doing it and cherish it!