I want to ask a father what he will buy for his children. Is such a father good and competent?

No, because Stanford University once did an experiment. They found a group of 4-year-old children, gave them each 1 piece of delicious cotton candy, and told the children that if they could wait 15 minutes before eating, they would get a second piece of cotton candy. As a result, two-thirds of the children couldn't wait and ate the marshmallows in a hurry. Later, after long-term follow-up, it was found that those children who could wait 15 minutes before eating cotton candy had better grades when they grew up than those who were unwilling to wait. This is the so-called "marshmallow theory". This is a very important parenting principle.

If parents can't let their children learn to wait, they will not only cause trouble to adults now, but also cause more trouble when they grow up.

Teacher Liu: When children cry because they can't get what they want, mothers should not be mad because of saving face. You must persevere, persevere, and never give in or compromise. You should pretend to ignore him calmly, as if you didn't see him quarreling, and don't pay attention to other people's eyes. It doesn't matter if the children are noisy. As long as you hold on, the child will soon know that his actions are useless and will stop crying. If you give in, or repair him, it will never end.

Children love to spend money indiscriminately because he has problems in controlling money, and he didn't know how to control his desire to spend money from an early age. There are many card debtors and moonlight families in society. It is because they have just left social work and gained control of money for the first time, but they can't control the impulse to spend money, because no one taught them how to deal with the money in their hands since childhood.

It is suggested that children should be given proper control of money and pocket money from an early age, let him decide how to spend it, and let him learn to be the master of money. Parents only need to guide him. Don't think that children spend their parents' money when they are young. I have no experience of spending money, and I will not spend money indiscriminately when I grow up. The fact may be just the opposite; I have no experience of spending money since I was a child, and I don't know how to control when I grow up with money. The problem is even more troublesome.

Dr. Huang: A father began to teach his children how to use money when his son was in kindergarten middle class. Once a child clamored to buy his favorite combat gyro, but he already had 10 at home, and his father wouldn't let him buy it. However, this father received a good education. He didn't just disagree, but told the child that if he could bear it for 30 days, his father would agree to let him buy it. "Thirty days? For a long time! " Of course, the child will "make trouble", but the father did not compromise and still insisted on letting the child wait for 30 days. A few days before the start, the child will be very cute and ask his father every day: "Is it not 30 days yet?" A week later, he forgot and stopped asking. The father insisted on the 30th day, and the child suddenly asked for it. The father praised the child's performance and agreed to buy it. The child was very happy.

Five steps of financial communication with children

Many parents don't know how to educate their children about the correct view of money. Here is a "financial management five-part" to share with parents.

1.*** Discuss with you-how often to give pocket money and where to use it.

2. Make rules-how much money should be reported to parents first, and learn to keep accounts.

3. Set the goal of increasing income and reducing expenditure-how to spend and how to save before you can buy things.

4. Test the success or failure-did you hold back the flowers? Did you keep the accounts truthfully?

5. Grasp the principle-pocket money will not increase if the target is not completed; If it is done well, the price will be increased next time.

Wang Hongzhe Child Development Expert:

Teaching children the value of money can refer to the following steps:

1. See how much pocket money you have and whether it is enough.

2. Think about it-discuss with your child whether this is what he really wants.

3. Talk about it-guide children to talk about the value of this thing.

4. Listen-tell your child why you want to buy it for him next time.

Of course, children may not respond as adults expect, and may say something that makes you don't know how to respond, or give some specious reasons that you can't deny. For example, you discuss with your child why you want to buy this toy, and the child replies, "Because my classmates have it, I don't have it, so I want to buy it." In my opinion, any reason can be used, and you can't say "others have me"! If the child really says this, parents can directly refute him and say, "Does dad buy anything when he sees what others have?" You have to compare yourself with him. If not, children can't use this as an excuse. You can say to your child again, "It's not that I have no money, but that my money has other arrangements." "Dad doesn't follow the fashion when shopping, and I don't want what others have, so you can't have it!"

Educate a little

◎ Try to let children participate in spending money at home from an early age, and let them know how much their parents earn, what fixed expenses they have at home, and how many things they need to buy. Guide children to understand the correct concept of spending money.

Don't always say that children are not sensible, just study hard and don't worry about money, which will make children irresponsible for money. Not to mention, just because you spoil your child, you are swollen and fat, and you can provide your child with material needs at will regardless of the family's economic conditions.

concept of right and wrong

Now there are fewer children, all of whom are the treasures of the family. Parents should try their best to meet their children's needs.

√ Parents should avoid getting angry on the spot when children are clamoring to buy things outside. How about adding a semicolon to me?