Sense of humor in the workplace (being a measured humorous workplace person)

Don't let jokes ruin a lot of beauty, be a measured humorous workplace person.

We are all friends. Just kidding. What's the matter? Sorry, we are not friends anymore.

Many years ago, a friend and I became strangers because of a "little joke".

At that time, I was the administrative manager of the company and recruited a new person to be my subordinate. The little girl who just graduated is practical and capable. She asks me for advice seriously and modestly whenever she meets anything. She grew up quickly in the company and then jumped ship to another company.

We have kept in touch since she changed jobs. She regards me as a big sister. She will ask me for advice on anything in her work and life, even emotionally, and I will try my best to teach her. One day, when I was in a meeting, I received a message from her saying that she was in a hurry and had no money on her. I hope that the person who regards her as a friend can immediately turn to 10 yuan to give her emergency, but not much, just 10 yuan. I was preparing a meeting at that time. As soon as I saw her news, I wondered if she had something urgent. I didn't think much, and immediately transferred the money to her.

It turns out that I was framed. It seems that this is a group message from her. I'm really uncomfortable to see this, because if this kind of joke is only aimed at your best friend, maybe everyone will laugh and scold each other, but if you send this kind of joke out to verify the so-called "friendship", it's a cross-border joke.

I don't know how many people responded to her news and how much "unexpected income" she can get through this so-called "test". But I believe that as long as she sees the news and transfers money to her immediately, she will feel uncomfortable when she knows the truth, because she has no scruples about treating others' trust in her as a joke and her friends as entertainment objects.

Don't let jokes ruin a lot of beauty, be a measured humorous workplace person.

This joke will only lead to two results: one is that people who don't care about her at all, even if the other party sees this news, they won't pay attention to it, and they won't confirm whether she is in a hurry, let alone transfer money to her. The other is someone who really cares about her, who trusts her as soon as she sees it and transfers money to her. When everyone knows the truth, she will lose their trust in her, which reminds me of the story of "Wolf coming".

I left her a message: there is not much money, but you have lost my trust. She didn't explain or apologize to me for some psychological reason, but she didn't say a word to me after that. After a while, I found that she had deleted me from her friends.

Friends, because of a little joke, have become strangers since then.

In this world, when we interact with people, we should always pay attention to a sense of proportion. Proper humor can add a lot of fun to life, ease the atmosphere and make everyone relaxed and happy. But if you don't master the sense of proportion and joke out of line, the result will be counterproductive and even make you suffer heavy losses.

Pay more attention to discretion when joking between colleagues in the workplace.

Mi Duo is my sister. She just joined a new company and told me that having a big sister in her company was too annoying. Recently, because of a project, she needed to work with a male colleague. Cooperation time is long. Now as long as she talks and chats with this male colleague, the elder sister will come over and say what you two are suitable for, and you are unmarried. Stay together. Once or twice, everyone just smiled and dealt with it, and no one cared. As a result, the elder sister kept saying. It is often said that no one can stand it, which makes her hardly talk to this male colleague except for the need to communicate at work.

I said to her, "Then this sister's position in your company should not be high, and everyone doesn't like being with her very much." Mi Duo said, "Yes, how do you know? Although she has been in our company for a long time, she has always been a small clerk and everyone secretly hates her. "

See, this is the result of joking without discretion. From this elder sister's point of view, nothing. I'm only joking with them, but I'm not serious. But she doesn't know that her jokes have seriously interfered with other people's private lives. Maybe she still thinks she is humorous and cares about the life events of her colleagues. People should thank her.

Many people around us like to equate joking with humor, thinking that joking often means that he has a good sense of humor and will be especially loved. In fact, humor is different from jokes, especially some people joke regardless of occasion, object and discretion.

Don't let jokes ruin a lot of beauty, be a measured humorous workplace person.

It is not humor to make fun of other people's physical defects, sprinkle salt on other people's wounds and base your happiness on other people's pain.

It is not humor to spread vulgar, boring or even obscene plots with vivid colors.

It is not humor to laugh and play in a serious, nervous or even sad situation and atmosphere.

Others treat you as a friend and tell you some privacy, but you treat these privacy as a joke. This is not humor.

Others trust you, and you treat this trust as a joke. This is not humor.

What is humor? Don't let jokes ruin a lot of beauty, be a measured humorous workplace person.

The word "humor" first appeared in Qu Yuan's Nine Chapters of Huai Sha, which is full of warmth and humor. But the definition here is silence. Now "humor" refers to the transliteration of English "humor", which was first introduced to China by Mr. Lin Yutang, a master of Chinese studies, in 1924.

Lin Yutang explained: "Anyone who is good at humor will be more reclusive;" And those who are good at appreciating humor, especially the inner silence, have a kind of inhuman taste. Unlike rude jokes, the quieter the humor, the more silent it is. "

Humor can often bring joy to people, help to eliminate hostility, ease friction and prevent contradictions from escalating.

Humor can also boost morale and improve production efficiency to a certain extent.

A company in Colorado, USA, confirmed through investigation that the output of middle-level supervisors who participated in humor training increased by 15% within 9 months, while sick leave was reduced by half.

Whether in the workplace or in life, a person who really knows humor seems to have a magnet property, which can attract many people around him, because his humor will care about your feelings, just right, and will never make you feel embarrassed. It's just natural and relaxing, and this humor can even reduce the pressure of our work and life. In the workplace, such people will naturally get more promotion opportunities. Who doesn't like a person who can bring happiness?

Being a truly humorous person in the workplace and life will benefit us for life. So what is real humor?

First, humor exists in proper limit. Don't let jokes ruin a lot of beauty. Have a sense of humor in the workplace.

There is a saying in The Doctrine of the Mean: "Anyone who is in China is also the foundation of the world. He who is harmonious achieves the way of the world. Neutrality, the position of heaven, the education of all things. Meaning: "Neutralization" is the most fundamental and universal law in the universe. If you follow the "middle", you can achieve "harmony", thus making things develop harmoniously.

Humor also talks about the "golden mean", which requires a good proper limit. If it is almost the same, it will be invalid. Too much is out of line. It's called an attack. The definition of humor and offense is the bottom line of humor. Beyond this bottom line, it is not a question of humor, but disgust caused by rudeness.

A while ago, a foreign boring panda website held a netizen activity. The theme of the activity is: let everyone shoot and upload the creative tombstones they see. This activity fully demonstrated the excessive sense of humor of foreigners, who never forgot their sense of humor until their death.

However, if the venue is changed to China, the expected "punchline" will not be achieved, and even controversy and discomfort will be caused. Because China people are very taboo about life and death, making jokes about the deceased will make most people, especially the older generation, feel uncomfortable and think that this is an offence to the deceased, which is not humor.

Second, empathy can make people feel humorous. Don't let jokes ruin a lot of beauty. Be a measured and humorous professional.

Empathy has two meanings. First, humor is often "unexpected", "incredible", or exaggerated or weird. This is the result of empathy. Not playing cards according to common sense, getting rid of normal thinking, giving people surprises and making people laugh and cry. Exaggerated to the extreme, you can get unexpected humorous effects.

"Tucao Conference" is full of unreasonable jokes. There is a sentence in Si Wen's "Brother Sleeping on My Upper Bed": "Is there a pure friendship between men and women? Yes, my husband and I are. " Let me remember her and like her from now on, which is also the charm of humor, because humor likes a person.

Second, put yourself in the humor object's shoes. Don't completely ignore each other's feelings, just make fun of your own preferences and don't know how to respect each other. Otherwise, this self-righteous humor will only increase others' disgust.

For example, there are such men around me who especially like telling jokes. After telling jokes, no matter how others react to his jokes, they all feel that they are particularly powerful. Especially the more women there are, the more they can arouse his interest. He even told dirty jokes to make others blush. He seems to feel particularly accomplished and charming, but he doesn't know that others have deeply despised him.

Third, humor comes from profound knowledge. Don't let jokes ruin a lot of beauty. Be a measured and humorous professional.

Real humor comes from real knowledge, and the accumulation of knowledge requires us to read widely and broaden our knowledge. If you accumulate to a certain extent, you will feel confident and comfortable in contact with different people on various occasions. Humorous jokes and words can be blurted out with different scenes and different objects, and unexpected results can be obtained.

In my eyes, Mr Degang Guo is a very humorous person. His cross talk is full of burdens and jokes, and many people like him. Looking at his growth experience, he began to learn cross talk at the age of 9 from elementary school storytelling. His knowledge of cross talk is very profound. You can say that crosstalk is written first and then performed, and you can prepare in advance, but look at some non-crosstalk performances he participated in. Ancient poetry, history and folk culture often blurt out, which shows his knowledge and skill.

There is a saying in Degang Guo's cross talk performance that artists finally fight for culture. Not only artists, but all of us need culture to accumulate our own knowledge and insight, so as to master and master knowledge. After doing this, humor and trust are distorted.

"The best humor naturally means' the brilliance of the soul and the richness of wisdom' ... In all kinds of styles, humor is the most emotional." (Lin Yutang-On Reading and Humor)