"My mother won't go back to her hometown, so please excuse me." "Well, then divorce." What happened afterwards?

People who always say divorce will always end up as you wish. Most of the contradictions between husband and wife come from the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I wonder why there are so many worried mothers-in-law in the world. It is necessary to force the son and daughter-in-law to divorce. There are always daughters-in-law who let the husband choose between himself and his mother-in-law, which makes men very embarrassed.

Colleague Zhuang Chun and her husband have two daughters, who usually take care of themselves. The eldest daughter was born after attending kindergarten. Although both husband and wife have to work and take care of their children, although it is very hard, they have a good relationship and occasionally quarrel because of the intervention of their parents. This quarrel was also because her husband said that her mother-in-law would live here for a long time, and Zhuang Chun couldn't stand it, so they divorced.

I can understand Zhuang Chun's feelings, and I have experienced them. Actually, my marriage is in trouble, and I'm thinking about divorce. It is really uncomfortable to get along with my mother-in-law, but my colleagues and husbands have a good relationship, so I should think more about my children. For a woman, divorce is really not the best choice.

First, the marriage rift of colleagues began with her mother-in-law. She said bitterly: Mom, will you leave me alone?

Colleague Zhuang Chun's mother-in-law just moved here for half a year and had a lot of unhappiness with her daughter-in-law. As far as I know, she is really an eventful mother-in-law, constantly picking on my colleagues and directing her to do housework and cooking. Although she has a strong personality, at first she just said quietly to her mother-in-law out of courtesy. I have my own way of doing things, so you don't have to worry about what I do ?

But no matter what she said, her mother-in-law pretended not to hear, and still targeted her daughter-in-law according to her own ideas. Moreover, even when washing clothes, her mother-in-law will watch her put a few spoonfuls of washing powder. Every time she is careless, her mother-in-law scolds her with her head held high. Colleagues are angry, but they are too lazy to take care of the elderly and are afraid that their husbands will be difficult to do. Over time, my mother-in-law got used to telling her what to do.

What people can't stand is that when they are ready to sleep at night, their mother-in-law always knocks on the door and asks what to eat in the morning. At first, my colleagues thought that my mother-in-law was kind to them, but later they found out that her mother-in-law did it on purpose, because her mother-in-law never did it, but my colleagues got up in the morning and did it again.

If the mother-in-law stops looking for trouble, her colleagues will also be respectful to her, and the two will thus maintain the safest relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. She will put up with the trivial things in life. But her mother-in-law prefers boys to girls and doesn't like her two granddaughters. Moreover, it is said that the daughter adopted a relative in her hometown and asked her to have another son. This time, my colleagues couldn't stand it any longer. Since calm and communication are ineffective, there is only one way, either you leave me or you leave me.

Second, divorce is the only choice?

My colleague's husband said that he was an only child and wanted to live with his mother. Colleagues told her that if her husband didn't live separately, she would have to choose divorce. In fact, I know what my colleagues say is more angry words, because my father-in-law died a year ago, and my mother-in-law lived alone in her hometown for half a year before being taken over by her son to live together. He knew in his heart that it was impossible for his husband to send her back to her hometown to live separately, and he would still agree.

So her husband didn't divorce her, so he found a one-bedroom house near their home to live with his mother-in-law. This solved the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and did not prevent the daughter-in-law from being filial. This matter has been handled very well.

I think the key is what my colleague's husband can do. If the husband you meet is a man who doesn't care about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and doesn't care about his wife, you really have to reconsider your marriage with him. Instead of letting yourself be wronged all the time, it is better to divorce.

Third, life is not a single choice, but a proposition composition.

Old people like colleagues and mother-in-law often exist in life, but not all daughters-in-law who are suppressed by their mother-in-law will bravely stand up and defend themselves. However, after her mother-in-law came to this home, the couple's life was no longer harmonious. As a daughter-in-law, a wife and the mother of a child, can this woman escape so easily?

Divorce is better than trying to change. Life needs you to master balance. Actually, not every woman can be a strong woman. When people are alive, they will encounter unhappy things. There are thousands of possibilities in life, because life is never a single choice, but a proposition composition, which is described by yourself and a happy life is won by yourself.

Don't persuade others to be good, don't suffer others. ? I often experience conflicts with my mother-in-law, but I don't comment too much on my colleagues' experiences with my mother-in-law. It is difficult for an honest official to break housework. Besides, it's hard to have real empathy in the world. Fortunately, colleagues and couples are still happy, which is accidental and inevitable, don't you think?