"As long as relatives turn against each other, it will be difficult to reconcile, and even passers-by will be inferior in the end." what do you think?

Feelings are the strongest and deepest of all feelings. If you are injured, it is difficult to recover.

Because relatives often have deep feelings, if they turn against each other because of something, even if there is no room for reconciliation, they will certainly hurt each other's strongest feelings. Originally, affection may be the strongest of all feelings. If it is broken, it may prove that the sentence was not built in a day, and the bitterness in the trivial things of life is too deep to be repaired. The harm of family ties is often irreparable and the most hurtful. Even if we make up, we can't get through the psychological barrier, so that even passers-by are not as good as in the end.

The so-called passerby is just a person you meet when you walk in the street. You have no opinion or prejudice against him, let alone feelings. Even if he is a nuisance, it has nothing to do with you, because he is just a person who has nothing to do with you. Because it's irrelevant, I didn't turn my face and didn't hurt my feelings.

Therefore, it is very reasonable to say that as long as relatives turn against each other, it is difficult to reconcile, and even passers-by are inferior in the end.

Yes, as long as relatives turn against each other, it is difficult to get back together.

This is my personal experience.

My father borrowed 6,543,800 yuan from my uncle, and agreed to pay it back five years later without paying interest. Only two years later, I suddenly ran home to ask for money on Chinese New Year's Day. At that time, my father owned a hotel, but my uncle said cruel words when he asked for money. He said that he would pay off the money within an hour.

My father insisted on telling me where to get the money for the Chinese New Year, and then returning it to him after the Chinese New Year. He just wouldn't listen. Maybe he was drunk. The electricity in the hotel was cut off and all the guests in the hotel were driven away. Father had to promise to pay him high interest and pay him back after the new year.

It has been four or five years now, and the two of them have never contacted each other, but my father often mentions him.

Maybe the relationship was too good before, and my uncle's temper was allowed. He often has a bad temper, especially after drinking.

People who used to have a good relationship are hard to get back together because they are heartbroken.

Although I will still miss it, it is difficult to put down my face and get back together.

The affection between relatives is the most fragile.

My neighbor, his two brothers. More than ten years ago, my brother's family went out of town and put more than 200 kilograms of mint oil in stock at my brother's house.

Late at night, two brothers dug a deep pit in their younger brother's house, put peppermint oil in a big iron bucket, then put it in the deep pit and sealed it.

At that time, the market for peppermint oil was very hot. Generally, it is about a kilo of money in 80 yuan, and it reaches 150 yuan kilo at the hottest time. Such wealth was dazzling at that time.

Ten years later, my brother needs to buy a house for his son and marry a wife, and he is in urgent need of money. The two brothers dug up peppermint oil together again. When the lid of the bucket was opened, my brother insisted that peppermint oil was gone and my brother stole it and sold it. The younger brother insisted that there was no one, and the two did not give way to each other. Kneel down and swear to heaven, and finally a fight broke out, and both sides were seriously injured and admitted to the hospital.

Now they are the voices of chickens and dogs.

If you don't trust others, you just don't use them.

Family members turn against each other, basically because of money, followed by supporting the elderly.

Tell me about my own personal experience. My brother is six years older than me. Because he is a boy, he has been spoiled and willful since childhood. As far as I can remember, he was selfish since he was a child and could not plan his own life. Today, he is drunk, and most importantly, he has the habit of gambling.

After he got married, his life was not very rich and his ability to make money was strong, but he never saved any money. My sister-in-law is a kind person. She is very wronged with him and often quarrels in anger. I sometimes criticize my brother, but he never accepts it and can't get rid of the bad habit of gambling.

As a sister, I also have a family. I earn hard money, and I really support him financially. He never knows how to be grateful. Every time I know that my hard-earned money has been lost by him, I am very angry. I hate that he can't do business with it. In the long run, I will no longer support him. As a result, my brother spoke ill of me everywhere, and his language was vicious, which broke my heart.

Now we don't see each other, and I don't want to see him at all. Although I am my own brother, I don't care about anything except wishing him well, but I still keep gambling, which may be difficult to change in my life. Poor my sister-in-law has been unhappy with him all her life. Fortunately, she has an obedient and obedient son.

I don't know, when my brother is alone, are you grateful for his financial help over the years? Is there love between brother and sister? Because I am my own brother, I don't need to turn against each other, just ignore each other. There is no reconciliation. I will always be a passer-by. I don't want to see you again in my next life.

Yes, I had the most painful experience. I used to treat my mother-in-law as a relative and lived under the same roof for 20 years. I have never disobeyed and tried to obey. With the most traditional virtue of China, I ask myself to be filial to my parents, to be caring and attentive, to have food and clothing, and not to sleep when I am sick. However, just because menstruation was unreasonable, my mother-in-law turned against me indiscriminately. My husband was moved by my efforts and had a quarrel with his mother for my injustice, but all the faults were mine. I woke up when I saw my mother-in-law who was once regarded as my own mother suddenly cold and indifferent to a trace of friendship. I never regret what I have done. Let me see that this is my blessing. Although my mother-in-law later knew that she had misunderstood me, I had no feeling in my heart, and there was no question of forgiveness. I just want to spend the rest of my life with my husband, but I feel sorry for her and don't want to embarrass her husband. The disappointment between relatives is because one party really treats it with heart, but sympathy has been replaced by hypocrisy. Only by staying away in time can we be sincere to ourselves.

First of all, we really need to face up to a social phenomenon. Now family conflicts are getting more and more serious. I am 60 years old and my peers sit together, especially when I was young. 90% of the topics are about my brothers and sisters! The content is basically the same version, and the legacy of my parents is that I contributed money and didn't fall behind in the end, so I am full of grievances!

We don't talk about the influence of social atmosphere on families and individuals. I think there are two issues that should be highly valued.

First of all, parents should instill the idea of self-reliance and self-improvement when their children are young. Brothers and sisters should help each other, but they should also settle accounts clearly. There is no debt of gratitude between brothers and sisters! Many people in our generation start their own businesses. Parents will ask their brothers and sisters to help them for free. Brothers and sisters are developed. If brothers and sisters don't know how to be grateful, or if brothers and sisters don't feel enough, this contradiction will arise. Things broke out as soon as their parents left!

The second thing is that parents should handle the inheritance well. Of course, this is on the premise of inheritance. I've heard too many stories about parents' bad inheritance and their children finally turning against each other.

Alas, this is the same root! There's a big fight! Go to court! Why are you in such a hurry to blow each other up?

First of all, I agree with my friend very much. It's true. Once relatives turn against each other, it is difficult to reconcile. Even if they make up, their relationship will not go back to the past.

There is an uncle in my hometown who is my father's cousin. My father used to be the captain of the production team. Seeing that my uncle has many children and his high school culture, let me be a cousin and an accountant in the production team.

Don't underestimate the accountant at that time, it was a role that many people envied.

Later, my cousin still didn't like the job and told his father that he wanted to be a soldier.

The next year, my father got his wish and sent my cousin into the melting pot of the army through his relationship.

It was good, too. If my mother hadn't meddled and thought those two relatives wanted to help my uncle's family, she would have been my cousin's matchmaker. Naturally, my uncle's family and my cousin are full of joy. The two families seem to be closer. You come and go and never stop. This should also be the closest and best time for our two families.

Then something happened that completely changed the relationship between our two families. This is my cousin who is a soldier and suddenly got promoted.

First, he wrote fewer and fewer letters to my cousin, and then he simply broke off contact. Later, my uncle couldn't hide it, so he went to our house and said that the child didn't want to.

For this, my cousin is very angry. She hates my mother a little. Up to now, decades have passed and she has rarely seen each other. It can be said that a media broke a relationship.

And my ungrateful cousin may feel sorry for my family after mixing, and rarely feel sorry for my family.

Now, although my family still keeps in touch with my cousin and my uncle's house, the relationship star has faded and there is no smell of relatives. Everything is just a face.

Perhaps, the result of my family is still good, and there are two more wars, and there is no contact from then on. Worse than passers-by.

For example, my father and his brother have always disliked each other because of the contradiction of family property when they were young. This led to a series of subsequent events.

Contradiction 1: When Grandpa died, Dad and his brother left me for treatment, hospitalization and burial, and basically spent all their savings.

Contradiction 2: the distribution of inheritance after death, because the eldest son has lived in his hometown for many years, to be honest, he has not taken care of the elderly, so most of them want a house.

Contradiction 3: Because my family doesn't live in my hometown, no one cares about my hometown's property, and basically regards it as their own reuse, encroaching on my family's land and so on.

So I think the contradiction between relatives will only get bigger and bigger.

I don't agree with this view!

That year, the war between my mother-in-law and me was quite fierce!

When my sister's children went to primary school, they just caught up with the first year's sunshine placement. For me, who has just set foot on the society, it is impossible to solve it. Later, the help was unsuccessful, and the child's enrollment was unsuccessful. This responsibility falls on me alone. My mother-in-law has a bad attitude towards me. My elder sister and my second sister have been speaking ill of me in her mother-in-law's ear. Later, my mother-in-law was successfully persuaded to start making trouble in my unit and my husband's unit, which had a great influence on us. Mother-in-law's abusive words made us completely disappointed in this family. Finally, our wedding date was postponed, and my husband took me away from home and never set foot in the house for six years.

This war is often quite long and has great influence. All my friends were harassed by my mother-in-law. Every time I see someone whispering, I feel that they are talking about our home, which also has a great influence on my spirit!

Six years after this incident, on Mother's Day, I took my husband home and apologized to my mother-in-law. Because there are parents and only unfilial children in the world, six years later, I resolutely took my husband home despite the opposition of my friends. My mother-in-law is incredibly warm to us and speaks well of me everywhere.

Up to now, my relationship with my mother-in-law is getting better and better, as close as mother and daughter. My mother-in-law cares about me everywhere and understands me. If it weren't for six years of pain, I might think that my previous unhappiness was a dream.

So I want to say that it is difficult for relatives to make up, but as long as they make up properly, they will eventually get closer!

The last sentence: No matter who you are or how high your position is, you should remember that there are parents in the world. Whether you are wrong or not, if there are problems and contradictions, it is our fault. There is no shame in bowing your head in front of your parents.

It's true. Some people are even worse than passers-by and become enemies.

Let me talk about my cousin and my uncle!

My cousin is my aunt's son and my cousin is my aunt's daughter. When I was a child, my aunt's family collected cotton. At that time, my uncle was busy collecting cotton, so I asked my cousin to help. I don't know how much my uncle gave my cousin. I only know that my cousin and my uncle's cousin were on good terms at that time.

I don't know where to start, rural people gradually went to work in other places, and my uncle's business of collecting cotton became worse and worse, so he stopped collecting cotton. Cousin can't help. After marriage, she and her cousin went to work in other places.

After uncle and cousin got married, there was nothing at home, so he and his aunt planted a few acres of land at home. Cousin and husband also went to work in other places. Not long after, my cousin called my uncle and said that it was very profitable to do business outside and let him make money.

My uncle thought that his daughter would not lie to herself, so he went. A few months later, my cousin called my cousin and told him that the business was really profitable and he asked my cousin to go. My cousin didn't believe me, so my uncle called my cousin together and told him how good it was and how to make money. Let my cousin go quickly, or he would miss the opportunity to make a lot of money.

My cousin took my sister-in-law to my uncle when he saw that both my uncle and my cousin said so. Less than three months after my cousin went, he called my eldest cousin and said that the business there was really profitable and asked him to go. When he heard that his cousin was making money there, he also took his first wife with him.

My uncle not only calls me cousin, but also calls me cousin to do business. They stayed there for about a year. Every time my elder sister-in-law calls to ask how my cousin's business is, she says it's fine. My elder sister-in-law asked what business they were doing. Cousin said she wanted to buy fruit and brought her a lot of fruit that she had never eaten.

My middle cousin's daughter is ill, and my cousin comes back once. I am thinner and darker than before, and I don't seem to have enough to eat. My elder sister-in-law wondered what business I was doing to make myself so hungry. Every time my aunt asks, my cousin says she is in the fruit business. Sister-in-law with a grain of salt, said business is not good, don't do it, or go out to work!

Cousin won't go back until her daughter is well. Before long, the big cousin and his wife came back. They are all sallow and emaciated. When they got home, they ate with cold steamed buns. It's time to eat all the vegetable juice. After dinner, neither my cousin nor his wife spoke. In the evening, they quarreled. My elder sister-in-law asked them what was going on. My sister-in-law is crying there, and my big cousin doesn't talk.

Finally, my wife said that the money-making business my cousin told them was not a business at all, but a pyramid scheme, and all their savings were put in. Cousin earned all the money, because cousin pulled the most heads, and she mixed small leaders there.

Moreover, my cousin took my big cousin in the past, and my big cousin took my big cousin's relatives in, layer by layer, and didn't make any money. They all quarreled with my big cousin, and my big cousin also pulled in. The point is that my cousin didn't make any money either. The most important thing is that my cousin went with my cousin. My cousin doesn't pull as many people as my cousin, but my cousin can make money and my cousin doesn't.

My cousin was very angry and went to my cousin for a theory. My cousin told my cousin at that time that the more people pull, the more money the people below pay, and they will make money. Cousin pulls many people, and the people below him pay more. Big cousin took out more than 30 thousand at a time, not including what was pulled behind. I don't quite understand the mechanism, because I didn't get the money, my cousin fought with my uncle and cousin.

At that time, I heard that both my cousin and her husband went to the hospital, but they didn't get the money back. After they all came back from there, their relationship was completely frozen.

Cousin and big cousin have a good relationship. After all, they are brothers. Cousins and their relatives are not so good. And cousin and cousin and uncle broke up completely. On holidays, my cousin doesn't go to my uncle's house to visit relatives, and my cousin doesn't go to my sister's house to visit relatives.

In June this year, Er Yi died of illness, and my cousin only took the gift, but no one came. Sister-in-law is also very embarrassed. One is a son and the other is a sister. She was also very helpless when they did this, so the relationship was so stiff, like cutting off contacts.

So whether you are a relative or a friend, no matter how good the relationship is, don't violate the following points:

1. Do not make currency exchange.

As the saying goes, brothers settle accounts clearly, let alone relatives and friends. Once there are economic exchanges, everyone's interests are involved. Everyone is selfish, and no one wants to suffer. Those who suffer will naturally take advantage, and those who suffer will not be stupid. Over time, contradictions will accumulate over time, and enemies will be inevitable.

2. Don't owe others a favor.

People often say that they would rather owe money than be human. You can still pay the money you owe, but the debt of gratitude is the hardest to pay, and you may find it hard to pay it all your life. Just like my big cousin, she dragged her aunt and cousin into the pyramid scheme dens, not only didn't make any money, but also lost all the money. Although her aunt and cousin didn't blame her big cousin on the surface, it was for her face. How do you repay this kindness? If people come to work for you in the future and you don't do it, people will resent you for life. Do you think it will be finished?

Don't pass the buck.

Whether you ask your relatives or friends to do something, whether you succeed or fail, you have an unshirkable responsibility to some extent, not to mention being tied to money. Therefore, when asking friends or relatives for help, you must think clearly. Just like my cousin, she has an unshirkable responsibility to bring my cousin into the MLM organization. Of course, my cousin can't resist the temptation, and she is also responsible. But my cousin quarreled with her cousin and fought with her husband because she brought her into the pyramid scheme den.

If my cousin hadn't been lured by money to do pyramid schemes, their relationship wouldn't have developed to this point. Whether you are a relative or a friend, you must be honest with each other when you get along, so that you can go for a long time.

The above is my opinion.