What do you think of introverts?

As a person who used to be extremely introverted, then overcorrected and turned to be extremely extroverted, talk about his mental journey.

Before I went to college, I was an extremely introverted person. How introverted am I? Born and raised in my hometown 18 years, no one has been to the city. I dare not take the bus alone, because I am afraid to communicate with the conductor which station I am going to, and I have to buy a few dollars' ticket. He has always been a marginal figure in his class, and his academic performance has always been the leader of the second echelon. He belongs to an ordinary person who can't be a bully but can get by.

Then the college entrance examination, inexplicably got the first place in the class and the third place in the whole region. Then I chose my hometown university three times, and was forced by the class teacher to change my wishes three times, forcing me to go to Shanghai to study at a university. The head teacher said that I advised him to stay because he was the second in our class, because he was active and lacked self-discipline, and it was not easy to control himself when he went to other places. But you are too introverted. You must go to Shanghai to open your eyes and the door to the world.

So I chose Shanghai, and inexplicably chose the law major. To tell the truth, I panicked at the thought of going to college at that time: how can I communicate with people in the canteen when I have to eat with so many people? Do I have to go to the big bathhouse to take a bath alone?

When I was a freshman, I thought about my life carefully. This is no good. How can a law student be introverted? I have to change.

So I forced myself to take part in various public activities, and I took part in community activities for the first time to give a speech on stage. In front of twenty or thirty people, my legs were shaking ... I joined the drama club to do logistics and see how people performed. Later, in a live performance of two or three thousand people, an actor had diarrhea temporarily, so he told me to go to the top of the venue half a day in advance, holding a script that I hadn't recited all morning, and the performance was a great success.

Later, I overcompensated, became talkative and chose a career of communicating with people all day. ...

A few years ago, I was sent to Africa for work reasons. During that time, I really realized the benefits of the combination of these two personalities, and it was also a good combination of people like me who were almost divided. I am lonely most of the time in Africa, and I have to face foreign customs and cultural conflicts alone; But you can't be alone. You should take the initiative to integrate into local life and make friends with local people, otherwise it will split the pain.

And I, when I am alone, enjoy the introverted part of my personality. I can go to the restaurant to eat, go shopping and travel alone, and I can be quiet all day. I also have many friends of different races, such as blacks, Egyptians, Indians, Moroccans and so on. , to participate in various bar parties. I'm really happy at the party, but I'm really comfortable when I'm alone. Everyone has their own interests.

After returning home, someone told me that it's good to travel to Tibet. Only by traveling to Tibet can you feel calm. I said Tibet is very good, but I can calm down even in Shanghai without going to Tibet. Enjoying inner peace depends not on where you are, but on where your heart is.

In fact, introverted people, the circle will be more curtilage. I used to be introverted myself, but I often didn't have many friends and people, and I didn't talk much at ordinary times. However, with the progress of the times, coming out of society and being too introverted will indeed have a certain impact on life. If it is a dead house, I can't help it. If not, come out to have dinner with friends and have fun. Being too introverted will lead to no topic to talk about, no friendship between friends and no new friends. Now out of society, extroverts can eat well, just like when studying, most extroverts live better than introverts. Therefore, as long as introverts are willing to change themselves, open their hearts and overcome their hearts, they will be better than now.

Personality is divided into extroversion and introversion. Extroverts are good at getting along with others more easily, while introverts are usually taciturn and not good at communication. Extroverts give people the feeling of being close, while introverts give people the feeling of being difficult to get along with. Being unsociable and not taking the initiative are the signs of introverts. In fact, personally, there is nothing wrong with being introverted and not taking the initiative. Everyone is different and has their own unique characteristics.

Introversion is not a bad thing. The charm of extroverts lies in their sociability and liveliness, because I feel comfortable with this shocking person. The world needs all kinds of colors, and demeaning yourself by demeaning another role will only expose your ugliness and incompetence. Let yourself see your own shortcomings, so that you can't know yourself correctly.

People around me never deny that I am an introverted person, and I don't talk much when I'm not sweet. For example, my sister, whose personality is very different from mine, is not only outgoing, but also super sweet and always makes my parents laugh. This is nothing to me, but I am afraid that whenever the word "Bi" is on holidays, I will wander among the elders and talk to them. This is relative to my reticence. I always wait for someone to ask me a question before I answer it. My parents always say, "Learn more from your sister and don't be a fool all day". But I don't want to deny that I also feel a little inferiority and anxiety for my introversion. This feeling shows how society should get along and talk with strangers.

I have tried to change this personality and become more talkative. When I first entered the university, I would take the initiative to greet and chat with new roommates and classmates in front of strange environments and strangers, and try to be active at parties. But after the results came out, I didn't feel very good and I didn't feel very happy. After smiling at everyone, looking at myself frowning in front of the mirror gave me an unprecedented strangeness. I lost myself in order to cater to others, so I decided to change back to myself. I don't like too noisy environment, I don't like parties, and it's very leisurely to walk alone on the path. I don't like to take the initiative to fight for anything, just silently improve my ability. Although I am introverted, it doesn't mean that I am a boring person. When you get along with people, you can still avoid inappropriate words and deeds and have a little humor. I used to worry about my inactivity and lack of friends. Over time, you will become indifferent and make few friends. It is enough to have two or three close friends around you. There are many friends, and how many really care about you? Getting along is not very important. What matters is whether you have studied and worked hard. If I want to throw you a problem, can you solve it perfectly? In short, for others, "usefulness" is the key. This will not occupy each other's precious time, but also improve work efficiency efficiently. In that case, why worry about not establishing friendship?

So, you don't need to worry about your personality. What you have to do is to make yourself excellent and become a useful person. At that time, the world you saw must be different.

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Introverts live in a human-sized "mouse ball". Really introverted people and just shy people, as long as the difference lies in the way to get energy.

Extroverts get energy from their surroundings. They can absorb other people's good "anger", so they need a lot of social interaction.

But introverts make their own energy. They don't get it in social situations, but give it.

This means that they naturally feel that most interpersonal relationships are laborious and need to set aside time to rest and recharge.

Because of their limited energy, it is easy for them to think that extroverts are annoying thieves who steal their beautiful energy. That's why they built private mouse balls.

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Just because a person is introverted doesn't mean that he doesn't like the company of others.

It's just that interpersonal communication is expensive for them and they don't want to spend their energy on annoying things.

Greeting, being polite and relaxing show that you are aware of their arrival and are willing.

It's important to make introverts feel welcome-they don't spend precious energy on people who don't want them around. If you have some interesting/important news to say, just say it.

Then go on doing your thing.

Now introverts know that you are friendly and sociable, but you won't force others to spend energy unless necessary.

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Respect personal space

Hello, I'm glad to answer your question. What do you think of introverted personality? In the world, personality can be divided into four types: peaceful, powerful, perfect and lively. As for personality, understanding personality and finding that other people's personality is actually very easy to get along with, so is introverted personality, just need to respect each other.

First of all, let's talk about a peaceful and lively personality. Peaceful personality is what we often call introverted personality. Being shy and taciturn in public, it is difficult to find a topic. It is difficult for a peaceful character to blend into a perfect and powerful character, which is exactly the opposite of a lively character and just complements a peaceful and lively character. Marriage or partner is also the best. Why do you say that? Everyone knows that he is the focus in public, and he always wants someone to talk to, and he also wants someone to be his audience, so he can make jokes at any time. This is a lively character.

For example, one of my colleagues, because of his personality, belongs to introverted personality, which is what I just said. He has no ideas in his work, never puts forward any opinions at the meeting, is not good at expressing, and has never refuted. Since he joined the company, he has been following other people's arrangements to ensure that the arranged things are completed. Even if he works overtime, he will work hard and never say anything negative. This is an introverted and peaceful person.

People with strong personality are suitable for leadership. Just listen to his opinion at any time, and always say something to listen to me. People with perfect personalities have quick mood swings. They can study everything clearly from high point to low point. Without sufficient research, they can ignore people for a week, do things realistically in their work, and pursue perfection in everything until they are satisfied.

I hope I can understand you better this time.

I think introversion is just a person's character. There's nothing wrong with that. Introversion is good, extroversion is bad. From a purely personality point of view. There is only difference, and there is nothing bad. But I prefer extroversion. In this world, people who eat and drink are extroverts.

And for loneliness. Introverts must be lonely. Not sociable, socializing is a problem. So introverts tend to have fewer friends. So I am lonely. This is also a disadvantage of introverts. So I prefer extroversion.

But in fact, extroverts are often lonely. I am a good example. I am usually talkative and good at expressing myself. There are also many friends around. It is also very open every day. But my heart is lonely. Because there are many friends and many words. It is happy outside. My heart is always full of dissatisfaction. So it's lonely.

Loneliness is a normal state of people now, which has nothing to do with introversion. Of course, introverts may be more lonely. Because the feelings in my heart can only be placed in my heart, and I never express anything to others. Therefore, no one will understand him, so relatively speaking, introverts are more lonely.

I usually meet introverts, and I prefer to chat with them more. No one is naturally introverted. It's just that I have developed this character since I was a child. As a result, I am not very good at expressing myself. Chatting with them more will still be of great help to them. When he gradually trusts you, he is more willing to express himself with you. I slowly learned how to express it. And if you express more, you will.

Hello, I'm glad to answer your question. What do you think of introverts?

In interpersonal communication, there is a seemingly casual but important link, that is, greeting. Saying something that caters to each other and compliments each other not only sets off the atmosphere, but also narrows the psychological distance between them.

For some people, this is a natural thing, but for others, it is much more difficult to do it.

For example, for introverts, the last thing they like is social greetings and pandering. Therefore, in the eyes of others, they always seem a little distant, even cold. In this way, when they associate with others, especially unfamiliar people, it will cause some embarrassment or trouble.

So how should an introverted person look at this problem?

Introverts usually have longer brain circuits. Introverts will seriously add their own feelings and ideas when processing information.

Introverts have a lower level of arousal than extroverts, so introverts are more susceptible to overstimulation.

Introverts' brains are energy-saving brains. They can get satisfaction and energy by reading, thinking deeply and exploring their inner world.

Introverts' brains rarely get intense pleasure through gambling or risky behavior. They are not as excited as extroverts when faced with surprises or adventures.

Introverts actually have a lot of self-talk, and they have a lot of ideas in their heads-but they don't say them.

Introverts' energy points inward. They are more interested in their inner world and prefer to be quiet and alone.

For them, too much external stimulation will be a kind of interference, which will make them unable to immerse themselves in their inner world, which is a kind of consumption for them. Therefore, once they participate in social activities for a long time, they will feel tired and need a quiet place to relax and regain their energy.

Therefore, introversion and social fear are not the same thing. Social fear is fear of interacting with others, while introverts are not afraid. They just don't like to have too much interaction with people.

According to the principle of "make the best use of things and discard them", people always dislike contact with others, which will inevitably lead to the lack of interpersonal skills.

So the biggest problem that introverts encounter is that they are not good at speaking and expressing.

This will lead to some frustration in their communication with others, so they are even more reluctant to communicate with others.

I hope this answer can help you!

Introverted personality gives people the feeling of indifference, inaccessibility and a sense of distance.

In fact, introverts themselves are not necessarily indifferent or even enthusiastic.

However, the feeling of performance reflects a person's characteristics.

In today's society, we all show ourselves to others. How can others know themselves if they don't show themselves to others?

Therefore, introverts should have more contact with extroverts, which will make them easier to accept, have a good impression, understand, have more natural opportunities, facilitate communication and be happy.

Introverts usually have longer brain circuits. Introverts will seriously add their own feelings and ideas when processing information.

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Introverts' brains rarely get intense pleasure through gambling or risky behavior. They are not as excited as extroverts when faced with surprises or adventures.

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Introverts' brains are energy-saving brains. They can get satisfaction and energy by reading, thinking deeply and exploring their inner world.

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Introverts have a lower level of arousal than extroverts, so introverts are more susceptible to overstimulation.

Introverts usually have longer brain circuits. Introverts will seriously add their own feelings and ideas when processing information.

Introverts have a lower level of arousal than extroverts, so introverts are more susceptible to overstimulation.

Introverts' brains are energy-saving brains. They can get satisfaction and energy by reading, thinking deeply and exploring their inner world.

Introverts' brains rarely get intense pleasure through gambling or risky behavior. They are not as excited as extroverts when faced with surprises or adventures.

Introverts actually have a lot of self-talk, and they have a lot of ideas in their heads-but they don't say them.