If your parents are the people who hurt you the most, how will you treat them when they are old?

I insist that you raise me a little and I will raise you old. Parents are the closest people in the world. It is not easy for them to bring us into this world. No matter what they have done and hurt us before, we don't need to care about them, especially when they are old and weak and need our care. Then we should put aside the past, assume this obligation and responsibility for their old age, and give them enough support and material support. Let them have a sense of security and happiness. This is the filial piety and obligation that our younger generation should do, not tit for tat. I will give you what you have done to me and do something that I will regret when I get old.

The kindness of parents is as deep as the sea. There is no eternal hatred, only gratitude. Without them, there would be your present? When parents reach their old age, of course, they should fulfill their children's obligations, not abandon them. The law has civilized rules!

Don't say it's your parents, even if others hurt you, you can't be jealous for life. Forgive if you should.

Parents are the ones who gave birth to you and raised you. He can't be completely wrong with his children. He may have some inappropriate behavior or words that hurt your heart, or he may have been deeply hurt. But to err is human, and this sentence still applies to parents.

The child has grown up, his wings are hard and he can do it. But from the attitude towards parents, we can see the quality. When parents are old and need support and care, some children pass the buck. But they are hypocritical, and they don't directly shirk it. They just say how their parents have wronged them before. There is such a man in our village who suffered a little injury to his arm. It is said that his parents didn't take good care of him when he was a child and didn't treat him in time, leaving behind sequelae. Now my parents are old and need support. He told his parents directly: life or death. In another case, the mother was fractured and needed the care of her daughter. Her daughter said that you only loved your son when you were a child. Let your son look after you.

In fact, our ancestors had this experience long ago, so there is a saying: inherit the wind. Because your parents are old, you will be unfilial if you go to him again.

No one is perfect, and gold is not enough. Forgive your parents' shortcomings, and you will be raised with great pains. No matter what faults your parents have, you should be grateful for their parenting. When your parents are old, you should be filial and don't take care of them. This is also a gesture of goodwill.

Personally, I don't think that being a parent will do too much harm to children. If possible, just say it with your mouth, don't take it seriously, and hold a grudge. What can you thank your parents for their kindness? As the old saying goes, the world is not as kind as parents, and there is no reason not to be grateful. When you are old, you will respect them.

A: When you meet such a father, you can only blame yourself for your bad life. Although I am full of reluctance to control them. But I really don't care, and I can't stand the accusations of people who don't know the truth in society. They only blame you for your childhood sufferings. So, when you were young, you never felt the warmth of your parents. You must take care of them when they are old. This is a moral kidnapping. You can't accept it.

No parents in the world will hurt their children, so I think the question raised by the Lord is only your own heart, and the fact does not exist.

My parents raised me since I was a child, and my adoptive parents are old. This sentence will never be out of date. If there were no parents, there would be no me now. Even if my parents hurt me before, maybe I was not sensible and made my parents sad.

Now that my parents are old and unable to work, I will still honor them. No matter how my parents treated me before, I won't hold a grudge against them. Because people are not sages, to err is human.

I will hate them in my heart, but I can't do it in action. After all, the kindness of parenting is as deep as the sea, and a hundred reluctant people should also be filial.

Because there is no other choice.

Filial piety is the first of all virtues, which is the traditional virtue of our country. When parents are old, we have the obligation to support them. No matter how unbearable their practices are in our eyes, we should have an inclusive heart, because parents are not commodities, and we can throw them away if we don't like them. If this is the case with my parents, I will still be filial to them and let them enjoy family happiness. Parents will have a home here, but brothers and sisters will not.

I have read most netizens' replies, and most of them are "wrong", "unhealthy" and "unfilial".

That's right, and that's not right.

For our traditional culture, this is the case, everyone is like this, so individuals should be like this.

Often ignore the personal psychological feelings.

Now that society has progressed, filial piety does not necessarily need to be obedient.

Parents are human beings, with limitations and human evil. When you became a parent, people suddenly became arrogant?

As parents, there is no need to wear a halo.

Being a parent means that the role of parents is impeccable?

We also watch the news. It's turned upside down, and there are still fewer old people who make young couples divorce or even fight?

Individuals don't need to pay attention to their own pain and feelings?

Of course, I don't mean remembering old injuries, but hating your parents, regardless.

In fact, each of us can split ourselves into a thorn in a free and powerful life by complaining about our parents from the beginning and facing up to their shortcomings.

The friend of the subject was very sad and resigned, feeling sorry for himself and being swallowed up by parents and social pressure.

Therefore, she is unhappy and can't find a way out.

I suggest that the best path is:

1. Don't bargain any more (if only they had been like that ...), (if I had been like that, would my parents have been nicer to me ...);

2. It is really bad to face up to the anger behind sadness and accept parents (unlike most parents);

3. Accept that you really care about the pain your parents have brought you: not only do you care, but it is normal for you to be dissatisfied, angry, complaining, sad and wronged;

4. Accept the fact that they are parents: they are parents, but they are not doing well, which is not your fault;

5. Reorganize your own trauma and life, face up to their influence on your life character and even major choices, and stop self-attack: I am not good enough, so they don't want to love me well; Stop complaining about fate;

6. Re-establish your confidence and desire to control your life: This has nothing to do with how much money you earn and how many recognized achievements you have in society, but you believe that you are an independent individual, and everyone is born equal and valuable.

Even if you only washed a few clothes today, it's your choice. You believe you have a good life.

7. Reduce the emotional kidnapping of parents and find your own position: you are an individual first, and then their daughter.

Do what you should do and don't listen to other people's advice.

It is difficult for people to express themselves when they are alive, which requires understanding and practice.