Where does the phrase "promoting rice's kindness and fighting against rice's hatred" come from?

The source of the original saying about Sheng Mi En Dou Mi Qiu is a short story: ?

Once upon a time, there were two families who were neighbors, one of which was relatively wealthy. One year, natural disaster caused no harvest in the fields. The poor family had no harvest and could only wait to die. The rich family had a lot of food, so they sent a liter of rice to the poor family, which saved the family.

The poor family is very grateful to the savior! After surviving the most difficult moments, the poor went to thank the rich. While talking, they mentioned that the seeds for next year had not yet been harvested. The rich family said generously: Well, I still have a lot of food here. You can take another bucket. The poor man was grateful and went home with a bucket of rice.

After returning home, my family asked, what can I do with this rice? There is simply not enough seeds for the fields next year. They are going too far. Since they are so rich, they should give us more food! This word reached the ears of the rich man, and he was very angry, thinking, I gave you so much food for nothing, but not only did you not thank me, you also hated me as an enemy. As a result, the two families, who were originally on good terms, became enemies and never interacted with each other until death.

This is the saying of "promoting rice's kindness and fighting rice's hatred".

During the Three Kingdoms period, there was a woman named Zhao Ji in the State of Wu. Before her daughter got married, she said: "When you get to your husband's house, you must not do good things." The daughter was puzzled and asked her mother: "Don't you If you ask me to do good things, can I do bad things?" The mother immediately said seriously: "I can't do good things, let alone bad things!"

What Zhao Ji said is very complicated, and I won't go into details here. Analysis, one of the meanings is that it is not impossible to do good things, but the fear is that others will get used to you doing this, and even think that you should do this by nature.

This is often the case in life. When you help someone out of kindness, the first time you help him, he will be grateful to you. The second time, his gratitude will fade away. After N times, he simply believes that this is what you should do for him. Even when there is no such help, he will feel resentful towards you. As the saying goes, kindness breeds resentment.

We all know that being a human being requires loyalty, and we also understand the principle that "a drop of water's kindness will be repaid by a spring of spring." So when a friend who has helped us with all his heart leaves us, we may be depressed and confused. The explanation: Although I don’t want anything in return, things shouldn’t be like this. What kind of truth is this? And have we ourselves become indifferent to other people’s kindness because we accepted someone else’s “peck of rice”? :

The starting point of doing anything is good and beneficial to society, which is called "kindness", and the process requires careful thinking, profound knowledge and flexible application, combined with practical practices that are practical and effective, called wisdom combination Together, they are called "kind and wise.

Kindness is when those capable people correct their wrong practices after thinking and make everything beautiful and harmonious

Reference: Kindness -Baidu Encyclopedia