What salutes are there?

What are the salutations? As we all know, when we communicate with each other, politeness should be dominant. When we talk to people, the first thing should be the title. So do you know what address etiquette is? Let's take a look at what address etiquette is!

What are the salutations? 1 You can't call yourself "sir/madam."

"hello! I am Mr. Li "and" I am Miss Zhang "... This statement is wrong.

As a door-to-door salesman, he calls himself this, which shows that he doesn't even have the minimum professional quality; As a college student who participated in a job interview, he called himself this way, which shows that he lacks practical experience and the ability to treat people. As an actor or host, claiming himself in public shows that he is seriously narcissistic and hypocritical.

China people have always pursued a polite attitude and addressed themselves as "sir" or "miss", which obviously violates the traditional etiquette.

Tips:

In front of elders, relatives and friends, you can call yourself by your first name or nickname.

When introducing yourself to strangers or strangers who communicate by telephone, you should call yourself by your full name or your last name, such as "My name is Li".

When the other party is the boss or superior leader, you should call your full name and job description, such as "My name is XXX, and I am the person in charge of XXX".

Don't address others casually in informal situations.

Talking to others in informal situations is not without pressure.

Calling a waitress a "chick" will be regarded as insulting and flirting by the other party; Calling friends of the opposite sex by their special nicknames will inevitably make them think that you are up to something. Calling young women "Miss" in areas where "Miss" is regarded as a symbol of some bad occupation, and calling same-sex strangers "Comrade" in areas where "Comrade" is synonymous with homosexuality, the other party will feel angry and annoyed.

From your address to others, others will examine your quality and education, judge your respect for others, and even judge your interpersonal relationship from your address. Using address forms without thinking can easily lead to misunderstanding and bring you unexpected trouble.

Tips:

Before addressing others, you should first understand the local customs and consider the relationship between yourself and the addressed person.

When addressing colleagues, friends, neighbors and acquaintances, you can call them by their first names, or by their first names without their surnames, or by their surnames.

When addressing strangers in public, address them according to their age and gender, such as "lady", "gentleman", "young man", "old man" and "aunt".

Address others appropriately in the workplace.

It is impolite to use inappropriate address in the workplace. When I first entered the workplace, I followed others to call my colleague "Xiao Wang". In fact, he is two years older than you, and his qualifications are very old. Your "unsolicited" address will definitely make the other party unhappy. At the company summary meeting, it is disrespectful to call Director Wang by his private name, and it is also disrespectful to your situation. When a colleague changes departments, you still call him by his original position. If he is promoted, he will think you are jealous of him. If the other person is demoted, he will think you are being sarcastic.

From this perspective, addressing others in the workplace is not only based on one's own experience, but also can satisfy the other party and everyone. You must comprehensively consider your identity, length of service, relationship with others and other aspects to avoid making mistakes.

Tips:

In formal occasions, surnames can be matched according to the position of the other party, such as "a professor" and "a director". In special formal occasions, the full name and position of the other party should be matched.

In units with specific address habits, people should address each other according to the agreement, such as calling each other by their first names in some foreign companies.

Don't call your colleagues by their nicknames, and you can't use them if they are indecent or ridiculous.

Use proper address when talking to others.

It is impolite to talk to others without any address, whether to acquaintances or strangers.

Don't call him, just use your eyes and actions to tell others that you are calling him. A cultured person will think that you are embarrassed or afraid of making mistakes and won't care about you. People with strong self-esteem or vanity will think that you look down on him and secretly blame you. Want to ask a stranger for help, suddenly walk over and say what you think directly. The other person will be shocked at first, then unhappy with your recklessness and then unwilling to help.

Address does not take up a few words, but it contains one person's affirmation and minimum respect for another person's identity. As long as you talk to someone, you can't omit the address.

Tips:

At any time, before talking to others for any reason, be sure to address them politely according to their status.

Don't use "hey" to address strangers or acquaintances.

Don't call other people's physical defects "fat", "pockmarked face" and "thin hair".

What salutes are there? 2. Distinguish between honorific words and modest words.

The Book of Rites says, "All philosophers have a sense of inferiority and respect others." "Humble" here means humility. The principles of self-modesty and respect for others run through almost all etiquette, and the most concentrated expression in addressing is respect and modesty.

The ancients used many honorifics, and a very important source of honorifics is to regard the official title of the other party as a title. For example, "Jun" originally meant the son of heaven, the king of a country. Later, people called the head of the family "Jia Jun" and "Fu Jun", called the late father "Xian Jun" and the wife called her husband "Fu Jun". "Jun" was widely used as a title, and later even became a second person pronoun to show respect. In ancient times, princes became "public", and later the system of five-grade marquis disappeared, but "public" became a commonly used honorific title. In addition, in the Spring and Autumn Period, all sons except the eldest son of princes were called "sons", and later people also called the children of important people "sons". "Qing" was originally a title, and later it was used as a respectful title. "Qing" can also be used to match couples. Today, people often say that men and women are very much in love with each other because "Qing" is often the name of people who love each other.

In ancient times, there was also a common way to show respect, that is, adding a beautiful word before the title, such as adding the word "ling". Creating a beautiful day means creating a beautiful day. In Yili, beautiful days are called "creating a day" and "creating a day". The word "Ling" is widely used in addressing, such as calling the other person's father "your father", calling the other person's mother "your mother" and so on, and addressing the rest of the relatives as "your uncle", "your brother", "your brother" and "your sister". The same is true for the younger generation of the other party, such as calling the son of the other party "your son", "your daughter" and "your daughter". Some people add the word "xian" before the title, such as calling the couple "xian couple" and calling the father and son "xian".

All the honorifics mentioned above are for each other. If you are involved in a greeting or conversation, you must use modesty. Modesty is a kind of appellation system opposite to honorific words, and its use is a low-key and not arrogant performance. When we mention our parents to others, we should use polite names, usually adding the word "home" before the title, such as calling our father "my father", "my husband" and "my family" and calling our mother "my mother" and "my family". If your parents are dead, you should call them "my father" and "my mother" when you mention them to others. Other relatives call themselves Jia Bo, Jia Yi, Jia Shu, Jia Shu, Jia Xiong, Jia Sao and Sister. The "home" and "shed" here have their own meanings, so we must not gild the lily and say "my dad". You can add the word "silly" when addressing yourself, such as "silly brother".

Respect and modesty cannot be confused, but must be strictly grasped. A student sent a text message to his classmate saying that he was "shocked to learn that his father died unfortunately", which means that he sent a text message to others to express his condolences after his father died. When someone asks you "your surname", if you answer "your surname is Li", you will also make jokes. "Your surname" means flattery and admiration, so you can't take it seriously and think that your surname is noble. As most friends know, on this occasion, we should say "free of charge, surnamed Li".

Modern people can't distinguish between honorific address and modest address, which is mainly reflected in the address of spouse. When people introduce the relationship between husband and wife to others, the appellations used can be said to be varied. "Husband" and "wife" are all common names. It doesn't matter if you call at home or in the neighborhood, but it's best to change it on a formal occasion. You must not have seen the report in the newspaper that "a president of a country visits a country with his wife" and "a female prime minister of a country visits Beijing with her husband"? "Madam" is one of the oldest spouse appellations in China, but it can only be used for the other party. "Madam" was originally used to refer to the spouse of a vassal. Many people don't understand this truth. When introducing your spouse to others, you say "this is my wife" and inadvertently regard yourself as a vassal, which is very arrogant. Addressing each other's spouse as "madam", "your wife" and "daughter-in-law" can show respect, and they all mean admiration and compliment. However, everyone should be flexible and not rigid. Close the door at home, and there will be only husband and wife. The wife calls her husband an "official" and her husband calls her a "wife". They respect each other. Of course, you can also use your respectful name.

Is it high or not?

On some occasions, we should follow the principle of "high is not low" when addressing each other. Working in the unit, as long as we are colleagues of the same generation, although some people may be a little younger, we can all call each other "brothers" out of respect.

In addition, although everyone's identity and position will be different, it is the need of division of labor, not the distinction between high and low, so when greeting different staff, don't deliberately emphasize everyone's identity. For example, school staff, whether young or old, whether administrators or librarians, can be called teachers because they all serve teaching. Similarly, in hospitals, there are doctors who see a doctor, as well as staff in pharmacies and laboratories, and their division of labor is different. Some people call the staff of pharmacies and laboratories "masters", which is very inappropriate. Actually, just call them "doctors".

These are two principles that we should pay special attention to when addressing others in our daily life. Some friends will ask: "If you don't know each other and don't know his occupation, how should you address each other?" When we encounter this situation, we can at least have two choices:

One is to address the other person as "sir". No matter how old the other person is or how high or low his position is, it will not be rude to use such a title. Many people think that Mr. is a title for men, which is also a misunderstanding. Both men and women can actually be called "sir".

The other is called seniority. For example, when we ask a stranger the way, we can refer to the age of our family and call each other "uncle", "aunt", "uncle" and "aunt". Although there is no blood relationship between passers-by, we can get along like our own relatives. "All men are brothers within the four seas" is a famous saying in The Analects of Confucius, which reflects the Confucian idea of "one country under the sun".