How to educate children?

Some parents think that "jade is not a tool" and "it is not easy for children to become talents without beating and cursing". Therefore, whenever a child makes a mistake, it is not a calm reason, but a slap in the face. Treating children rudely like this will not only make them realize their mistakes, but also leave a shadow in their hearts, and their personality will easily become extreme.

Set an example.

Children can see what parents say and do. Their imitation ability is very strong, and empty preaching is far less influential than actual action. Isn't there such a public service advertisement? The mother washed his grandmother's feet, and the younger son saw it and learned to wash his mother's feet.

Similarly, "fish begins to stink at the head", if the parents behave badly, it is hard to say that the educated children are not copies of failure. It can be seen that the words and deeds of adults are really important.

Attach importance to the role of emotions

Different emotions have different effects on people's psychology. Positive emotions make people happy, confident and comfortable; Negative emotions make people depressed, lack self-confidence and depressed. Similarly, different emotions have different effects on parents' psychology and behavior.

Positive emotions can inspire parents to take the initiative to understand their children in a loving way, care about their growth, and educate and cultivate their children in a democratic and scientific way, thus making the parent-child relationship closely coordinated and the family atmosphere harmonious and warm. Parents should attach importance to the role of their emotions in family education, strive to cultivate and maintain positive emotions, and overcome and eliminate negative emotions.

Adults should agree.

Sometimes parents need to communicate, agree on the same thing and have a unified attitude. You are forbidden to gossip. You play the white face and I play the red face. Don't scold each other in front of the children. Otherwise, children often can't agree and don't know who to listen to. Over time, the status and prestige of adults in children's minds will disappear, and it will be more difficult to discipline children.

Don't stifle children's interest.

Learning is important, but interest is the source of stimulating children's creativity. What society needs now is not a reading machine, but an all-round generalist. Therefore, if the child shows a certain hobby, don't interfere, but encourage him, maybe this will become a skill of the child.

You might as well let the child answer if you nag.

Sometimes parents will tell their children something several times, especially mothers, for fear that their children will not understand and do what they want. This is what people often say. For most children, the last thing they want to hear and dislike is their parents' nagging. The more unwilling they are to listen, the more worried their parents are. On the contrary, double nagging, which has become a vicious circle.

Parents often feel sad and worried: "Is nagging bad for children?" "You don't tell them how to be sensible!" It seems that only by endlessly telling children one truth after another is the best family education method.

When nagging, try a new method: turn nagging into asking questions. When you find a problem, turn what you want to say into asking a question and let the children speak. Maybe children speak better and more vividly than their parents. Don't put on airs when asking questions, be sincere and enthusiastic, and listen carefully to the children's answers.