"Don't always cry to me about poverty, I won't ask you to borrow money"

Article/Twelve

The classmate group has been chatting hotly recently, talking about all kinds of interesting things in school. Every time I open my phone, there are thousands of messages. After they finished talking about the past, they talked about the present. Most of them complained about life. There were many female classmates getting married, so the topic naturally couldn't be separated from the children.

There is a female classmate who has been complaining about being tired of raising children, having a bad mother-in-law, marrying a poor husband, etc. These three sentences are inseparable from poverty and lack of money. Her family's conditions are not bad, but she feels that she is not in a good position to marry now. Not only does she have no money, but she also does not have a car or a house. She lives in an old house in a remote countryside with inconvenient transportation and poor water quality. Her mother-in-law and aunt are not nice to her. The only thing is that her husband is supportive of her. OK At first, her classmates would comfort her, saying, don't worry so much if he treats you well. You are living a pretty good life now. You have children in a big city and you don't live with them. She came to complain that life was tiring, her children were disobedient, she couldn't work, she couldn't make money, this was expensive, that was expensive, and she didn't have money for anything. Naturally, the more people listened, the less people responded.

When she couldn’t remember how many times she complained, another female classmate asked her not to be negative all day, okay? It’s not easy for anyone. Why are you crying in front of us every day? I won’t ask you to borrow money. A few classmates agreed and jokingly said, yes, your life is quite comfortable and you have a good husband. After that, I didn’t complain anymore. I just talked about raising children in the group.

Yes, in fact, we often meet people like this in life. They can't live without money. They have to live on instant noodles. Life is very hard. In my circle of friends, I eat gorgeous food, travel when I have time, and spend every day either shopping for clothes or shopping on Taobao. It’s really hard to see how poor you are. It’s understandable if you say you don’t have enough money to buy a house or a car, but it’s incomprehensible if you still cry and can’t afford to eat when your salary exceeds that of most people. It's okay to occasionally complain to good friends. After all, things are not cheap now. I don't think it's necessary to complain to everyone. Others don't care, and friends will be annoyed if they hear too much.

Q had a friend before. When chatting with Q, he always complained about life. At first, Q always sympathized with all the things she said, but every time he chatted, it was the same. Tired. Every time we chat, we inevitably talk about being poor. Q said that your salary should be pretty good. You still have a husband to support you and there are no burdens on your family. Your life should be pretty good. Her answer was that my husband’s money is not for me, and I have to support two people with my salary. Q thought that it was really not easy to live like this, so he just said that if he had any difficulties, he would help as much as he could. So every time he went out, Q would basically foot the bill, thinking that good friends wouldn't care so much. But when it appeared in her circle of friends that she went on a trip with her husband, had a big meal together, and still had money for plastic surgery, Q felt a little uncomfortable. Thinking about it, I won't let you buy me anything, and I won't borrow money from you. It doesn't matter if you let me know that your life is good.

In life, we don’t always have to cry about poverty. If we tell others, there are still few people who can help you. In the end, we have to rely on ourselves. If we talk too much, we will bring negative energy to others. Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you. Everyone has his own difficulties. We should be full of happiness and bring positive energy to make the not-so-good days less difficult to pass!