What do you want to say about school bullying?

Thanks to the "Zhongguancun Second Small Bullying Incident", we know a new term. It used to be called "school violence", but now it is called "bullying" in line with international standards.

Bullying refers to an aggressive behavior, which will cause physical and psychological troubles to others and will appear repeatedly for a period of time. From the victim's point of view, this kind of behavior is often unprovoked. Bullies may hurt their victims for no reason (batsche &; Knoff， 1994).

Experts say that bullying has two characteristics: First, there is power inequality between the bully and the victim. For example, bullies will use their physical strength, or seize the other person's handle, or their popularity to control or hurt each other. Secondly, bullying will happen again. It doesn't just appear once, but it may appear again.

I heard that my daughter's school sent a questionnaire to investigate whether students have been bullied. The campus incident in Beijing, the capital, is a good thing, regardless of whether the outcome will be reversed or not. At least it will attract the attention of schools, education departments and even the whole society in remote areas.

The school sends a questionnaire to the children to make it clear that the school will manage bullying and let the children know that you should not be bullied and that you should not bully others.

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I believe in the saying "Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes". The word "Jianghu" comes out with blood. I believe Xiong Haizi, who is in his eighties and nineties, is not enlightened, good or bad, and is violent. For example, you obviously like a girl, but you tie her hair to a chair like a prank and stuff caterpillars or things that girls are afraid of into their desk holes and schoolbags. My daughter once said that some boys in her class love to rummage through girls' schoolbags and yell at them when they see menstrual towels and the like. ...

I instructed her: if a boy rummages through your schoolbag like this, hit her in the face! He won't dare next time. I believe that most parents will educate their children like this now-if someone hits you, you have to fight back hard!

They may not be bad in nature, but they are not sensible. They just broke down for a while. They are just "annoying" and not even bullying, but they may really bring trouble or even pain to another child.

The most important lesson in my life is-don't bully others, but never be bullied.

I transferred from the countryside to the city in the second grade of primary school. When I was eight or nine years old, I really experienced loneliness, being bullied, witnessing or indirectly participating in "violence" against a female classmate. The female classmate surnamed Guo, who sits in the last row of the classroom all the year round, is almost the penultimate in every exam. Her father is a soldier, works in the army and has many children at home. She is the one in the middle, and her family doesn't seem to care much about her.

The students just isolated her because of her poor grades, and some teachers were extremely sarcastic in class. Once she made a mistake, and the multiplication formula 25 10 was made into "25 18". The math teacher looked disgusted and said, "You are so stupid!" 25 18! 25 18, stealing watermelons! "At one time, every time after class, boys were used to looking for trouble, deliberately littering her schoolbag or notebook in the classroom, as if to make her angry, shouting" 25 18, stealing watermelons ... "

The girl's appearance has been blurred in my memory, but this nonsense has been remembered until now. At that time, the army and the armed forces were separated all the way, and the two sides of the road were separated. I often meet her on my way to and from school, but I have never played with her. "Non-violence is unfriendly." Although I am "new here", I stand opposite her consciously. She dropped out of school before finishing primary school. I heard that her family often recruited her ... I don't know what kind of life she has lived since then. But because of the topic of bullying, I thought of her. Because it is said that in North American countries, "beating and scolding classmates is not only bullying, but even snubbing classmates."

Bullying the past is, is and will be. If Ma Jiajue's classmates didn't always bully him, laugh at him and even pee on his quilt, he might not have killed him. It is said that the only surviving classmate in that dormitory is the one who poured Ma Jiajue a cup of hot water to warm him up when he was ill.

It is one's duty not to bully others. Not bullying others can save your life at a critical time, and not being bullied by others requires a firm stand and the wisdom of being a man.

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In the bullying incident in Zhongguancun, I wrote, "Every mother and son are friends of life and death. I want to accompany him to say no to school bullying! My mother must have turned to the internet in despair. Imagine, under the premise that educational resources are so scarce, which parent is willing to put himself in such an opposite position?

"All for the children. Everything is for children. " It is a slogan that we often see.

From 65438+February 8, the mother's article detonated the Internet, and to 65438+February 10, Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School issued a short statement, and public opinion was dissatisfied with "Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School". It is believed that "neither actively explain the ins and outs of bullying to the public, nor withdraw provocative foreign statements with an attitude of admitting mistakes."

At present, Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School has characterized the incident as "non-bullying" and accidental, which is not enough to conclude that the behavior of the two children has constituted "bullying" or "violence" on campus. ? "The attitude of the leaders of Zhongguancun No.2 Middle School, this attitude of" great love "and" tolerance ",is really gratifying, which also shows that upgrading the educational concept has a long way to go!

In North America, families, schools and society have zero tolerance for school bullying. Since kindergarten, the school has repeatedly emphasized students' correct behavior norms. During school, there was no contact between classmates. If a child doesn't study well, the school generally won't look for parents, but if the child misbehaves, such as being unfriendly to his classmates, taking the initiative to touch his classmates and saying unkind things. The school will definitely write a notice to parents and make an appointment with them. In primary school, students knew what bullying was. Beating and scolding classmates is not only bullying, but also ignoring classmates. For example, two children are playing a game, and the third child asks to join. If the game is not played by only two people, then the third child must not be rejected, otherwise it is bullying. Once a student complains that he is being bullied, the principal and teachers will attach great importance to it and will investigate, handle and interview the parents of the bullied students. The results may not meet the requirements of the parents of the victims, but the school will never let the parents of the victims settle things.

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I asked Jason, "What if you are the parents of that child and something like this happens?"

Brush your mobile phone while perfunctory: come back!

You hit other people's children?

Don't his parents think it doesn't matter if the school admits it or not? I'll educate him ... (Hehe) See if he dares? !

If your child's judgment on bullying is correct, it is natural not to believe it. If your child is accused of bullying other children, it is normal for you not to believe. )

I met a parent whose child was often bullied. She once said that she dreamed of killing people and blowing up that school. God knows what a weak woman she is, of course, just talking. The final solution is to "catch the thief first and win the king first". The child's uncle stepped forward and threatened Xiong Haizi, a bully, with the gesture of "fighting violence with violence".

Many times, children's fights don't need too much intervention from adults. Once there are frequent attacks and "crossing the border" behaviors such as holding garbage baskets, you must tell your children, teachers or parents at the first time. Among them, parents are preferred. Take the primary schools in this city as an example. There are as many as seventy or eighty students in a class. The head teacher really can't take care of every student.

Just like zero tolerance for domestic violence, I support zero tolerance for school bullying, and I support parents to stand by and watch their children.

What I am worried about is, with such twists and turns, how should the child who was detained in the toilet paper basket in Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School go to school in the future? Perhaps for him, psychological construction is more important than school exams! the end

A sensational bullying case of female students studying abroad in China.

PS: In the case of female students studying abroad in China, the final result was that three principals were sentenced to 6 years, 10 years, 13 years. From 2065438 to April 2005, all states in the United States passed anti-bullying laws. The bill stipulates that even verbal threats are regarded as bullying; If the circumstances are serious, be expelled; Some recidivist students with bad behavior, regardless of whether they are over 18 years old, will be investigated for criminal responsibility.

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