What is it like to have a mom who is very lazy and does all sorts of things?

Pitiful, hateful, and helpless.

My aunt is such a person. She used to be a well-known lazy woman in our village. Since she gave birth to her three sons, she has not worked in the fields. Because of her work, her two younger sons are still single when they are over forty. Let’s talk about the things she has done that make people speechless!

Under normal circumstances, the mother is the one who gives the most and the one who has the greatest influence on her children.

My three cousins ??were born in the late 1970s and early 1980s. A few years ago after they were born, my great-uncle was still alive. At that time, he was the old branch secretary of the village, and the living conditions at home were still poor. Not bad. He particularly favored sons over daughters. His eldest aunt gave birth to three boys in a row, and his uncle also valued her very much. Anything delicious will be delivered to my aunt’s house as soon as possible. My eldest aunt was very high-spirited at that time, wandering from one house to another all day long, not cleaning up the house or looking after the children, and blaming everything on her mother-in-law. At that time, my great-aunt built the first building in the village for her family. However, although the house was good, it was also notorious for being dirty and messy. Others laughed at her for only cleaning the Bodhisattva and not the temple. She dressed up beautifully when she went out. The house is always a mess. The stove in the kitchen is always gray, the bed in the bedroom is always piled with clothes, and the main room is also a mess, piled with various farm tools, fertilizers, etc. Coupled with the cowardly nature of her uncle, he couldn't control her at all and was too lazy to control her, so she went further and further down this dirty and messy road.

In comparison, my uncle’s other daughter-in-law gave birth to three daughters, and her treatment was completely different. At that time, I had a third child in order to have a son. Although the child was still a daughter, my uncle lost his iron rice bowl as a people's teacher. In the eyes of my aunt, not only did she have three daughters in a row, but her husband also lost his job, and my aunt was even more disliked by my uncle. At the same time, she was often ridiculed by her eldest aunt: They said that having a son depends on fate, whoever can give birth to a son has a good fate, and if he does not have a son, it means he has done immoral things in his previous life, etc.

My aunt has a good temper and doesn't care about her. At that time, my aunt's family did not build a new house without the help of my aunt, and they still lived in an old house made of mud bricks. However, she always swept the dirt floor clean, without a trace of dust, and the windows were kept clear. She said that a house is about people living in it, and people who love life will be the same wherever they live. Moreover, you can earn a good life by yourself. As long as you work hard, your life will only get better and better.

After the eldest aunt's house was built, my great-aunt died of a sudden illness a few years ago. Without my great-aunt's regular support, the living standard of my aunt's family plummeted. Neighbors discussed that her great-uncle often subsidized them during her lifetime, so she should have a lot of savings, but the result was unexpected: she didn't save enough at all. It turns out that this uncle's mother usually only spends money, does not save money, and does not know how to settle accounts. Soon after she lost her support, her life began to be stretched. At that time, several of my cousins ??had already started to go to school. There were five people in the family, and the expenses were not small. Moreover, only the uncle was busy doing farm work, so he could not make much money throughout the year. When I was a kid, I saw these cousins ??eating soy sauce bibimbap and chopped chili bibimbap. They looked very delicious, but after I tried them once, I never wanted to eat them a second time.

Occasionally, in order to eat meat, they would catch mice or snakes to eat. Even so, the aunt did not care about them. What was she doing at this time? She is working hard to practice her poker skills. She has never done farm work before and always wants to take shortcuts to see if she can make a fortune. Novices need to pay tuition to play cards. She always loses for a long time. She always comforts herself that she will win next time. If she wins, she can buy more clothes for her children and more meat to eat. But the fact is just the opposite. Families that were not already well-off are even worse. My cousin grew up quickly. After he finished elementary school, he stopped going to school because he couldn't afford the tuition. He was slender and thin and went to the fields to do farm work with his uncle. It is said that children from poor families become masters early. From then on, my cousin and uncle agreed that he would manage the family's income and expenses. As for my aunt, I would only give her some pocket money every month, whether she lost or won at cards. , don’t want to worry about her and let her take care of herself.

Despite this, the second and third eldest children in their family only attended junior high school and were forced to drop out and go out to work. Until now, the three sons are old, have no education, and have no ability. Moreover, working outside is no longer popular and they have to return to their hometown to farm. Among the three of them, only the most diligent cousin is married and has children. The other two are over forty and are still single. If the current situation continues, it is very likely that they will die alone. At that time, the eldest aunt said that studying was useless and it was better to go out and make money early. She directly asked the two younger sons to drop out of school and go to work. It was really a trick for the sons and there was no discussion. In fact, it's not that the two sons have never dated each other, but that there is a deceiving mother who is holding them back and sabotaging their relationship.

If a mother is sensible, her children will also be considerate and have a high happiness index.

The youngest cousin once had a girlfriend from out of town when he was young. The girl was seven months pregnant when she was brought home. At that time, the girl only asked for a bride price of 5,000 yuan and nothing else. However, the eldest aunt thought that the girl had such a big belly and was not a local. She had come all the way here and had no other choice but to get married, so she was unwilling to give it. Gift money. Unexpectedly, the girl was so angry that she went directly to the township hospital to induce labor. After the induction, she went back to her hometown and lost contact with her little cousin. It was only then that the eldest aunt panicked, her intestines were full of regrets, and the whole thing developed beyond her expectations. Moreover, the result of the induced labor was a boy. Because of her actions, the wife who was born ran away and her grandson was gone. Because of this, everyone in the village looked down upon her, saying behind her back that she had gone too far and would suffer retribution in the future.

If the mother is restrained and steady, then her children will be willing to live a down-to-earth life.

The second cousin’s personality is the same as that of my eldest aunt, he doesn’t want to make progress and is lazy. When I was young, I often worked for a month and then took a month off. I would go back to work when there was no rice to cook. Now that he is getting older and factories outside are no longer accepting jobs, he returns to his hometown to take on odd jobs, but it is still the same as before, three days fishing and two days drying nets. In his words, instead of having children, one person has enough to eat and the whole family is not hungry. They can just sit back and wait for the subsistence allowance in the future, and there is no need to live so hard.

The three sons they were once so proud of were not living a good life. He is filial but has no power, but his ability to make money is there and he seldom spends money for his parents. Later, their uncle and aunt died of cancer. They just went to the hospital for a checkup, found out the results, and then went home to wait for that day to come. I wonder if at this moment, the eldest aunt regrets what she did?

If a mother is prepared and enterprising, then her children will be optimistic and cheerful, and face life positively.

On the other hand, the situation of my aunt's family is completely different. Because she gave birth to a daughter, her child will work in the countryside like her in the future. So she encouraged the children to study hard. As long as they were willing to learn, she would give them everything they wanted. Her three children also lived up to her expectations and were admitted to good universities. Now, the three daughters have all bought houses in big cities and have transcended social classes through their own efforts. I come back to visit the old couple when I have time. I buy the new fruits no matter how expensive they are. In order to improve their parents' living conditions, the three sisters jointly spent money to build a very beautiful villa in their hometown. For a time, the little aunt and the others became the envy of everyone in the village.

A few years ago, my uncle was diagnosed with cancer. During the treatment, the sisters took turns taking care of him in the hospital. Later, the doctor said that continued treatment was useless, so he went home to recuperate. After their father passed away, the daughters were worried that their mother would be too lonely living alone at home, so they all tried to let their mother live with them. The eldest aunt was not used to living in the city, so she returned to her old house soon. The younger daughter, whose father was laid off due to a birth accident, chose to return to the countryside to start a business in order to accompany her. At the same time, she also took the local civil service exam and successfully landed. She said that filial piety does not distinguish between men and women, and daughters can be treated as sons.

When a family’s material wealth is always used up, only spiritual wealth is truly eternal and determines a person’s width, breadth and dimension. The bigger the mother's pattern, the brighter the child's future will be, and naturally the closer she will be to happiness.