It feels unfilial for a mother to hurt her son.

1. It is often said that water flows downwards, especially the elderly in China, who treat their children with care. In China's traditional concept, his son is the person who carries on the family line, so he tries his best to treat his son and wants to give everything.

Recently, I heard from several families that the old people are selfless and hardworking, but their children are ungrateful and find ways to make the old people unhappy. (I have heard that several families have a disharmonious relationship between parents and their sons and daughters-in-law, so the scope of comments is limited to this kind of parent-child relationship. Don't look at things with colored glasses. )

One of them is a friend with her for many years. She has a brother, and her parents seem to have a preference for sons over daughters. Of course, this is not to say that parents are not good to her, but that parents really regard their son as their responsibility. Even if his son has a family and lives independently, he will still take care of everything.

For example, when a son is married, even though the daughter-in-law never likes the old couple, including being hospitalized, she doesn't even show her face. Of course, the son will only take symbolic care if he has to, and he still has to go home before 10 because he is worried that his wife can't manage his son alone.

For another example, children are brought up by grandparents since childhood, but it is the responsibility of grandparents to send their children to primary school. If the responsibility is enough, the old man will help, but pick up the children in the morning. No matter how cold it is, windy and rainy, old people can't enter the house. Old people can only wait at the bottom of the building, and then send their children to school. Even if I was not entertained, the old man gritted his teeth and waited under the floor willingly with tears in his eyes!

There are also elderly people, that is, ordinary workers, who live on pensions. But the son and daughter-in-law secretly bought a house and paid off the loan. When they have finished buying, the responsibility for repaying the loan will fall on the old people. Every month, the elderly must first ensure that the loan is returned to their sons and daughters-in-law, and then they will consider living by themselves.

In such an environment, children are also spoiled to grow up. When they come to their grandparents' home and see anything good, they will become his family. If you like something, you have to take it home, always saying, that's my thing! Obviously, I was taught by my parents!

More than once, I have heard my friend tell these things that she hates and is not ashamed of with indignant eyes.

I once asked her: in this case, your parents can not help them pick up and drop off their children, or they can not help them repay their loans. I think if you really don't want to do it, your brother and sister-in-law should have no way to force them to do it with that pistol against your parents' heads!

My friend was startled for a few seconds, and then said, my parents are willing to do it! But my brother and sister-in-law have gone too far!

I said, "Since Zhou Yu is beating Huang Gai, one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer, what can you say? Why does your mother always complain to you? " !

My friend also said helplessly, but my mother can't even speak, so she won't get sick!

I shook my head: no way. These old people are like this. They can give their son anything, but no matter how unfilial or bad the son is, it is a treasure (I never say that other people's wives are bad. If a son is unfilial first, he blames his wife. And if the son is filial and persistent, the daughter-in-law will not be so arrogant in most cases, unless the woman just wants to live on purpose! Don't interrupt this parent-child relationship again, and don't be indignant. Don't give money to your parents at most in the future. Buy them more things that they can only use, such as clothes! (The girl gives money, no matter how much money, it will eventually flow to her son and daughter-in-law, and the old man will not use it on himself. But they can't give the old man's clothes to his son and daughter-in-law.

Another time, I saw a netizen's talk post saying that my parents were working for my brother's family, and I was too tired to be hospitalized, and my brother and sister didn't care. Her parents have been hospitalized several times, and she is the only one to take care of them, cooking and delivering meals, and even the children can't take care of them well. Husband didn't understand her and even got angry.

But her mother, when her father was in hospital a while ago, ran to her brother's house. Why? She said that her brother had run out of rice and had to buy it for them, otherwise they would have no rice to eat. And this netizen probably swallowed it with tears in her eyes: because the rice she just sent to her parents used up the last bit of rice at home. My parents are in the hospital and my daughter is taking care of them, but what they really care about and think about is their beloved son and his family. Even the sons and daughters-in-law don't care about them at all, and blame them for being sick and unable to do housework to take care of the children, leaving them to do things at home!

Moreover, I saw many people leave messages and even accused the husband of netizens of not being considerate and open-minded. I finally could not help but reply:

The content of my reply is to the effect that it is human nature for my husband not to understand or even get angry. Put yourself in others' shoes. Your husband's parents never care about your family, never take care of your children, and never worry about you. But for my other child, work hard and struggle hard. However, for another child, parents are tired or angry. The people they care about, love and pay don't care about them, but they ask your spouse to take care of them, and even ask you to pay selflessly for another person close to you. You said that in this case, you can't allow any unhappiness in your heart!

In my opinion, the husband is just unhappy. If he wants to change, it is estimated that most women will quarrel with their husbands. Do as you would be done by. Even if you are willing in this case, you can't ask your spouse to be as willing as you are. After all, your spouse has never had that kind of relationship with your parents for more than ten or twenty years!

Of course, the daughter must be distressed by her parents. However, if we really analyze the behavior of those unfilial sons, it really has something to do with those unprincipled parents who indulge their sons!

To put it bluntly, the root of these sons' unfilial lies in these parents. Such a child without filial piety and responsibility is not used to being a parent!

Therefore, I quite agree with one sentence: there must be something suspicious about the poor!

Reading a good article touched me and made me realize the ups and downs of the protagonist's life. ......

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It's raining in Mao Mao outside the window, facing the cold computer, reading the article "Unfilial Son". When I first saw this topic, I really wanted to see how unfilial my son was in the article, but I didn't know until the end that my son was unfilial because he loved his parents and also for his father's medical expenses. ...

The article Unfilial Son tells the story of a son whose father was terminally ill, and the burden of the whole family fell on him. Their family has been doctors for generations, but when their son asked the hospital for reimbursement, the hospital said that he was financially tight and did not agree to reimbursement. So the son made money at all costs to pay his father's medical expenses. Making money takes up most of my son's time and rarely sees his father, which is considered unfilial by his mother. He didn't try anything because he was afraid that his mother would be sad. ...

After reading this article, I was moved by my son's actions and felt sorry for him. What I did was not supported by my mother, but was misunderstood by her and even resented by her.

Looking back at today's children, their parents are around, but they complain about this every day, making them angry and venting to their parents. In fact, we should be filial to our parents and make them less angry, so that their parents will stay with us longer.

In the article, my son's mobile phone rang at the memorial service, because he owed more than 300 thousand to others and had to leave. As soon as the funeral was over, he told his mother that he was going on a trip. Her mother cried with a "wow" when she knew it, and said, "How could I give birth to an unfilial son like you with a knife ..." At this time, what his son did must have puzzled many people, and even thought he was unfilial. But I think the saddest thing in my heart at this time must be my son, because he doesn't want to leave, and he doesn't want to be called unfilial, but he has to do it for his parents. ...

In a word, reading this article has benefited me a lot and made me understand how to better face my parents in my later life. ......

Whether this son is filial depends on his parents' education methods, but he does not deny the influence of social atmosphere. Therefore, emotions and education should be changed.