How to gracefully refuse a blind date arranged at home?

Under normal circumstances, as long as there is no object after graduating from college, the family will think about arranging a blind date for you. This is already very common. It is still difficult to refuse the request of the blind date at home, but also elegant.

First, change jobs in another city. This is not to say that in order not to stay away from parents, this usually happens in third-and fourth-tier cities or counties. Of course, children are allowed to go on blind dates everywhere, but the ages in different cities are different. Many people who didn't study in the county may get married at the age of 20, while some people in big cities may change to work in a city when they are still studying or just graduated from college at the age of 25, for example, to work in a first-tier city.

Second, continue to increase your academic qualifications. I found that no matter what age, as long as I drop out of school, I will be called to a blind date by my family if I have nothing to do. For example, in rural areas, you will stop studying after graduating from junior high school, and many people will get married soon. This is mostly the result of blind date. If you are about 24 years old after graduating from college, and start to urge love and marriage, and arrange blind dates at home, then you can consider going to graduate school at this time. Usually people who study don't arrange blind dates at home.

Third, communicate your thoughts with your parents. I always agree that some things are better said in person. Communicate with your parents about your career planning, life planning and marriage planning, and say when you want to get married and why you don't want to get married. Generally speaking, there are several reasons why parents arrange blind dates and want their children to get married. For example, they are all married at the age of 24, and the children are not married at the age of 28. People around will talk about it, and parents' faces are not good-looking. Some hope that their children will get married as soon as possible, while others hope to have grandchildren as soon as possible. No matter what the reason is, we should communicate well with our parents, make some appropriate answers according to each other's questions and express our views, because respecting our parents is the most important thing about blind date, and relatives and friends around us introduce blind date, visible or invisible.

But for these reasons, in fact, I prefer to refuse blind date in other ways.

First, someone introduced the blind date, accepted it completely, and then added the other person's WeChat to carefully check the other person's circle of friends and lifestyle values. And then I stopped contacting (it doesn't matter whether I contacted or not, mainly because I didn't refuse the blind date). After that, relatives and friends will follow you up, and you will say that it is inappropriate or what, and then you will follow up there, and there will say that there is no contact. After a long time, many people will not introduce you.

Second, it shows that blind date is acceptable, but when friends or relatives ask what labels to label you, they must raise the standards, such as no loan in the garage, such as the values of looks, and then put forward some standards that can better restrict the other party's requirements, such as that the other party's immediate family members cannot divorce (I have used this method before, meaning that divorce will affect the values of people around them) or must have religious beliefs. This limits some people, so there must be very few blind date people. Of course, don't set your expectations too high, so others will think you are too fake.

Third, find someone.