If you can't change others, just change your own words [share]

If you can't change others, you can change your own judgment. If you want to change things, you must first change yourself. Only by changing yourself can we change the world.

2. To change yourself is to change your shortcomings, and to change yourself is to change your backward side! Facing the future life, we should have the courage and determination to change ourselves. With these, our life will always be full of vitality!

Be true to yourself and don't change yourself for anyone. If you can't accept the worst me, then you don't deserve the best me. ...

Two years ago, I wouldn't believe that I was trying to change my face and do something I didn't care about. The change was just to better stand by and meet better people.

I love you not because of who you are, but because you happen to be my type. I want to marry you, not because you are from there, but because you are you. I love you, you don't need to change yourself. You always say you are thinner, you know, I just like your slimness. A lot of love is unreasonable, but we have been in love for a while, so please cherish me and ourselves! If one day, I no longer love each other, I will live well until I meet the right person again!

6. For you, I tried to change myself in the direction you want, and as a result, I lost my soul; For you, I actively face the reality and seriously give you the life you want, but my running pace can't keep up with your imagination; For you, I have hurt myself countless times, and countless desperate hearts have turned you into inertia pain in my heart ... I don't want to struggle any more, I really want to stop, just to touch the wound and give myself a little warmth.

7. Changing yourself for one person is meaningless to that person.

8. Changing yourself does not mean losing yourself, giving up the principle of being a man and changing your advantages. Only by removing your own bad things can you keep it better. Only when you know what is constant can you find out what you need to change.

9. Nature is a great school for cultivating the mind. Don't forget my favorite proverb: "Nature is always beautiful." [France] Rodin's Rodin's Art Theory, p. 73.

10. Study hard for China! A pack of China cigarettes is a lot of money.

1 1. Change your laziness, get rid of your bad habits, and slowly you will find that your changes have made life much smoother. Good morning!

12. If things have come true and you can't change them, then you should learn to be patient and wait until the time is right to create success.

13. Life is actually a process of choice. If a person chooses to succeed every time, what he gets will be failure forever.

14. The body is your own, health is your own, and discomfort is also your own. Don't eat whatever you want.

15. People who don't work hard are not qualified to ask the world to give you anything.

16. The years are neither short nor short. Although you never know the accident or who will come first tomorrow, everything is worth paying and waiting for the flowers to bloom.

17. I believe that God is testing me, and I will definitely redouble my efforts.

18. Our love had an accident, and I am trying to save it.

19. Many times, when the world around us and the surrounding environment are not satisfactory, many people tend to take a confrontational or passive attitude, which can only lead to more loss and retrogression.

20. As long as you can stick to lofty ideals and have the will to never stop until you reach your goal, you can generate amazing power.

If you can't change others, just change your own words. As long as you are a person who tries to change yourself, there will be no regrets in our life!

22. Changing ideas, habits and lifestyles will often create infinite scenery!

We used to do a lot of things impulsively, but now we don't, not because we don't want to do anything, but because we start to be afraid. The more you grow up, the more fragile and cautious you are. Perhaps, at that time, we all lost our courage.

24. Changing yourself will be painful, but not changing yourself will be bitter.

25. I have been working hard for that aimless result.

26. Youth is capital, but any effort is worthless.

27. People who can make good use of their time can master the direction of their own efforts.

28. As long as you work hard enough, nothing is impossible to change.

29. I only try to bloom when the gentle moon comes out.

30. Life is beautiful only when it comes out, and it is not brilliant when it comes out; Life has no beginning once and for all, and there is no irreversible end. Even if everything is lost, there is no reason to despair as long as there is breath. We may not be able to change the environment, but we can change ourselves; You can't change the past, but you can grasp the present; You can't do everything smoothly, but you can do everything wholeheartedly; You can't choose your appearance, but you can show your smile.

3 1. If you can't change the world, change yourself.

32. The poor will be stingy, and being stingy will benefit the poor. Rich people will be generous, and generosity will make money.

33. The strong is not necessarily the winner, but the winner must be the strong.

34. Men and women, you should all have a good life. Try to be happy.

35. I have tried, but I can only be fulfilled by fate.

36. Determination is the beginning of success.

The harder you work, the better your luck will be. Luck is always hidden in your efforts.

38. Women, like flowers, should strive to bloom gracefully and wither gracefully.

39. The starting point of life is not so important, but where you can finally reach. There are too many people smiling at you in this world. There are too few people who really tolerate you. How I wish someone could tell me that you don't have to change yourself, I just need to get used to you.

40. Don't ask others to change for you, because you are not qualified to ask others, all you can do is change yourself!

It is better to change yourself than to complain about others. You can't change others, you can only change yourself.

Don't waste your energy expecting to change others. The only thing you can do is to change yourself. When you want to change others, have you ever thought that others need to change?

Don't waste time expecting others to be different.

Author: Onado

The only thing that can change is you.

Look at your life honestly and write down the names of the people you want to change now, your colleagues, your life partners, your family, your friends, your boss and a bank manager. Then, look back on your life and think about how many times you have to multiply to calculate the total number of people you want to change.

Think about how many hours, days, weeks and months you have spent in your life trying to change others for this, only to get disappointment and sadness. Because no one has changed, no one has been changed as you expected. If you add up these days, it may be several years. Have you ever wasted precious time in your life to change someone?

The only thing that can change is yourself! Let's see what happens when we join this popular pastime with the same interest as others.

Think of a person who has overwhelmed you recently, close your eyes and recall the scene at that time, feel that you have returned to that time, recall your place and all the details, recall your feelings at that moment, and relive the feelings you once had, even if you didn't notice the change at that time.

Remember that situation and pay attention to the changes in your body: feel the tension and tightness it brings to you, probably in your stomach, your neck and shoulders, your forehead, your mouth and around your eyes. Check your breathing. Is it relaxed or tight and shallow?

Don't judge yourself by what you see, just write them down. Ask yourself: Is this a pleasant feeling? Can it nourish me? Is it good for my health? Does it make me feel open or shrinking, warm or cold, hard or soft? Would I want my good friend to feel the same way?

Go through that situation again and see how you hurt yourself when you ask others to change.

You hurt others, too. You embarrassed them. Then the other side began to resist. Even if they know that you are right, they will fight to the end to protect their dignity and face. Asking them to give in is asking them to play the role of children, being told that you know more than them, that you know exactly what they need or what they should do, and I will never allow this to happen.

Experience tells you that the more you try to change others, the more others resist you, which forms a vicious circle, and then both of you feel worse.

So, trying to change others is like hitting your head against the wall.

Anyway, ask yourself, is it really my responsibility to change others? Respect them like this? What kind of answer will you get?

Your mind will make a reasonable explanation: it's for their own good: they can't see the bad effects of their own problems on themselves and others: that's why they can make progress, and so on.

But your intuition, your feelings, knew something was wrong. Who are you to judge others? Do you feel superior? Are you perfect yourself?

Behind the conflict is the injured self.

Let's look at these facts:

This man has his own unconscious reasons for becoming what he is now. Perhaps their unconscious behavior angered you, but that kind of reaction belongs to you, coming from your unsatisfied need to be loved, respected and accepted, or unrealistic expectations.

Look at the list you want from others to make you happy. Is it all related to your need to be loved, accepted and respected?

They are your own needs, but you unrealistically want others to understand and satisfy them. The fact is that others can't meet your needs. Is it really their job to meet your needs?

They have their own unconscious reasons, not personal reasons. You don't know their life experiences, how they were treated when they were young, what unconscious beliefs they carried, how they protected themselves from harm, and learned to hide their love needs with tough armor.

You can continue to blame them and project your unrealistic expectations on them, hoping that they will become people who are not them. Or, you can use more wisdom in this situation.

Behind the conflict with others is the injured self.

As long as you understand this, you will have a chance to see yourself clearly and ask yourself: Why should I insist on changing this person?

If you are honest with yourself, you will see that behind all your rationalization, there is a wounded self telling others that you ignore me, don't respect me, don't like me, don't love me and don't accept me. Something like that.

This is a self who can't feel love, appreciate and be accepted behind our conflicts with others. If you can recognize yourself, you can also recognize others. And consciousness is a panacea to solve all conflicts.

What does this mean? When we feel that we are not respected and accepted, we will take drastic or negative revenge, whether it is direct verbal abuse or indirect sabotage. Revenge creates a vicious circle of conflict, which often gets out of control.

If you can understand the reasons why you react to others and what changes you expect them to make, then you will know what responsibilities you have to take for yourself and you will get more favorable choices.

Give yourself more respect and appreciation as a start, because if you really appreciate and accept yourself, can other people's reactions to you still affect you? Do you still need to rely so much on others' obedience to affirm yourself? Think deeply.

If you realize that your inner unconsciousness leads to your reaction to others, and you are eager to be recognized, accepted and loved, then there will be a power within you to stop this self-struggle. You realize that the revenge made by your injured self is actually childish and ridiculous. Knowing this can reassure you. You put it down! This understanding also makes you humble and makes you return to yourself, body and mind.

Go back to yourself and give you a chance to see how people are driven by their own unconscious. What kind of life and experience constitute how they were treated as children; What kind of faith they carry to themselves and their strong desire for love.

By connecting with your own desire and pain for acceptance, you can connect with the other person's desire and pain for acceptance, which opens the way for a brand-new communication quality.

If you can't change the world, change your own feelings (40 highlights)

If you can't change the world, change your own feelings. Sentence (1) 1. Life is like a painting, there should be more bright colors and less gloomy tones.

This will be our new starting point, not the end.

If you don't work hard now, why are you chasing me?

Genius, in essence, is just a kind of love for career and overwork.

5. Changing yourself requires a persistent attitude. It's not that I changed a little today, and I will go back tomorrow. I have made a little progress this month and will start to be lazy next month. If so, you will never change yourself, and you will always stand still.

6. What many people lack is not the method, but the determination. It's useless to say anything when a person hasn't completely changed his mind.

7. Don't complain about any day in your life. Good days bring you happiness, bad days bring you experience, and bad days bring you lessons.

8. People's abilities are limited, but their efforts are limitless.

9. The strong is not necessarily the winner, but the winner must be the strong.

10. Many times, when the world around us and the surrounding environment are not satisfactory, many people tend to take a confrontational or passive attitude, which will only bring more loss and retrogression.

1 1. The smile you tried to squeeze out was said to be careless.

12. A slave is not a slave if he doesn't work hard. People are slaves if they don't work hard.

13. Commodities have a shelf life, and people sometimes get tired of looking at them. How long can you be awesome in my heart?

14. People who don't work hard are not qualified to ask the world to give you anything.

15. I'm afraid you took my chance before I worked hard.

16. I wouldn't believe it two years ago. Now I'm trying to change my face, doing things I don't care about, and changing, just to better stand side by side with you and meet better people.

17. Changing oneself needs a correct value, so as not to deviate from the track and point out the direction for the goal you pursue. We must have the courage to face the injustice and setbacks in the world and grasp the rhythm of the heart with a good mood, so that we will not sink and get excited.

18. A person can only do one thing at a time. Only by grasping the key points can he become a real talent.

19. Sometimes we fall down not because the ground is uneven, but because we stumble too much.

20. There is no road in life in vain, and every step counts.

If you can't change the world, change your own feelings (Part II) 2 1. Time has two different faces: one is the fairest and kindest face of the strong, and the other is the most selfish and inhuman face of the coward.

22. The so-called genius is deceptive, and hard work is true.

23. Do good and do evil.

24. I work hard because I hope that the epitaph after death can be engraved with self-confidence: work hard all my life, be loved all my life, have everything I want, and put down everything I can't get.

25. Xuan must clearly show your concern for him in a short sentence.

26. Don't worship genius. Smart people only admire knowledge and hard work.

27. If you decide to give up, just give up cleanly and don't drag your feet; Those who decide never to see each other again really don't.

28. What is the mission of love? What do we love? Such problems have puzzled countless people for thousands of years. In fact, true love is to live a better and happier life for the people you love, and true love is to have no regrets even if you give your life for the people you love.

29. Life is like a book, with birth as the cover and return as the back cover. You must fill in the contents yourself.

Only by loving what you do can you achieve great things. If you don't find what you like, keep looking.

3 1. Success is because you never give up. If you give up, how can you succeed?

32. Each of us has advantages, more or less, deep or shallow, but all of them will be revealed inadvertently. We just need to start with our flash and consolidate it in depth, which may even surprise you!

Remind yourself from time to time, constantly change yourself, adjust yourself, and face everything with a positive attitude. Only in this way can you constantly improve yourself, seize opportunities, show yourself and develop yourself in a happy life.

34. It is meaningless for one person to change himself.

I just don't want to make you unhappy, so can you choose to stay with me?

36. Distance is the trajectory of life. Only by grasping the direction of the rudder and following the instructions of the beacon light will it not collide with the reef beach.

37. I don't care if you fall, I only care if you stand up.

Don't worry, if you don't work hard, everything will be fine.

39. Don't change yourself to cater to others!

40. I change myself unconsciously with the people I meet. This is not affectation, this is my survival instinct.

Change yourself to change others.

Maybe God wants you to meet many wrong people before you meet the right one, so when this happens, you will be thankful. 2. If betrayal is a kind of courage, it takes more courage to accept betrayal. The former only needs to be brave enough, or it may just be impulsive, while the latter tests tolerance, not as simple as impulsive, but only takes time.

3, live fish will swim against the current, and dead fish will drift with the current.

4. If a person is not infected by bad habits, happiness is around.

People who don't respect themselves will be humiliated. Don't worry about the elders, please. Those who are not complacent benefit. Those who are not self-sufficient are well informed.

6. Don't waste your life where you will regret it.

7. You may only be a person in this world, but for some people, you are the world.

8. Know its cause and effect, that is, know its advance and retreat. If you know Buddhism, you will get pistachios.

9. Only by knowing yourself, surrendering yourself and changing yourself can we change others.