How can we handle the relationship between good people? In practice, talk about specific feelings.

Sichuan Shuangliu Art and Sports Middle School is under construction in Bangbang.

To respect students, we must first understand them. For senior high school students, most of them are between 15 and 19. During this period, their world outlook and outlook on life have been formed, their self-awareness is close to maturity, and their independence and consciousness have reached a high level. Great changes in the external environment, especially since the reform and opening up, unprecedented ideological emancipation, the rapid development of market economy and the increasingly fierce sense of competition, have had a profound impact on contemporary middle school students. After entering high school, their study life is different from that of junior high school. Their rich knowledge and broad horizons make them more "mature" and have a stronger sense of self and independence. High school students in this period are particularly eager to get the understanding and respect of others, especially teachers.

Any educational activity is two-way. We should realize that only by respecting students can teachers win the respect of students; Only when students respect teachers can teachers' educational activities be fruitful. The two are closely related, so we can't just emphasize one aspect. As teachers, we shoulder the two themes of teaching and educating people, which play an important guiding role in the growth and development of students. Everything we say and do will directly affect their future study and life and even the development of the whole life path. Therefore, in the process of education and teaching practice, we should earnestly implement respect education and win the respect and love of students with our feelings.

First, respect students' personality.

Teachers should first respect students' personality. Teachers have the right to manage and educate students and to shape students according to the purpose of socialist education, but they should be equal to students in personality.

Teachers should not regard themselves as "superior" to students, but always show an unfathomable and awe-inspiring style in front of students. Experiencing the so-called "dignity" is love for students. Teachers should not be condescending "approachable", but love their friends from the heart. This expression of love is both meticulous and unconscious.

In class, in the face of students' greetings, it is not a courtesy nod, but a deep bow full of sincere gratitude; Climate change, when we feel cold or hot, naturally we are eager to remind students to "put on more clothes" or move an electric fan and sprinkle a basin of cold water to help cool down; The Mid-Autumn Festival is coming. The cadres of the kindergarten committee buy some sweets and snacks that students like to eat and give them to every boarder. In the spare time after class, comment and even argue with students about the direction of the Iraq war launched by the United States and the hegemony of the NBA championship finals; Allow arguments, personal opinions, carry forward the democratic style of class and class management, treat students with different opinions calmly instead of taking their own words as the golden rule, and even invite students to have face-to-face debates, dare to admit their shortcomings and deficiencies, and tell him your true thoughts with practical actions; Criticism of students' mistakes and shortcomings, under the premise of not hitting students' self-esteem and self-confidence, rewards and punishments are clear, lenient and moderate. At the same time, try to restrain your emotions, tolerate students and give them a chance to defend themselves; Encourage students to set lofty goals in life, make continuous efforts to make progress with a healthy attitude, and strive to correct their own shortcomings and deficiencies. ...

In a sense, the true dignity of teachers does not come from our personal subjective feelings, but from students' affirmation of our noble morality, profound knowledge and emotional attachment. When we pretend to be dignified, even at the expense of students' dignity in exchange for our own dignity, students will not buy our account at all, but will only cast a cold eye on us; When we "ignore" our dignity, strive for noble morality, excellent education and sincere feelings, and always pay attention to safeguarding students' dignity and respecting their personality, students will dedicate their love and respect to us, and a monument to teachers' dignity will be set up in students' hearts. It should be noted that senior high school students can fully understand the meaning of personality and the importance of respecting personality. Therefore, teachers should pay special attention to respecting students' personality, which is also the basic requirement of teachers' morality.

Second, respect the feelings of students.

Young students often attach great importance to their feelings. If they hurt their feelings intentionally or unintentionally, they will stab each other's hearts. So students especially like teachers who respect their feelings. Puppy love among middle school students is one of the most troublesome problems for class teachers, so teachers are particularly sensitive and concerned about the subtle relationship between boys and girls.

When I was a class teacher in Class 4, Grade 2005, at the beginning, I heard some teachers say that Zuo Moumou in your class had a close relationship with Huang Moumou in a class before, so we should pay attention to it. At that time, I thought, as a new class teacher, I can't talk to students about this sensitive issue without any basis until I observe it.

After a while, I found this girl in my class and a boy in the next class walking and chatting together intentionally or unintentionally. On one occasion, two people saw me and hurried away. Later, I found that the girl in our class was uncomfortable when she saw me. I think it is necessary to break the deadlock. But I didn't talk to her directly about the relationship between boys and girls, but asked her about her study, work and family (the student is a child of a single-parent family) and asked her what suggestions and ideas she had for the new class. Perhaps to her surprise, perhaps this conversation has narrowed the distance between us, and the discomfort when we met before has disappeared.

A month later, on a rest day, I returned to Chengdu from school. When I got on the bus at the school gate, I happened to meet this girl and the boys in the next class in the same minibus. When I got on the bus, they didn't find me. When I got off at the station, they saw me, and I saw the girl's embarrassed expression. I had a class all day on Monday, and I didn't say anything. When I saw this girl during class on Tuesday, I asked, "Do you want to chat with me?" She said, "I have been waiting all day. I know you will find me." After heart-to-heart, she told me that she just had a good impression on this boy and was willing to talk to him about some topics of interest in extracurricular life after studying. I can see that she, like all middle school students, is taboo to say that this is puppy love, so I try to avoid these two words. I said, "I can understand you, because I also had a colorful middle school time, and I came from an era full of fantasy and enthusiasm." It's normal to have a crush on the opposite sex. However, as a middle school student, my main energy is still in my study. You must learn to say no to temptation, just like facing the dazzling array of goods in the mall, you must distinguish between priorities according to your own financial resources, and you must give up if you give up. " When I finally left, I looked at her with trusting eyes and said to her, "I think you are a capable child, and I believe that sensible people will not do stupid things." Now you can tell the distance between kindness and liking, friendship and love. "

Afterwards, I found a boy in the next class and told him from the perspective of trust that true and pure feelings can stand the test and should focus on learning. They accepted the advice wholeheartedly, and now both students have made great progress.

I once saw this girl's mother in our class talking about it in the street. She said to me, "My daughter turned out to be a very playful child. I love reading and studying when I go home now. He also said that we have keen eyes, an understanding heart and respect for us, so I am willing to communicate with him. "

This shows that the feelings of young students are pure and cannot be trampled on at will. If we can all respect their feelings and give correct guidance with appropriate language, we can receive good educational results. On the other hand, if students' hearts are hurt because they don't respect their feelings, it will be difficult to remedy them, and it will probably be counterproductive.

Third, respect students' sense of independence.

Students need teachers' instruction, care and love, as well as teachers' sincere respect for their sense of independence. Therefore, on the basis of respecting students, teachers should consciously protect students' sense of independence and cultivate their ability to live independently. Let students realize that they should have dignity and respect from others as an independent, complete and thoughtful living individual.

In the last social practice this spring, the students in our class have heavier tasks every time. Students' resistance is more serious. The last social practice coincided with the acceptance of the "three stresses and one tree" activity. The school assigned students to weed out the whole school. The hot weather and heavy tasks make the students tired and have no enthusiasm for work, so they all stand where they are and don't start work. There are even a few girls sitting in the shade chatting and laughing. As a class teacher, I looked at them quietly, and didn't reprimand them loudly, because I could feel the students' hard work: the sun was like fire, and the little emperor Little Sun, who grew up now, grew up in a greenhouse. Who really realized the hardships? After all, the flowers in the greenhouse need an adaptation process to move in the hot sun.

But I believe that every student has his own sense of independence. They should know what they should and can do. They have no shortage of people to tell them what to do. What they lack is someone to guide them correctly. So, without blaming or shouting, I was the first to bury my head and concentrate on weeding. Under the scorching sun, my hands were covered with mud and sweat ran down my temples. The children's laughter gradually fell, and more and more students consciously squatted down to weed with me. Go through hardships together. "Teacher, you have a rest! Let me show you something! " A boy ran to my side, took the hoe in my hand and handed me a bottle of water, sweating profusely. Another group of boys started a weeding competition. Seeing this scene, my tears welled up again ... Maybe this is the feeling of soul mate? ! Mutual understanding and heartfelt respect have won the respect and understanding of my students, and have also made great progress and development in their study and life. Let each of us remember Mr. Tao Xingzhi's words, respect students in practice, and let every student walk with his head held high.

Zunzhong

Su Li, Sichuan Dayi Experimental Middle School

Respect means respect, respect and admiration. The general language environment is "lower" versus "upper" or "dynamic" versus "long", which implies the level of a person's social status or the level of seniority among family members and friends. In the communication with modern society, the connotation of "respect" is extending and expanding, and its concept puts more emphasis on democracy and equality, which embodies human civilization and progress. American psychologist Maslow believes that respect is a higher level of human needs and the closest level to self-realization. The need for respect includes two aspects: respect from others and self-esteem. The former shows the hope of gaining respect from others, such as care, attention, appreciation and recognition. The latter includes the need to gain self-confidence, ability and achievement, such as self-confidence, self-improvement, independence and freedom. When the need for respect is met, people will have a confident experience and the pleasure of success, and then know their own value.

In today's highly civilized world, "respect" has become the focus of attention and the goal and pursuit of "personality equality". In the process of modern school management, equal dialogue, friendly exchange and mutual respect are important measures to measure the civilized degree and moral level of teacher-student relationship.

In the process of education, teachers need to respect students' personality, dignity and value. To be a good teacher, we should respect students and their personalities. To respect students, the most basic thing is to have a heart that loves students.

To respect students, we must love them and learn to be tolerant of them. Strictness is love, and tolerance is also love. As teachers, when students make mistakes, we should put ourselves in the other's shoes, and we should not lose our manners and hurt the students' hearts because of a temporary impulse. Strict requirements for every student are the embodiment of teachers' sense of responsibility, and they are responsible for students and society. Students will go to the society and become the builders of the future society after completing their school study activities, but the strict requirements are not strict, but reasonable and well-intentioned, which can be achieved through the efforts of students. Of course, strict requirements must also treat students as equal education objects, and respect their personality and care about their development as the premise. With sincere concern, there will be strict requirements and students will have the best development. After entering this realm, teachers really understand the true meaning of "respect". Because "strictly demanding students is to respect the performance of students, and it is a measure of this respect. The more strict a teacher is with his students, the more he respects them. On the contrary, the lower his requirements for students, the less he respects them. Respect is manifested as strict requirements, and strict requirements are essentially respecting people. "

This happened once: one day I was late for class because of my parents' visit. As soon as I ran to the classroom, I heard the front and rear doors slam. At that time, I only felt that my blood was rushing up and I was "furious." I really can't wait to find out who closed the door and give him a good scolding to relieve my hatred. But I tried to control myself. The door opened and the classroom was strangely quiet. They waited as if a storm was coming. As cool as a cucumber, I walked onto the podium with a smile, pretending that nothing had happened and starting class as usual. The effect of this class is better than any other class. I observed two boys, who are usually naughty and famous, weak in self-control and poor in discipline. They performed particularly well in class today, scrambling to answer questions. I have guessed the "initiator" of the incident. But I pretended that I didn't know anything, so I asked them to act out the dialogue and answer questions. As soon as the bell rang, the whole class stood up neatly, but what should have been said was "We are sorry, Miss Su". Then two naughty boys went to the front of the platform and bowed their heads in embarrassment and said, "Sorry, Miss Su, we are closed. We didn't mean to. We just want to make a joke. " I seized this opportunity and said, "Although I didn't mean to, this kind of prank is disrespectful to others. If you don't respect others, how can you get their respect? " However, there is nothing wrong with correcting mistakes. The teacher forgave you this time. I hope you two can apply your wisdom to your studies, learn to be practical and diligent, and be a good student with all-round quality. "Take a step back and broaden your horizons. The teacher's tolerance and respect won the respect of the children, and the children learned to respect and be kind to others.

Respect means loving and encouraging children. Encouragement is an expression of love, which means praise and expectation. As a good prescription, encouragement can benefit many students. It is a spring breeze, a sail that can raise confidence again; It is a clear spring that can nourish the soul on the verge of despair; It is also the expression of sincere friendship between people. If a teacher wants to do a good job, it is far from enough to rely on his only enthusiasm. Only in the process of education can he learn to encourage and understand children, and he will be loved by children.

A student transferred to our class, and his parents' divorce broke his heart. Coupled with the influence of some bad habits at home and in the original school, he has contracted many problems since he was a child. Not long after he arrived, he mixed up with some students in other classes who didn't want to make progress, drinking, playing cards, going to Internet cafes and riding motorcycles, which had a very bad influence. My classmates told me these things. I didn't criticize him directly, but asked him, "What happened these days? Did the teacher see that you seem to have something on your mind? " He didn't say anything, so I patiently asked, "What's going on? You have a problem with your classmates. Did something unpleasant happen? Or have you encountered difficulties in your life? Tell the teacher that I can help? " I asked him for a long time before he told me. It turns out that a classmate who studied in the same school with him preached how bad he used to be in class, and other students stopped playing with him. He was very angry. He vented his anger and his brain was broken. After listening to his explanation, I said to him, "Do you know that drinking is harmful to your health? Especially for middle school students, alcohol will seriously damage the brain when they grow up. Besides, didn't you also confirm what that classmate said? Show him that you are by no means the mud that can't help the wall. As the saying goes,' no one is perfect, and gold is not enough'. It's not terrible who has shortcomings. The terrible thing is that he doesn't correct it. Besides, all the mistakes you made before are over. Through such a long observation, the teacher can see that you are an excellent student in essence. Don't lose heart, the teacher believes in you, be a brand-new me, and the students will accept you. "

After this conversation, he did well in class for several days in a row. I always take the opportunity to praise him and establish his new image in the eyes of my classmates. Gradually, his classmates accepted him, and he quickly integrated into the class. At the same time, he feels that the teacher loves him. He also worked harder in his studies and his academic performance was greatly improved. I can't help but think of Gorky's words: "Whoever loves children will love them, and only those who love children will educate them."

Respect means putting down your airs, going among the students, sharing weal and woe with them, and trying to be one of them. Only in this way can you gain their trust, understand the students, drive the class well, teach the class well, infect the students with your own personality charm, and let them benefit for life. At the same time, teachers can also experience the happiness of being a teacher.

We often ask students to do many things, such as observing the rules and regulations of the school and fulfilling their obligations as students. These are all normal. But our teacher seldom thinks about what we are doing. In fact, the students are looking at the teacher, and your every move will deeply affect the students. We always say that "example is more important than words", but it is not easy to really do this. The ancients said, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." If you ask students to do this and that, and you do nothing but stand by and tell them what to do, why do you expect students to do it seriously? However, if you cooperate with them, the effect will be different immediately. In recent years, I have tried my best to do what students are first asked to do. For example, students come to school to clean at 7: 0010 in the morning, and I'm sure I'm standing in the classroom at 7: 0010, not only arriving early, but also cleaning with them. I also do it with them every time I clean up. Many people think it is impolite to give nicknames to teachers. I think we should be more tolerant, laugh it off with the mentality of secretly enjoying it, and don't make a fuss. At Christmas, I received many greeting cards signed "Princess Iron Fan", and there was a beautiful princess on each card. Most of them wrote: "Princess Iron Fan teaches very well, loves very strictly, loves very strictly, and we love you very much!" " The banter revealed their love for me, and I knew they were both afraid of me and liked me. Their respect for me is heartfelt, and I am willing to accept it, and I am willing to walk among them and become their friends.

We should respect children's personality and create a relaxed growth environment for them. In the process of education and teaching, teachers are the dominant and students are the main body, which is a common sense that we are all very familiar with. Although 40 minutes in class is the main position of teaching quality, students are not passive "containers" for filling knowledge, but living subjective people. It is the key to improve the quality of education to mobilize students' subjective initiative and promote students' personality development. As the saying goes, "the master leads the door, and the practice depends on the individual." At present, students are overwhelmed by heavy study tasks, and it is normal for them to feel tired of studying. What passion can this passive and boring life give students? In this case, we don't need to talk endlessly about the importance of learning. What a teacher should do most is to try his best to choose a relaxed learning environment for students, so that they can experience some warmth, some happiness and some relaxation in their boring study life, and let them face learning with a relatively happy mood.

The students in our class are lively and active. I often chat with them, trying to talk less about study and more about relaxed topics. At the theme class meeting, I will also talk more with students about how to make friends, how to deal with the relationship with parents, how to be a man, or talk about some personal experiences. This will not only make them unconsciously learn a lot about being a man, but also stimulate their desire to challenge the society and the future, thus mobilizing their enthusiasm for learning knowledge from another side, which is much better than directly talking about learning.

In addition, in view of their love for sports, music and recreational activities, I organized them to play basketball and football, sing and dance as much as possible, and participate in them. Through the activities, students' personalities are publicized, their specialties are brought into play, the relationship between teachers and students is further harmonious, and the learning pressure of students is also alleviated.

Environment plays a very important role in a person's growth, and our teachers are the main builders of students' learning environment.

To educate students effectively, teachers should first respect and trust students, start with respect, sincerely understand and care about students, respect students' personality and trust students' ability, so as to win their respect, and then encourage students to overcome difficulties, consciously fulfill teachers' requirements, and gradually form strong will and courage. Driven by strong self-esteem, students will certainly strive to make progress, improve themselves and realize their social values. A good teacher should allow students to have their own independent thoughts and feelings, and believe that every student has the desire to be a good student. In the environment of respecting equality, students' thoughts are more active, the development space is broader, and teachers' educational thoughts are easily accepted by students, thus producing ideal educational effects.

Looking at the background of education in China, quality education itself is actually an education that respects students' individuality and subjectivity. Students have the same personality as adults, and no one is qualified to do anything harmful to students' physical and mental health. Suhomlinski once emphasized: "Humanistic spirit, compassion, sincerity and strict requirements are the basis of the relationship between teachers and students, which is both a spiritual thought and an educational thought." Every teacher is required to respect his students. Therefore, as a teacher, please respect the personality of students and the development needs of students as human beings.

Respect for all individuals.

Li comes from Nanjie Middle School in Dayi County, Sichuan Province.

In the teaching process, as a biology teacher, I make full use of the psychological theory I have learned, and combine the characteristics of students' age and physical and mental development to give psychological counseling to students in my spare time. Combined with the school project and my own work examples, I wrote a paper "Students have a steelyard in their hearts-face the whole and respect the individual".

Through thinking, I realize that as a biology teacher, especially as a research-oriented biology teacher, I must have the following quality characteristics:

I. Objectives, roles and responsibilities

In today's irresistible educational reform, every biology teacher should be enthusiastic about the inevitable reform, grasp the advanced educational concept, conform to the trend of the times, properly combine change and innovation, inheritance and development, principle and flexibility, and boldly explore and try educational and teaching reform; At the same time, we should clearly understand the change of our roles and responsibilities, consciously enhance our awareness of scientific research, pay attention to constantly improving our professional level through teaching and scientific research, and gradually change from experienced to scientific research, from "teacher" to "expert" and "scholar" teachers, and use our academic attainments and personality charm to stimulate students' enthusiasm and desire to explore life science, so as to create a future life by using what they have learned.

Second, criticism, breakthrough and transcendence

The traditional teaching mode emphasizes the deduction of books according to the syllabus and strictly follows the requirements of higher education research departments. This teaching concept has seriously stifled students' innovative ability and teachers' creative development.

There is no doubt that teachers' teaching activities are bound by certain educational system and content, but as research-oriented teachers, they should change their absolute dependence on teaching syllabus and teaching materials, grasp the essence of innovative education, dilute the form, pay attention to the effect, and creatively play their "intermediary role" between the educational system and the educational objects through their unremitting exploration and research.

In addition, the era we live in today is the era of life science, and the development of life science is changing with each passing day. Genetic engineering and cloning technology are profoundly affecting and changing all aspects of people and society. Facing the breaking of the frontier of life science, if biology teachers convey this kind of information to students in class, the gradual revelation of this fascinating mystery of life will effectively improve students' emotional state, guide students' thinking direction, stimulate students' deep passion for life, and internalize this passion into their desire for knowledge and pursuit of exploration. We call it "biology class holiday".

Third, awareness, ability and methods.

Teachers' innovative ability is as follows: they have the ability to change their inappropriate quality education teaching behavior; Have the ability to discover and solve new situations and problems encountered in educational practice, and have the ability to change the inefficient situation of education and teaching and achieve stability and efficiency; Eager to acquire new knowledge and methods of education and teaching; Ability to get the latest information. If teachers themselves are still in a state of lack of creative thinking, it is unrealistic for students to form creative thinking. Scientific research is a good shortcut for teachers to improve their own quality.

Give praise and encouragement to students.

Li Zhian, Experimental Primary School in Tongjiang County, Sichuan Province.

Russian educator ushinski once said: "Children hate teachers who can't get praise and recognition from them at any time." Indeed, "giving people words is more important than jewelry; It is more important to hurt people with words than with swords. " While being cared for, children also learn to love teachers, classmates and the collective.

Since Professor Chen conducted the experiment of "Respect for Equality in Class Collective Construction" in our school, I have carefully studied the "30 Articles of Respect for Equality" in the experimental scheme and applied these ideas to class management. Among many new methods, I find that praise and encouragement are simply a nutritious feast for children, which brings a lot of convenience to my class management. My specific approach is:

First, encourage and praise at critical times.

If teachers can affirm students' achievements in time, students' enthusiasm for progress will be strengthened. Last winter, our grade group held a gymnastics competition. A classmate in our class doesn't have a school uniform, so there is no uniform in the class. Everyone is anxious. A classmate in the class used his quick wits to borrow her second-grade brother's school uniform, let him put it on, and finally subdued our class. I immediately praised him in the whole class, boasting that he was a good boy who could find a solution, and told other children not to worry, and a solution would always be found.

Second, choose the right occasion to encourage and praise.

Children with outstanding achievements and great progress should be praised in front of the whole class. The achievements are obvious to all, and everyone is convinced. For children who have made little progress and poor grades, it is better to praise them individually. There is a child in our class who has developed many bad habits because he was too spoiled since childhood. He often bullies his classmates, who always accuse him and are afraid of him. I try my best to find the advantages in him, often patting him on the shoulder, holding his hand to praise him and encouraging him to correct his shortcomings. Gradually, he changed, and his relationship with children gradually became harmonious.

Third, praise and encourage in different ways.

Encouraging and praising children with warm and loving words is of great significance to foreign children. Sometimes nodding, smiling and acquiescence are also good ways to encourage and praise. For sensitive children, language praise and acquiescence may not touch their innermost thoughts. On the contrary, praise and encouragement are given in the form of correcting homework, writing quality reports, reporting good news to parents, and writing notes. It will be easy for them to feel the teacher's attention to him and have a more positive effect on their progress.

Praise and encouragement can make children's hearts full of sunshine, and sunshine can make young trees glow and make children grow up healthily. I hope the sunshine of love can fill every inch of land and warm every heart.