There are more and more people who don't eat banquets with gifts now. Why?

Nowadays, more and more people skip banquets at random, which is a social reality, because people are not so keen on banquets now. Think about it, a table for ten people, if you don't know the others, will it be awkward to go or not?

I remember one time, a friend I know, whose son had a wedding banquet for a year, called me again and said that he wanted a drink anyway. I said on the phone that besides congratulations, I would definitely go for a drink.

To tell the truth, I didn't intend to go, because his son just drank the full moon wine a year ago, and I came to the scene with great joy to congratulate him. He was also given a red envelope at the scene, so of course he was sealed for 400 yuan and didn't feel anything. As long as everyone is happy.

But my deskmate is all his relatives, big and small. As far as I am concerned, I am an outsider. I think it's unnecessary to sit at that table. To tell the truth, I didn't take a few bites. Just playing with my mobile phone, I'm not in the mood to eat. Only occasionally take a few symbolic bites, and finally set up a banquet in advance when it was really uncomfortable.

After the banquet, I said hello to my main family and then went home. My wife saw me and asked me what to eat today. I said I didn't eat much, so I made a pack of instant noodles when I came back. My wife still whispered sarcastically, "If I told you not to go, just turn a red envelope. You have to go." I kept silent and just ate noodles.

This year, I didn't arrive, and he invited me. It is really warm. This time, I will definitely not go to the party. I'm going to send a red envelope, but I'm not so polite this time. I'll transfer 200 yuan. There's no need to make faces, fat.

Have you ever been in such a situation?

There are more and more people who don't eat banquets with gifts now. Why? From ancient times to the present, people pay attention to a lively wedding. When they heard that a new couple got married, many people couldn't wait to join in the fun and see the bride.

Wedding is a very festive and lively day for children, but for adults, it is often not unexpected, and sometimes it even hurts money. Because you definitely don't join in the fun when people get married, you definitely need to spend some time and energy, at least you should follow the ceremony.

Accompanying gifts means accompanying money, of course, it is also called accompanying staff. In the past, dowry was limited to the man's relatives, mainly to help the man hold a wedding and marry a wife. In the past, every household was not so rich, and it cost a lot of money to get married. Therefore, close relatives like to give gifts to everyone, and it can also help the man get married more smoothly.

Gradually, the woman got married, and relatives and friends at home began to pay with the money. Until now, following money has gradually become a way of emotional communication between people.

Many people feel that their feelings are good. When they get married, they will send invitations to relatives and friends, and some close relatives and friends are willing to join in and send blessings to the newlyweds at the wedding scene. Take your own money.

However, due to the soaring prices, the feelings between people are getting heavier and heavier, and the money is naturally getting bigger and bigger.

From the beginning of the man's marriage, the people in the same village took out the good things from their homes and gave them to the man to help him hold the wedding. On my parents' day, someone even took a few pounds of eggs from home to congratulate him on his marriage, which later evolved into 5 10 for the man's marriage.

Later, with money, it rose to 100 yuan in 200 yuan. Now with gifts, 500 yuan feels that he can't get the money, so now the gift money is getting bigger and bigger, and it is too much for him to bring gifts.

For some working-class people, it is very likely that a gift will lose half a month's salary. If they just catch up with three or four weddings a month, they will really make ends meet. If they work hard for a month, they are likely to ask for money from home.

So this is one reason why many people don't eat banquets with gifts, because they feel that the relationship between the two people is not bad, and the distance between them is not far. This gift is ok, but there is nothing to say without gifts, but they always feel that as colleagues in the company or residents or neighbors in the community, they bow their heads and don't look up. If this gift is not kept, it will be embarrassing.

So, I wrote a gift when someone got married, but because I didn't know his relatives and friends very well, I felt that the gift was less. Therefore, I didn't join in the fun. After arriving, I wrote a gift and found a reason to go home, so that I won't be embarrassed when I meet you next time, and I will send my best wishes enthusiastically. People will naturally see your gift and say "thank you" enthusiastically.

Otherwise, I will always feel a little embarrassed if I don't write this gift. I don't know if I should say hello when I meet you.

In fact, there are more and more people who don't eat banquets with gifts, and there are other reasons. Let's see what causes people to eat more than just rituals.

The first reason is the distance, there is no way to take money to the scene. You can only transfer money by electronic payment red envelope, with gifts. In today's society, people have a wide range of contacts. It can be said that some people have friends all over the world, but for various reasons such as work, they may not be able to come to the scene to attend the wedding of their good friends. Because we have a good relationship, we can't save the money at all. Even if we ask someone to give us a gift, we should bring it with us and send our best wishes.

With the increase of electronic payment means, many people can take money with them without leaving home. If you feel that you have less money with you, and you are embarrassed to transfer it directly to your good friends, that is, newlyweds, you can invite people you know to attend the wedding and help yourself bring gifts.

Now many people have worked hard for a week because the pace of life is getting faster and faster. On weekends, they can relax and go with the members, which is very time-consuming. On the way back and forth to attend the wedding, it is likely to waste half a day. At the wedding scene, all kinds of complicated wedding ceremonies prevented them from eating immediately. Therefore, many people would rather pass their blessings than join in the fun at the scene, which not only saves time, but also saves their own time.

Now many college students come from all corners of the country and have a good relationship. We know, but it's really a long way to the wedding. Take a day off on Sunday, it's definitely too late to go to the wedding, and even there's not enough time on the road.

If you ask your boss for leave for this matter, although he said he might agree, his attendance award will be ruined again, not only the money, but also the fare on the way and the cost of going to that city, which is really uneconomical. Therefore, it is still honest to transfer money with money, and don't go to the scene to join in the fun, otherwise this big expense is really unbearable.

The second reason is also very simple. I don't know much about the relatives and friends of this couple. So eating at the same table will be a bit embarrassing, and some people really don't want to join in the fun. Eating at the same table with unfamiliar people will make some people very uncomfortable.

You have no idea what kind of people you eat at the same table with. Some people's bad habits formed by taking advantage of petty advantages are really speechless.

For example, some people take all the melon seeds and fruit bowls or candy on the table to their side before opening a banquet, and then secretly put them in their pockets. When they are discovered, they will laugh and say that they are for their own children and let them follow suit.

At the beginning of the wedding, they often take out their mobile phones in a panic and start video recording, while looking for the most suitable location to watch. Many times, they just block the sight of others, just to make a good video and send it to a "circle of friends".

Finally, when the banquet food is served, they will stare at each dish. Sometimes, before the banquet begins, they will go directly to grab food. When the banquet was actually held, it was even more surprising. It seems that I haven't eaten anything for hundreds of years, and the chopsticks have never been put down. Every dish is turned over by them, looking for their favorite food. Saliva is likely to get all over chopsticks, which makes people very uncomfortable.

However, before everyone finished eating, they began to take out the plastic bags prepared in advance and began to clean up the dishes on the table, saying that it would be a waste to eat and take them back to their families to taste. As a result, half a table of dishes was gone, and others could not eat it at all.

If such a person takes another child, it is really invincible. They will make the above actions on the grounds that their children are too young to understand. It's really the people who eat with them as long as they're not embarrassed. This kind of person is really ill-bred and makes people feel uncomfortable.

Third, there are many ways to entertain people now, and they don't like to join in the fun. Maybe when they were young, they liked others to get married and have fun to see the bride. However, with the growth of age, many things are used to it. For myself, getting married is largely a matter of human relations. There is no need to join in the fun. It is good for both sides to bring the gift money with you.

You can leave some time for yourself to do other things, and the wedding people don't have to worry about entertaining themselves. There are many ways of entertainment now, so why go to the wedding scene to join in the fun? You don't know anyone at a big table. If you have time, you might as well make an appointment with good friends and communicate your feelings.

Many people will say, isn't that new guy your good friend? When you go to the wedding, you communicate with him. But when you really go to the wedding, you will find that the new guy is really busy, toasting all the relatives and friends at the table and taking photos with everyone.

In short, I can spend so little time with you that I may not even be able to talk to you. Therefore, going to the wedding alone is a lonely experience. It is better to brush dramas, watch variety shows and watch videos at home.

Finally, people don't like the feeling of being ignored. Because the couple are very busy at the wedding, they may not have time to take care of you at all. If you don't know their relatives and friends, you can only eat awkwardly with a large table of people you don't know, pretend to know each other, and then everyone will eat separately. This is extremely embarrassing for people with small faces.

Wedding banquets are usually held after various celebrations. Even if the food is served, I won't give you chopsticks. You can only look but you can't move chopsticks first. However, many people don't like this. It's really hard to attend the wedding, and they can't eat right away.

Therefore, many people don't want to go to the wedding. Generally, people with good relationships will try to pay part of the money, so the wedding banquet will not follow the crowd.

At present, most people are accompanying members in interpersonal communication. If you are really close, you will choose to go to the scene early to help organize the wedding, while some unimportant people will feel that it is not necessary to go by themselves, but the gift money must be accompanied. So many people choose to accompany gifts instead of eating banquets.

There are more and more people who don't eat banquets with gifts now. I think there are several reasons.

First, regardless of personal relationship, please visit the world. A worker in my unit has a daughter-in-law and a roster of employees. Whether they are familiar with it or not, whether they know it or not, please go through the roster one by one. The invited people feel that not attending is not good for future meetings. After all, it is a unit of people. I feel strange when I go, and some don't even know each other. They drank and ate together, which was boring. In order not to offend people, many people do not attend ceremonial banquets. It is said that on the day of the wedding reception, half of the tables and seats were unoccupied, which was very humiliating.

Second, thick-skinned, for the purpose of collecting money. There is a boss of human resources department who opened a food stall with his little aunt. Every birthday, my wife and son are invited, as well as housewarming wine, door wine, full moon wine and so on. He was invited many times a year, and no one dared to offend him. Please send him. What's even more hateful is that every time he holds a banquet in his own food stall, there is no taste of salt, but he still doesn't have enough to eat. Since he is a leader, he can skip meals, but he can't be impolite. A few years ago, he was reported, and the Commission for Discipline Inspection invited him to tea.

Third, there are too many large-scale banquet ceremonies now, and it is difficult to eat delicious meals. Our wedding banquet, birthday banquet and other ceremony activities all started at noon 12: 08, and the specially invited program host presided over the ceremony, singing and dancing, which was deafening, endless, monotonous, uninspiring and boring. At the end of the ceremony 1, the dishes on the table were cold, wolfed down and full. Unless they are best friends, they will definitely not attend the ceremony.

Of course, there are also reasons for not attending the banquet, such as busy work, insufficient time and physical discomfort, but the red envelope cannot be absent.

The author believes that we should try our best to participate in weddings, funerals and wedding activities of relatives and friends at home. After all, it is a human society, which is polite and communicates frequently. For those unfamiliar banquets whose purpose is to collect money, you can not attend or even accompany the ceremony. I'm Nong Liang, from my home, for reference only.

Sometimes it's better not to go.

Last year, a classmate of mine got married, and she said who would go, so she went to me and another female classmate. After I went there, I didn't even have any water to drink, so I just stood around the street, in winter.

Dinner was arranged directly for us on the table of the wedding company. This is too casual, anyway, we are also friends of the woman. If you don't give her a table, you have to arrange it for your colleagues and classmates. We arranged a seat at random, but the bride and groom didn't show up, which embarrassed us and left without eating half.

My classmate, the bride, has never even said polite words. Although she said she couldn't say anything, she was married and an adult. She should have the least courtesy! It seems that we are here to beg.

I didn't even give my bag when I left. After the ceremony, we always give red envelopes, put some sugar cigarettes or something, and have no money. At that time, I thought she was too busy to remember, and then I didn't mention it.

I chatted with the classmate who came later and said that it was better not to go at that time, and the whole thing was quite redundant.

So, if it's not a strong relationship or relative, just go according to the ceremony and don't go to the party. So as not to embarrass yourself. I feel speechless when I think about it. As an adult, how can I be a man without even the most basic manners!

That's true. My nephew/kloc-got married on October 8, and most of my classmates sent WeChat red envelopes, including 200, 300 and 500. I understand this, too. After all, some college students are in other places, so it is not convenient to come over. And his colleagues at work? After a colleague hanged the gift money himself, he also brought a list with 2 1 names on it, among which 19 colleagues attached 200 yuan's gift money; The other two have a good relationship with 300, and there are people on the list! None of them came ... (I'm helping to write a personal book, so I know very well) I guess there may be several reasons. First, I don't think the relationship is very good at ordinary times. Since someone else invited me, it's not good not to come, so I will pay less as a gift; Second, thinking that since the gift money is less, that person will not come! Anyway, people nowadays have oil and water in their bellies, so it doesn't matter whether they eat this meal or not.

In rural areas, children's weddings, children's full moons, old people's birthdays, funerals, even houses and so on. Everyone asks for a banquet, not to mention moving to a new place, buying a car and other things worth showing off. With banquets, you have to take money with you and hold banquets, which is a way for rural people to maintain their feelings and increase exchanges. But in rural areas, there is a phenomenon of not eating banquets with gifts.

Speaking of not eating with the ceremony, there is actually another reason:

The dishes at the banquet have lost their appetite and their appetite is not great. Now, the life of farmers is not what it used to be. Although many people can't eat meat every day, every meal is flour and rice, all kinds of oil, salt, sauce and vinegar. After careful cooking, it tastes delicious. I just want to eat meat, and it will be "extravagant" in half a month and January. On holidays or family birthdays, they will also hold their own banquets or go to hotels to order their favorite meals. Moreover, in our local countryside, the meat at the banquet is mostly pig's head, chicken and fish, such as pork elbow (whole), beef and shrimp, and only families with good family conditions are "willing". Not to say that rural banquets are famous for "cauldron dishes", but "cauldron dishes" have lost their old "taste", and even some people who eat seats have no more appetite. Just take a penny, show your mind and find an excuse to leave.

For some "bad habits" on the wine table, I began to dislike rural banquets, and it is inevitable that stereotypes will continue. Or in our local area, there are several cold dishes on the table, and there is always a big plate in the middle, mixed with salt and vinegar, chopped green onion, monosodium glutamate and spicy noodles, commonly known as "harmony plate", which is used to dip cold dishes, cold meat, stuffed skin and so on. As soon as you open the table, you will reach a table full of chopsticks, picking meat dishes and dipping them. Just because of the saliva on chopsticks again and again, I feel sick when I think about it, not to mention picking up chopsticks and picking up vegetables everywhere, dragging my grandson to take care of them, cleaning up before eating, and pouring wine. That scene, that scene, just don't want to enter the "role".

Returning to personal feelings is only for the long-standing hometown "pro". Now many rural areas have become "hollow villages", which is also a helpless move. With the development of society, people's ideas have changed, and rural people have begun to "migrate" to cities. It is said to be migration. In fact, even if rural people enter the city, they can't move their hukou. Rural people cannot apply for urban hukou, and rural people can only be "outsiders" in cities. No way, the future daughter-in-law "has no building in the city and will not marry"; Rural primary schools are merged, and one teacher takes several courses, but only a few students. The quality of teaching can be imagined. Going to town is just planning for the children's future. More people in the village go out to work. Rural people get married at weddings and funerals, and happy events are fun. In order to save money, most of them hold their own banquets. If you are not in the village, in order to repay your kindness, let your relatives and neighbors accompany you to give gifts. Entrusted by others, I am embarrassed to sit down and eat before leaving.

Conclusion:

It is a sign of the gradual improvement of rural people's living conditions, and it is also the inevitable result of the changes of contemporary rural people's ideas and health habits. Undeniably, with the acceleration of urbanization and the arrival of rural aging, "no banquet with gifts" will gradually become the norm in the future rural areas. However, this is completely different from "no treats, no gifts" and no banquets with gifts. This is a question of "you love me", there is nothing wrong with it.

First of all, modern people are very busy.

Modern people have a fast pace of life, a tight daily schedule and a lot of things to do. Not eating wine after the ceremony can save time and do other things, and it is also a respect for the host.

Secondly, the quality of life of modern people has improved.

Now that people's living standards have improved, things that were not eaten in the past have become commonplace. Moreover, the banquet belongs to a big pot of rice, and the taste of the dishes made may not be suitable for you.

I don't eat ceremonial banquets. First of all, I have no time. Secondly, I don't like eating.

This kind of thing really happened to me. A few years ago, the daughter of a former colleague of mine got married. I worked in the same department with her more than 20 years ago. Later, I went to work in other places. After more than 20 years, her daughter got married. I didn't expect to find my phone number without contact for more than 20 years, and I personally sent an invitation in the rain. I'm a little embarrassed, because after all, I haven't contacted for more than 20 years, and I have contacted several senior sisters who came out of school. They said that they also received an invitation from Sister Wang, and felt that her family didn't have many relatives in the city, so it would be bad if we women didn't go, so we agreed to go together and give her a hand.

On the day we went, I didn't expect many people to send invitations and few people to go. Just like our 10 banquet, only 6 people were present, and the other 4 people heard that they also attended the ceremony, but no one was present. I don't know why, but I'm in a hurry after eating, and there are still many banquets left. I think this is a waste. Sister Wang came over and said that some of them were basically untouched, so we packed them and took them away, and we didn't refuse them too much.

After I came back, I asked a classmate in our class why he didn't go. I'm still a little disappointed. He said he was too busy. Besides, he hasn't contacted for more than 20 years. Give me a present. I didn't want to go at first. Moreover, he has many things of his own, and he is too busy to leave the factory. In fact, I feel embarrassed not to contact my son to get married for more than 20 years. Most people have a feeling of resistance. Now, most people are too busy. If you don't usually walk around often, people with good relationships will get a gift, and people will find an excuse not to go because they are too busy. Now, no one is not good at that meal, right?

Probably people are based on this kind of psychology, so now in rural areas and cities, people who accompany banquets are not present, and the phenomenon of not eating banquets is increasing.

There are more and more people who don't eat banquets with gifts now. Why? Let me tell you a personal experience. I believe that after reading my story, you can probably understand why some people obey the ceremony instead of eating the banquet.

A former colleague of mine, who worked together for many years before, was the best friend in those years' work. Later, everyone left for their own reasons. Although they often chat on QQ and send short messages, but because they are not together, their circle of friends has changed and their contact is getting less and less.

In this way, I contact occasionally, but I am really good friends. In the third year after we left the original company one after another, on the 11th holiday, my friend sent me an invitation to attend his1October 5th18th wedding in a hotel.

At that time, I was very simple and didn't think much. I kept the appointment on time, but the party left a deep impression on me.

The banquet is a big round table, 10 people. I don't know nine people, and our table seems particularly awkward. No one at this table knows anyone except a young couple chatting alone. Everyone can only sit there awkwardly, occasionally touching their eyes, nodding politely and greeting with a smile. It hurts to think about it now.

After that experience, most of my classmates and colleagues invited banquets, and I would ask in advance who I invited and if I knew anyone, so as to avoid embarrassing things from happening again;

Seeing this question from the topic today reminds me of the past. I am eager to try and have a strong desire to share my previous embarrassing experience with you. The subject said: Now more and more people don't eat banquets with gifts. Why? Then let me also talk about my immature view:

1, similar to my experience, I believe many students have had it. To attend a friend's wedding, there may be no acquaintances at this table, so sitting there is really boring. After going through 1-2 times, many acquaintances may have no banquets, just like the topic owner said, follow the ceremony and don't eat banquets;

2. I have seen a friend's circle of friends. Their family is a big family. May Day and National Day are the days when family members treat each other. During the seven-day National Day holiday, we have to catch up with several venues in one day. After living this life, we will feel that such a banquet is too time-consuming and too experience-consuming. With gifts, the banquet will not be eaten;

There are some bad habits in other rural areas or rural towns. They like to hold banquets, such as children's full moon, children's college entrance examination, old people's birthdays and banquets. In any case, the villagers in Shiliba Village are not to be outdone. Although there are not many banquets at home, such banquets are really meaningless. Slowly, most villagers will not find themselves unhappy.

Most banquets in rural areas are one-stop, while most banquets in cities are all kinds of restaurants and restaurants, all of which have the same characteristics. The dishes at the banquet are more homogeneous. It seems that you will eat those dishes everywhere you go. Although there are differences, this difference has also been diluted by various banquets you frequently attend, which makes people taste the same. Except for the closest people in your family, most people choose their own banquets.

5. The blood relatives are broken. Plus, everyone is an only child, with few brothers and sisters, seven aunts and eight aunts. Relatives who are related by blood in the family can't recognize them. Maybe sometimes, because I haven't seen you for many years, I don't know the relationship between them. But relatives like this will have weddings and funerals at home, and they often give face, so as not to meet each other late, but this is everyone's bottom line, except for these people's banquets.

6. Now that the country is rich and strong, the living conditions of every household are also very rich. In terms of food and clothing, everyone can eat whatever they like. It can be said that life now is like Chinese New Year every day. Eating a banquet used to be a rare enjoyment. Now, everyone is tired of coping, the dishes at the banquet are no longer appetizing, and everyone's appetite is not as big as before. Chicken, duck and fish are not rare, and there are not too many good seafood and abalone.

At the end of the paper, I still want to say a few words. Now more and more people don't eat banquets with gifts. Why? The above analysis gives you a lot of my own superficial views. I wonder if you think so. This only represents my personal life. I hope you can correct me more.

Eating a banquet is really troublesome. It is not only a question of whether to go or not, but also how troublesome the accompanying ceremony is. If you have too much, you can't bear it. If you have too little, you may not get it. Other people's invitations are delivered to your door. Sometimes you can only accompany the ceremony, but you can't go to the party. There may be such a meaning. I will follow the ceremony. Not too much, not too little. I won't give you any trouble, party.

As a rural person, I naturally know this situation better and often encounter it. I remember when I was a child, if relatives or neighbors held happy events, everyone was looking forward to it as early as the New Year. On that day, relatives and friends from afar came. At that time, unlike now, it was basically walking. Families with good conditions have bicycles and some drive carriages. The gathering of old relatives and friends is very lively. Whether it's dishes or bowls, they all eat ribbons. In fact, from today's perspective, the food at that time was basically inferior, which could not be compared with today's, but at that time, people's living standards were not high, and everyone was similar, and they could not eat a few meals of rice and white flour a year. So everyone eats well, and the seven aunts and eight aunts talk very affectionately. At that time, people were poor, but everyone was particularly simple.

Since the reform and opening up, people's living standards have undergone earth-shaking changes, so has society, and people's living habits have also undergone great changes. Now that farmers' living standards are high, the rich and the poor are not bad at eating and drinking. Rice, white flour, chicken, duck and fish, which were once eaten only during the Chinese New Year, are now commonplace.

With the development of society, people's hearts have become complicated. Nowadays, people are no longer limited to weddings, funerals and even making excuses, which has become a means for some people to collect money, and the rest can only go with the flow. Eating wedding banquets has become a commonplace. According to the situation of several members, almost every family can meet them one day. Over time, this scene is not a gathering of family and friendship, but a form. In people's minds, it's not that important. This is just a meal or a performance. Not too close. Don't go if you don't want to. Just be polite. In addition, people are busy now, busy with work and making money, so how can they have time to eat!

Now is the information age in the age of science and technology. Mobile phones facilitate the contact between people, but also open the distance between people. Anyone who doesn't want to send a red envelope will do, which reduces face-to-face communication.

To sum up, it can be summarized as four points:

First, the living conditions are good. I don't want to eat or go.

Second, I am busy with my work. If I don't have time, I won't go.

Third, the feelings are not deep, but you can go or not.

Fourth, eat a wedding banquet every day. Don't go if you are tired of eating.

I think this situation will become more and more common.