I spoke too straight and hurt many friends. How can I correct it?

I'm too outspoken, and I've lost many friends. Now I'm slowly correcting it, and it's effective. Let me tell you about my method, hoping to give you a reference.

the first step: learn to endure, talk less and hold back what is on your lips. I used to talk fast, and my friends bickered with me. Basically, I won by a wide margin. This led to some words I said without thinking, and these words are often the most hurtful. It's like when a buddy around me bought a suit and planned to go out on a date, and then he asked me how I felt. I opened my mouth and said, "Come on, don't dress like this. I'm covered in fat, but I have to turn myself into a cold zongzi." I regretted saying this, and sure enough, my buddy's face suddenly cooled down. Think about it carefully, too. People are full of joy and want to dress themselves up and go out to meet someone. I boast a pot of cold water to blow him to the heart, and no one will have a good mood. Therefore, it is not unreasonable to say that disaster comes from the mouth. If you want to change, the first step is to talk as little as possible, because if you talk too much, you will lose.

Step 2: Change your thinking, learn to put yourself in the other's shoes and consider the consequences of saying this sentence. Whenever you can't help but say something, I hope you will think twice and think about the consequences of saying it. If you know that you are outspoken, what you say is easy to offend people. Then you should think about the reaction of the other person who said this sentence, put yourself in the other person's perspective, and hear this sentence you are about to say, will you go straight away and be particularly angry? If so, don't say that. Put yourself in the other person's position, without asking for empathy, but you should know more or less how the other person feels, which is very helpful to correct your speech.

Step 3: Change the way you speak at once and express your meaning euphemistically in implicit language. This won't happen until you've been in love. Because outspoken always annoys his girlfriend. Later, I slowly changed it, so I took the simplest girlfriend and asked you if your clothes were good. It seems to be an example. If this dress doesn't look good, it will make your legs thick. You can't just say, "You look terrible in it, those big legs." You have to say, "a dress shows that your legs are not that thin." Don't say shortcomings directly, but put it another way, from coarse to not so fine. Then all the mistakes are attributed to clothes. In the same way, the latter method is often easy to accept. There are many other words that say the same thing, for example, this dress makes you look less white, you didn't do something particularly right, and the clothes are not particularly clean … and so on. It may be easier for others to accept it in another way, even if the meaning you want to express is the same.

that's my way. I hope it will help you.