Old cousin, talk about Chinese New Year.

Don't leave such relatives again [yeah]

Aunt's house should be mother's sister's house, or mother's sister's house. If your second aunt says so, even her children say so, then relatives really don't have to go.

Relatives, relatives are relatives. I think harmony is homophonic. Kiss and get together when you leave. If you don't leave, don't kiss!

If the elder tells you not to come: it depends on your relative. If it is the mother's maiden, the father's grandmother's house, and the mother's father is alive, you can't help but go!

There is a saying called an aunt, two tables, three generations and four generations. It is for this reason that few people go to the older generation and the next generation.

Don't leave if you are other relatives, or if your status is very different; Or the economy is very different, don't go.

Relatives come and go, you come and I go, you come and I go …

Once the other party says they don't want to come, especially the elders say so, it means that people don't want to associate with you. What they say is thoughtful, not just lip service! But there are two situations: first, if it is a blood relative, it is within three generations. In this way, it may be that I didn't do a good job, and my elders were angry or had ideas in their hearts and had to leave. Should find out the reason, or apologize, are to go; Second, after three generations, the branches are closely related, and there is little contact at ordinary times. Other elders say so, forget it if you don't leave, it's good for each other.

Seeing this question reminds me of the same example around me!

My aunt is like this. Every time I go to their home for the New Year, my aunt will say no need to come. What a bother!

I didn't understand it at first, but I can understand it later!

1, visiting relatives during the Spring Festival always brings a lot of things, but in the end they are all returned. Everyone gets together, with many aunts and sisters and many children of their own. During the Spring Festival, we can't sit at the same table. Let's sit at a few tables together. Aunt is busy cooking alone, as busy as a bee.

2, giving lucky money and the like are all exchanged, and it feels quite boring. They all say "worldly wisdom" and "you come and I go". When they went to their house, they came to our house again. Anyway, that's what the Spring Festival is all about. It's very laborious and troublesome!

In short: for "If you go to a relative's house for New Year's greetings, and the elders say you don't have to come, will you go again?" I think, if the other party really doesn't want the Spring Festival to be too troublesome, there is really no need to go, because the Spring Festival is a rare festival, which should not be full of pressure and burden, but should be a time to relax and release pressure, and enjoy the happiness of the festival freely. In fact, now that the network is developed, it is also a good way to send messages or video greetings during the Spring Festival, in the form of red envelopes.

Visiting relatives and friends during the Spring Festival is a courtesy and a good opportunity for everyone to get together, but there should be no restraint or oppression. If you go to visit relatives during the Spring Festival, the elders directly say you don't need to come. Actually, you really don't have to go. It is also a sign of love to pay attention to walking and taking care of the elders!

If you don't have to go, then don't go. Since the elders have said so, I am embarrassed to go in the future. Isn't it sweet to spend the New Year in your own home?

First of all, congratulations, you won't have to spend money to visit this relative in the future.

When you visit a relative in the New Year, it shows that you respect the relative.

Relatives don't have to come, which proves that they despise you. As the saying goes, the rich have distant relatives in the mountains, and the poor are not in the downtown area.

When I was a child, life at home was the worst. There are many children and few fields. When I was a child, I didn't have enough to eat every year. At this time, I have to borrow some food from my relatives and wait for the new food to be returned.

Aunt is the best of their brothers and sisters. Most of them borrow food from their aunts when they have no food at home, and they will pay more if they put down their new meals.

One year during the Spring Festival, my father took me and an old hen who laid eggs to pay a New Year call to my aunt, thanking her for lending us food every time.

When we arrived at menstruation's house, my uncle immediately changed his face when he saw us. He swore in front of a room full of relatives: "Poor thing, learn what others worship and don't come again."

I went home crying. When I got home, my father knew the truth and stayed up all night. After that, I never went to menstruation's house for a meal. The next day, I asked people everywhere to find out where there was a job. Later, I went to work on the construction site with others, and I was busy with farm work when I came back at night. Within a year, I was all skin and bones. Fortunately, when I am old, I can help my family with some farm work, so my father won't have to work so hard.

Now we are all grown up and married. My father has become a better bricklayer because he has done a good job on the construction site. Although he has no education, he can take over the work near his home and do it himself. Life at home is getting better and better. A four-story house was built two years ago.

Now Uncle menstruation regrets it. Two years ago, I apologized to my aunt and said that I shouldn't have spoken like that at that time. Since then, everyone has been walking around.

My father said to my little aunt, "I welcome them to my house to pay New Year's greetings, but I won't go to their house."

Dad is really sad. In those days, all five children were waiting for dinner. Every time they go to borrow food, they have the cheek to go. I was afraid that menstruation was a bad guy when I went back, but I still had a little more.

Dad said, "I only have the hen that lays eggs, so I took it to your aunt's house." With so many relatives, I will have self-esteem no matter how poor I am. "

In recent years, my father was bitter and tired, preferring to get sick rather than reach out to his relatives; When things are good, try to help relatives who are not doing well. When poor relatives come to us, my father will fill their pockets before leaving.

It is very important for people to be self-motivated and work hard. Today, relatives look down on you and ask you not to pay New Year greetings, so we should also improve our own strength and make relatives who look down on you regret this decision!

If you go to a relative's house for New Year's greetings, the elders say you don't have to come. Will I go in the future?

This may depend on the meaning of the elders of both sides, because reciprocity, you go to pay a New Year call to your relatives, and the children of relatives will also pay a New Year call to your family. Maybe your second aunt's daughter is busy with work or married far away, and she just wants to spend the New Year at her parents' house, and she doesn't want to see her seventh aunt and eighth aunt again. It really depends.

I have a friend, who is married far away and goes back to her mother's house alone during the New Year. Because her husband wants to pay a New Year call or something, she wants to go back to her mother's house by herself or with her children. Because it takes two days to go back and forth, I have to adjust my post. Every time I go back for the New Year, I say I am tired, because I have to go to my aunt's house to pay a New Year call. Later, she proposed to live with her mother at her mother's house, and she was in a good mood, which saved all kinds of helplessness in chatting with people. She said it was great. At least eat well and sleep well. There are indeed many red envelopes or gifts exchanged during the Chinese New Year. Formally, it's really tiring to pay a New Year call. It's better to set your mind at ease and give yourself a rest and quiet time and space to spend time with your parents.

Therefore, if the elders say they don't use it, they should consider whether they will go or not in the future! Understanding and mutual understanding may be the greatest gift in your heart. Eating, drinking and having fun all night in the New Year is really bad for people at work, which is not conducive to physical and mental health!

Some are unbearable, and some don't want you to see them.

One generation of relatives, the second generation of recognition, three generations and four generations are pulled down.

If the elders say you don't have to go, then don't go!

We have an uncle, my father's uncle.

I used to live in my hometown, adults and children, and moved with my family. Go to pay a New Year call to them every year. You can pack it and open two or three tables. Eat and drink, so lively. Uncle is big! Have money and no money, spend the New Year at home.

Then the sons came out. The house in my hometown also collapsed. Better not cover it. The old couple are too old to farm. Farming income is not much. I found a grain store to store the food at home and take it when I eat, as much as I eat. The old couple moved to town to live. As a sanitation worker. A rented house.

The first year, my father and his brothers. Call my uncle to pay a New Year call.

The uncle's tone was full of fear: "Don't come! Do not come! Why are you so polite? Inconvenient, inconvenient! "

As a result, all their brothers went. With a group of adults and children. The whole family, old and young, grandchildren are half a height. With something. Go to pay a New Year call. My uncle is the best.

There is only one house and one bed. The kitchen is in the corridor and the bathroom is outside. The room is also marked with broken bottles picked up when sweeping the floor. Not much description. I'm afraid everyone will cry. New year's day.

Uncle and grandpa are crying.

They drank a glass of water and left.

I have never been there again.

When they met the uncle and grandfather, they were all embarrassed.

Sixty or seventy years old! He is also a strong man all his life! Life in old age is inferior to others.

Children and grandchildren are unfilial, whether they can rely on and support them in their later years. There is a skeleton in the cupboard. In the countryside, there is no pension. Children have a bad life, and living together is also a daily quarrel. Two people are sanitation workers, and they still earn more than 2,000 a month. Eat whatever you want. Still not angry. This is a problem that cannot be discussed. Some things are called other people's things.

Some are unbearable, and some don't want you to see them. Why do you want to meet a short man! Even if it is unintentional. Let's save face for each other. After all, it is the Spring Festival. Uncover the fig leaf, it will be bad in the future.

The world is cold, human feelings are as thin as cicadas, and relatives are just strangers linked by blood. There is a reason why your relatives say this in person, which involves the relationship between two generations. Ordinary people pay attention to courtesy and are unwilling to owe. First of all, relatives don't take you seriously. They think it's a burden for you to pay a new year's greeting, and children don't want to pay a return visit. In addition, there must be something wrong with your handling of people, so you should reflect on it. Tell you a cruel fact: the quality of your interpersonal relationship has nothing to do with your status, strength and value. Human nature is tolerant and gentle to the strong and merciless to the weak. It doesn't matter, breaking the chicken ribs doesn't affect your eating and doing things.

People told you not to go, but you still insisted on going? When people talk, they follow their wishes! People try to keep quiet, so you disturb their peace.

All good things must come to an end. It must end early and late, as long as it ends amicably. There is nothing to be ashamed of, accept it rationally and realistically!

The Spring Festival is a day of celebration and reunion, and visiting relatives and friends is a tradition of China people. Paying a New Year call is an indispensable link. As for the elders, due to various reasons, they are not allowed to pay New Year greetings, but as the younger generation, they still have to be polite.

If you go to a relative's house to pay a New Year call during the Spring Festival and the elders say you don't have to come, it depends on their true intentions. If the elders are afraid of giving you trouble, that's polite, then of course you will go later. If the elders want to be quiet and don't want to be disturbed, there is no need to go again.