For middle-aged and elderly parents who live with their children, daughter-in-law and son-in-law, please look at these ten sentences, which are very real.

Please don't live with children. The children asked to live with you. Even if they rent a house, they'd better get rid of them.

You can give him money, but you can't live together. This truth is only known to those who know.

Because the two generations have different education levels, values and lifestyles.

If you live alone, you will have a strong interest in beauty. There is no stipulation in the textbook: the farther you live, the better the relationship between parents and children.

Second recommendations

If you live with married children, please don't touch their things or help them wash clothes. I will go to school to pick up my children seriously every day and won't get lost.

There are three things to remember:

First of all, please remember that they never eat leftovers.

Secondly, please remember that they never like cleaning and tidying up.

Third, remember that the food has expired, even if it is only one day, throw it away!

There are bugs in the food, even if there are, they all fall down! If you don't understand, you must implement it. Frankly speaking, living with them is angry. At first, I was stingy, and then I lost the atmosphere. Therefore, living with them every day is your top priority every day.

The third suggestion

When you see them quarreling, you will pretend that you can't see, but you can't hear anything.

Think about it, when you quarrel with your husband, do you want your old man to intervene?

Remember: when your son complains, you should put in a good word for your daughter-in-law;

When your daughter-in-law complains, you must scold your son and turn your heart to her.

When your son-in-law complains about his daughter, you can talk about her problems.

When your daughter complains about her son-in-law, you can talk about her goodness.

Because in the eyes of daughter-in-law and son-in-law, "only mother is a good person", so mother-in-law or mother-in-law is wrong!

The fourth suggestion

You can always treat your son and daughter as minors. You can do whatever you want, but don't yell at your daughter-in-law and son-in-law, because if you scold them, they will remember you for life.

In this world, only their parents can scold them. They are not born and bred, so there is no need to replace them.

Fifth suggestion

Grandchildren's parents are your children, not you and your husband.

Therefore, even if they are no longer qualified, they should not be deprived of their right to raise children.

Because your educational methods are out of date.

So the effect of your intergenerational education is not ideal. If you can't do this, you will find yourself in pain. Do you deserve to be free?

Article 6 suggestions

Don't worry about your son or daughter's divorce. Divorce is their business, not yours.

You can't control it if you control it. The end result will make you crazy or gain the reputation that "the son is not good for your mother and the daughter is not good for your mother".

Remember, whether your son is married or your daughter is married, everyone must call you mom. Their baby is your little grandson.

Seventh suggestion

Your daughter-in-law and son-in-law like shopping, watching Korean dramas, infatuating with mobile phones, not washing clothes, not wanting to cook, poor hygiene habits, not loving housework, not caring for children and so on. It's none of your business. Is this between your son and her, or between your daughter and him? Only when you can't see, you are right.

No matter how many problems your daughter-in-law has, you can't tell others that this is your true love for your son and daughter.

Otherwise, the whole family will be notorious and ridiculous. When the child is divorced, your grandchildren will either have no grandmother or no grandmother!

Article 8 Suggestions

Don't focus on your son and daughter, and do more in your later years.

Even after half a life, there are still many interesting new things to learn.

You must make your life happier. Please spend all your savings or property before you die. Don't let deposits or property become an inheritance, because what you leave behind is not wealth, but resentment, strife and greed. This is a family injury, even if you make your child owe a little debt.

The ninth proposal

There is no special provision in the country that a daughter-in-law or son-in-law must obey her mother-in-law or mother-in-law, and your son or daughter is filial to you.

Therefore, you must keep in mind "two prerequisites":

First of all, your daughter-in-law and son-in-law should always say that you are kind and filial, and tell outsiders more.

Secondly, the daughter-in-law and son-in-law are not filial to you, so you have to say that she is filial.

In addition, you must "forget twice":

One is that if you are kind to your daughter-in-law, please forget it immediately.

Secondly, if your daughter-in-law and son-in-law treat you badly, you should forget them at once.

You have achieved "two musts" and "two forgetfulness", and your daughter-in-law or son-in-law will gradually begin to "understand" because people's hearts are all flesh.

Advice to parents

Respecting the old and loving the young is a traditional virtue in China, but you must understand that grandchildren are not your children, but the children of parents.

You just need to talk about it, so you don't have to worry about your grandson not eating or drinking or even being hospitalized; Your grandchildren and grandparents should not eat and drink for their youngest son. Both meat cutting and kidney replacement should be done.

You have a good diet. The first person you think of should not be your grandson, but you, because you have been worrying about your children for most of your life. Now it's you, and your grandson is happier than you.

When you are old, remember "ten things to remember" and live a happy life!

One thing to remember: when you are old, you have no capital.

Everything is worth these days, and age is nothing. Never have so many "should" or "shouldn't" in your mind. There is nothing wrong with calling you "old man". Calling you "old man" is the growth of the other person, and it has nothing to do with you.

It is a biological instinct that young people are dominated by strength; If someone offers your seat, you must remember to say "thank you". It is lucky to know a good man.

The second thing to remember: not everyone likes to hear "recalling the past"

This is not the time for us to think hard. No one wants to appreciate your glorious history and bumpy and painful experience.

After all, times have changed. The wild vegetables you eat are now high-grade food. When you reclaim wasteland and create land, it has now become ecological destruction. The story that the Red Army made it hungry by cooking with the belt made young people unable to understand the economic practice of cooking with the belt without stewing red meat.

So the theme of "Think about that year" should be more than enough. After all, "this year" is no more practical than "today".

The third thing to remember is to reduce busyness, especially the "noise" at home.

Grandson's education is for children, not your responsibility. Today is the era of "Altman" and "Big Big Wolf". You are still saying "there are mountains on the mountain, there are temples on the mountain …", which is why you never stop!

Don't chatter when dealing with children.

It doesn't matter if you don't listen to or express your position on important things. Asking for your advice is very respectful to children, and you should take the initiative to pursue a leisurely life.

Fourth, remember: "Young people must be busier than you."

If you want children, you can call. If your child thinks you don't even have time to make a phone call. Don't equate yourself with this kind of thing. Remember: if you complain too much, you will both lose.

If the child really comes to you, please don't find reasons to stay. Children spend the same amount of time. They buy time with gold. It's good to spend some time visiting you.

If you don't give your children a relaxed environment to "kill time", you will only see you less and less in the future.

Five things to remember: when you volunteer, don't think about the reward, and don't always cling to what others do.

There is nothing wrong with helping children cook, wash clothes and take care of them, but don't talk in front of them. If you don't understand, you need to keep calm. The whole party has done voluntary work for the society.

Some things may not be as good as the heart. "Respect the old and love the young" always puts "love the young" in the first place, because "sunrise" is always more promising than "sunset".

Please remember that "giving" is someone else's business. Don't consider "taking back", which will make everyone unhappy.

Six things to remember: don't always try to change others.

When it is cold and warm, the girl next door puts on short skirts and stockings. That girl loves "Beautiful Frozen Man" best. The husband's work is not perfect, which is a "stubborn disease" that has been difficult to change for many years. In fact, everyone has their own habits and lifestyles and has no absolute rights.

If you can't change others, try to change yourself. Actually, it's hard for you to change yourself. Instead of this, it is better to have a peaceful place, and it is better to be indifferent than to tell people what to do.

Seventh, we must remember: don't be too stingy with people, and spend money generously.

Even if the child buys something to honor his parents, you don't have to say thank you to friends and relatives. You must say thank you and consider paying. Although many people are not short of money, what we want is this peace.

Remember: there is no free lunch in the world. You need to spend money to enjoy harmony and happiness.

It is a kind of wisdom to study the calculable pension. "People spend money when they are dead." It is better to live an open-minded life. This is not the way to spend all your savings. After all, "people die without money." "This will be even sadder."

Eight things to remember: carelessness is not a trivial matter.

People may be lazy when they grow up, but they will not be lazy when they wear clothes, hats and wash clothes. You can also keep the revolutionary tradition of hard work and plain living, but remember to be neat.

This year, the world has become a global village, and the relationship between countries and people has become closer, not because they have rashly impacted the family ecology.

You should know that your hygiene and clothes are not your own business. That's the sign of your child's face. You don't care because too many people care.

Nine people must remember: don't save garbage like saving money.

There is a saying that "the value of family has been broken", which was said in the last century. I seldom see anything, which is a sign of aging. It is useless to keep things temporarily, and it is also useless.

Things that are not often used may not be remembered in actual use, and they may not be found when they are remembered, so it is best to deal with them as soon as possible. Big things must be updated quickly, and it may not be easy to spend money in the future.

How much money is there at home? Just look at how many "skirts" your house can display and you will know immediately.

Ten things to remember: don't always consider relying on children to eliminate loneliness.

As the quadrangle became a unit, the dream of a small family was released. The life of a small family is like a private car. Although they all drive on the same road, no one wants to enjoy the fun of driving. Old people need to practice driving. Even if they stay alone for a long time, they should move forward bravely.

Old people should make friends as soon as possible and keep friendship. When you can't play anymore, you can also call new friends and close friends to exchange your favorite topics.

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