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Know No is a rare good drama in recent years. The plot is full but not procrastinating, and the characters are rich but not messy. Both the protagonist and the supporting role have distinct personality characteristics, and those profound truths are interpreted very clearly.

I like some truths about marriage and feelings in this play very much, which are simple and easy to understand. For example, what kind of woman can marry well? Do you know that?/You know what? The experience of many women gives us the answer.

They tell everyone that a woman's happiness is in her own hands. Even in the feudal era, women didn't have much right to make their own choices, but they could change their fate and get the happiness they wanted through efforts.

These truths are of great practical significance today. I hope everyone can understand that whether a woman can marry well depends not only on luck, but also on these three hard strengths.

For women, having a strong family is really a very happy thing. What impressed me most in Do You Know is the only daughter of the British public, Ms. Zhang.

Ms. Zhang is the apple of the eye of the British couple. She is an excellent, powerful and beautiful woman. Unfortunately, she met a bad husband, Uncle Shen.

This man is not bad in nature, but after his wife died, he loved his wife's sister Xiao Zou so much that his wife Zhang Niangzi was suppressed everywhere.

As an aristocratic woman, Zhang Niangzi generally didn't want to dispute with her, but Xiao Zou was determined and almost killed Zhang Niangzi before giving birth.

Hearing that their daughter was in trouble, the British couple rushed to the shrine to support her. It's really hard to see the English couple running into the yard covered in dust and frost.

After Mrs. Zhang gave birth naturally, the Duchess of England said to Uncle Shen, "It's not that our daughter of the Zhang family can't marry, so she has to come to your house." The duke of England also put forward two conditions for Shen Guojiu: "Either drive away Xiao Zou's family or leave."

Uncle Shen knelt in front of her parents-in-law and promised to treat Mrs. Zhang well in the future, but after all, he couldn't bear to drive the concubine away. The duke of England picked up his daughter who had just given birth and lifted her feet to leave. He would rather persuade his daughter to become a nun in a temple than go back to Shenfu to be bullied.

Looking at the way he picked up Mrs. Zhang's discharge door, I had to sincerely sigh: "It's a woman's greatest blessing to fall into poverty."

The last person in the world who can betray you is your parents. Compared with other feelings, your parents' feelings for you must be purer. If we can have a strong mother family to support women, we can ensure that women are happier in their in-laws to a great extent.

Besides Zhang Ziyi, Sheng Rulan is also a vivid example. Although the Sheng family is not a rich and expensive family, it is still a big family compared with the literati who have no shadow of their ancestral home.

Moreover, Rulan's mother, Mrs. Wang, is also of noble birth. Ru Lan married ten miles of red makeup. Although married life is relatively poor, it can also ensure food and clothing. Coupled with the help of her family to her husband, her life is also very comfortable.

Seriously, compared with your hard work and hard work, I really envy Rulan and Mrs. Zhang's reckless behavior, and I sincerely hope that every woman can have such a hard-core family, so that you can have chips and confidence in the face of marriage choice, and have the right to shelter from the wind and rain temporarily and start over when your marriage is frustrated.

Having a strong woman is probably the dream of all women, but it is useless to have a strong woman only if you don't work hard. For example, Lan's cousin Shulan is richer and more powerful than Sun Xiucai, but it is precisely because of Shulan's weakness that Sun Xiucai's mother and son have intensified their bullying.

If Ming Lan didn't show up, and helped her get back what belonged to her, and successfully separated from her, Lan Shu might really be tortured to death.

Having said that, I have to say that Lan has helped many people around her to solve their emotional problems in the whole play. In the face of feelings and marriage, she has the means and ability to keep everything in order.

Ming Lan, as an illegitimate daughter in the family, her mother died long ago, and her father didn't love her very much. Arguably, she doesn't have much advantage, but in the face of all the people in Houfu and the favored ones, she has no fear, because she has vision, pattern, ability and confidence to solve all problems.

After she helped Gu solve the problem, Xiao Qin sincerely lamented: "No wonder Gu had to fuck this little girl." From here, we can see that Ming Lan's happiness is not because she is lucky to marry a good man, but because she has the ability to make herself happy. Such a woman will be happy no matter who she marries.

In fact, there are many such powerful women in the play, including Mrs. Zhang, whom we just mentioned. After her parents gave her advice on a peaceful breakup, she didn't flinch so much, but decided to fight for it herself.

She let bygones be bygones and returned to the shrine with her children. Such generosity eased the pressure on the emperor and queen, and also solved Uncle Shen's urgent need. Then she let Uncle Shen see her heroic spirit in the polo field and captured her husband's heart in one fell swoop.

From them, we can see that the strength of one's family can give a woman a kind of self-confidence, and what you can have is strength. Even if you are royalty, if you can't let yourself have hard power, everything will be in vain.

This is really very important to us in reality. As women, instead of imagining that others will be our backing, we should try our best to live a good life in the army first, because most people in this world prefer icing on the cake to giving timely help. If we blindly fantasize that others will support us, we will lose the motivation to make ourselves work harder.

No matter what kind of family you come from, one day you will walk through the world alone. I hope you can be as lucky as Lan and Ms. Zhang, but I hope you can make great efforts and determination.

In fact, for women, the first two strengths are more important, but the reason why I want to mention the third hard strength is because I want to tell you that in a marriage, the character and integrity of the other half are also very important, that is to say, if a woman wants a happy marriage, the third hard strength she needs is the strength of her husband.

Any marriage is not a matter for one person. Only one person can never solve all the problems in life, so a woman must be careful enough when choosing the other half.

This can be learned from Minglan. After discovering that Qi Heng didn't have enough responsibility to give himself happiness, Ming Lan turned decisively and refused to look back. After discovering He's indecision, he immediately refused, and for Gu, he also studied for a long time and thought twice.

It is precisely because of the phrase "getting along with people depends on the lowest point of that person" that Ming Lan, who is transparent, has got a good husband who protects her everywhere and can arrive in time no matter what she does.

There is no doubt that Gu is good. There are other good men in Know, such as Sheng Changbai, which I think is the most worthy of marriage in the whole play.

Sheng Changbai has a good family background, good looks, high emotional intelligence, three distinct views, a clear distinction between right and wrong, a single-minded wife, a spotless life and unlimited prospects.

In the face of his mother making things difficult for his wife, he told her directly: "As a husband and wife, we must do our own job well so that the backyard can be stable. My son can't give birth to the bride, and the bride doesn't have to bear the burden of my future. "

In this way, the mother's difficulties will be solved in a few words, and the wife's future position in the family will be guaranteed. I have to say that Sheng Changbai's wisdom and emotional intelligence are indeed a model of a good man.

His integrity can be seen from the way he handled his mother poisoning his grandmother. Such a man with a bottom line and principles is very practical and reliable, and a woman can rely on it well.

Marrying a good man is a woman's luck, but whether you can meet a good man depends not only on a woman's luck, but also on your strength, and whether you have a strong heart and a cautious eye.

I believe that if a woman can have these things, she can choose the right man and have good happiness, just like Ming Lan said "one luck, two lives and three skills". I hope you can have them, too.

For women, good luck is very important, but strength is more important. Especially in real life, we have more choices than women in that era, so it is natural to work hard for ourselves.

I hope that every woman who has read Do You Know can understand this truth, don't always complain about others, don't always be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, be a giant first, and then pursue the happiness you want. You deserve better.