My 90-year-old Japanese grandmother told us that "the world is worth it"

The book Worth Living was written by Yoko Nakamura, a 90-year-old Japanese grandmother who has not retired. Yoko nakamura was born in Hiroshima, Japan on 1929. She was financially strapped since she was a child. /kloc-When she was 0/6 years old, she left her hometown alone and went to Osaka to make a living. Grandma Yoko went through a cruel war when she was young. After surviving, she graduated from Kansai Medical University in Osaka and became an assistant doctor. Later, she became a psychologist. She worked until she was 90. She has been sitting and visiting for more than 60 years. She is a psychologist who is quite trusted by patients and is willing to talk to her heart.

This book has a simple taste to read, as if it were some life feelings told by the old man and his grandchildren. Nowadays, the pace of life is very fast, and people's pressure is generally greater. Grandma Yoko's language seems to be a good medicine for reducing stress, and it feels very healing when read. Grandma Yoko has some original views on work, interpersonal relationship and life trough, which makes people shine at the moment. Let's share them with you:

-1- What does the job do?

When grandma Hengzi is engaged in psychological counseling, she often encounters people's worries about work: work is worthless, it can't be recognized by leaders and colleagues, and the relationship with colleagues is not harmonious ... In grandma Hengzi's view, in essence, people work for life. Work to support yourself and support your family. This view will make us lower our expectations of work, thus reducing the pressure brought by some jobs. Since I need the reward of this job, I will complain less and feel relaxed about my work.

-2- Just the right interpersonal relationship

It matters where there are people. Grandma Yoko also has her own tricks on how to create correct interpersonal relationships and reduce the friction between people. She told us that it is not advisable to make friends according to one's own preferences and lose contact.

If you have too much desire, you will calculate gains and losses when you interact with people. For example, please others and say something you don't want, but you clearly object in your heart, but you agree on the surface. If you live this life, you will become isolated. The more isolated I am, the more I want to cling to money or fame. In the view of Grandma Yoko, it is very rare to have close contact with "good people" and we need to cherish it.

People need to adjust the appropriate psychological distance when they get along with each other. If you feel uncomfortable or hurt and realize that "this person is like this", change your distance from him. There is no interpersonal relationship with a score of 100, as long as you can tell the truth to people you trust and confide in them.

-3- How to get out of the trough

Life is full of ups and downs, and it is common to experience difficulties and pains. Facing the low point of life, Grandma Yoko has a pertinent suggestion: If everything goes wrong, don't stop now. Quit your job and stay at home, or drink and overeat and ruin your health. This is something to quit. Doing so will only make the connecting flight leave you.

In adversity, slow adjustment is more appropriate than hard work. If you try your best to be equal to 100, then 60 points will be fine at this time. Live your present life step by step, and you will gradually get your life on the right track and walk out of the trough unconsciously.

In the eyes of 90-year-old Yoko's grandmother, it's no big deal whether it's family or workplace. She told us in plain language: look ahead and be as optimistic as possible. Cherish the gift of life and appreciate the beauty you meet. At the age of 90, Grandma Yoko really lived out the appearance of "human value".

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