Why do you feel that when your grandson grows up, he becomes less affectionate towards his grandparents?

This question poked me in the waist, and my grandson drifted away from us, feeling the same way as his grandparents.

First, after our grandson was born, the old couple were ecstatic. My wife waits on my daughter in the hospital, and I cook all kinds of food for her at home. On the day my grandson was born, I sent flowers to my daughter and grandson. When I left the hospital, I drove my daughter home. I named my grandson, and I chose five names for my daughter and son-in-law, because I have studied and studied Zhouyi, although I am not proficient, I also know something. Considering all aspects, we should give our grandson a good name in order to stand firm and prosper. After the grandson's full moon, my daughter and uncle always say that the grandson should be called grandparents. We are also very enthusiastic and willing to accept it, and it feels like we are closer.

Secondly, as our grandson grows up day by day, we will buy him all kinds of toys: all kinds of educational building blocks, from simple to complex, to more complex, to play with our grandson. I bought him a small bed for his grandson to sleep in. When he can walk, he starts to buy a handcart, then a tricycle, a bicycle, and finally a mountain bike ... We all want to do it for him step by step to make him grow up happily.

Third, the grandson didn't go to kindergarten, that is, we watched him, and we watched him help him study. Before going to primary school, he studied for an hour every morning and afternoon, learning Chinese (learning to write 500 words), learning addition, subtraction, multiplication and division within 500 mathematics, and teaching her to learn paper-cutting and painting. Because we are the oldest students before the Cultural Revolution, there is still a certain foundation for teaching children to learn these things. The rest of the time is playing football and volleyball in the yard of the community, and playing with children of the same age in the yard to cultivate children's group feelings.

Fourth, after the grandson went to primary school, he went to his grandparents' home in other places one after another and gradually became familiar with it. Every time he comes back from his grandparents' home, he is always very happy and has endless words for his grandparents. This may be a blood relationship! He gradually understood that his surname was his father's surname and his father's surname was his grandfather's surname. He knows whose family he is and whose roots he is. Probably from the third grade of primary school, his relationship with us gradually alienated, from calling us grandparents to calling them grandparents, without that kind of enthusiasm and closeness. Then junior high school and high school associate with us and it becomes a routine. Now that I'm in college, I'm estranged from us and seldom come to our home.

This process is the growth process of our grandson, and our enthusiasm for our grandson may have been there from the beginning. However, we have no regrets. After all, our grandson brought us a lot of joy in the process of growing up. We still hope that our grandson can stand tall and prosper.

I also tell you that I am an only child. My daughter has been living with us. My son-in-law's hometown is in the western regions, and our granddaughter was brought up. All expenses are ours. It was the Spring Festival before kindergarten, and my granddaughter was three years old. She always calls me grandpa. That year, my daughter took a month off to visit her relatives. The three of them drove back to her husband's house for the New Year, and returned there more than 20 days later and never left. Look at me and smile. I went up and reported to her with distress that grandpa missed you. My granddaughter opened her mouth and said a word, which made me feel at a loss. You are not a grandfather. You never left me from birth to three years old, so you can call me grandpa when you can talk. After walking for more than 20 days, I met her grandfather for the first time and didn't even recognize me as a grandfather. I said, what did you call me? She thought about it and said, then I'll call you teacher, because I read to her and tell stories every day. I said you are going to kindergarten soon. There are many teachers in that school. How can you tell the difference? Granddaughter went on to say, I call you xu teacher (because my surname is Xu). Alas, I have been in kindergarten for more than half a year before I was called grandpa. Every time I pick her up from kindergarten, she calls me xu teacher, which makes other parents who don't know the truth think that I am a teacher. Until one time, she had a bad cold and cough, and took her to the hospital to hang water every day. Look at her, she can't sit still for a while, let me take a bottle. Suddenly one day, my granddaughter who was hanging water called me, grandpa, grandpa, and grandpa called me several times in a row, which made my eyes moist and buried my head in my arms, and I felt unspeakable in my heart. You've been calling me grandpa ever since. I'm eight years old and I'm in Grade Two. In my opinion, this is not a matter of kinship, but a matter of blood relationship. Granddaughter, granddaughter with son-in-law, never close by blood.

I don't think that's quite right. Under normal circumstances, I should be close to both sides. Now my wife and I are replacing my granddaughter. My idea is that as long as I like her, it's enough.

My mother loved her grandchildren all her life. My sister has taken her grandchildren with her since she gave birth to a child. She has delicious food and has to leave it to her grandchildren. She must go to her sister's house and bring her grandchildren to the party so that they can have good food. I often buy clothes and shoes for my grandchildren and give them pocket money. When my father and mother died, our brothers and sisters all burst into tears. We didn't see two grandchildren shed a tear, nor did we see my grandson visit my parents once. My nephew said that my father was partial to his grandson and was not good to them. This is the result of loving grandchildren.

My eldest brother and I are both heartbroken. I remember that under the guidance of my parents, our family treats our grandson as a baby, hoping that his grandson can make a difference. No one dares to say an ugly word, and no one dares to give him a look. All the delicious food was left to his grandson. This is the result of hurting my grandson.

Later, my father saw it and felt that my grandson was not familiar with it at all. You treat him thousands of times, and once he is not good, he always remembers his grandparents' kisses. Later, my father often said, "Grandson is the dog on the door. Eat and leave." It means that a grandson can never kiss his grandson, only eat you and drink you, and finally scold you. Father said that this is the magic of blood, so China's "family inheritance has been passed down from man to woman since ancient times, because the daughter married someone else's house, and the son-in-law and grandson had no sons and grandchildren. This is a close relationship in the bones, which is connected by blood and cannot be changed.

When it comes to younger sister, being kind to her grandson is better than other grandparents, making them jealous all the time and saying that she wants to buy her grandson's heart. Because my sister's daughter was not at home, my sister paid all the living expenses of her grandson until she was a teenager.

However, after being sensible, the grandson was very close to his grandparents, listened to their words and ignored my sister. I was so angry that my sister burst into tears. Since then, my heart has cooled, and I will never send food or drink to my grandson again.

My sister often secretly warns me that there are two people in the world who can't be baiwenhang, one is a son-in-law and the other is a grandson. You can't buy his heart if you open your heart to them. He always treats you like an outsider. I think, do you remember how my daughter and son treated grandparents?

So I have always been closer to my nephew than my nephew, because my nephew is in the same strain as us, the root of our parents, and my nephew has become an outsider. No matter how good you are to him, his weight in his heart is not as good as that of his grandparents.

After I got married, my mother-in-law tried her best to step on my son and me in order to raise her daughter. She often tells her not to rely on us to provide for the elderly in the future, but to rely on her daughter's grandson to provide for the elderly, and she also instigates her husband.

That's what my mother-in-law said. She's done it all her life. I am old now, and I have tried my best to raise my seven grandchildren, none of whom are here. What about my children? Because she always ignored us, kicked us out of the house for more than 20 years, and never recognized her grandchildren. So the grandson and she are strangers and have no feelings. Now, my mother-in-law is lonely, and her three daughters and seven grandchildren have run away without a trace, although they are close to her.

I often think of my mother-in-law's arrogant scolding. In the future, we should rely on our daughters and grandchildren to provide for the elderly and leave all the property at home to our grandchildren.

So, now I look on coldly, waiting for my mother-in-law's daughter and grandson to support her!

Yes, I have the same experience. I have brought my grandson since I was a child, and I look up to him bit by bit. Later, I sent him to pick him up every day, rain or shine, to help the children finish their studies. After going to college, especially after working, my wife and I feel that our grandchildren are less dependent on us, and we can hear that we are relatives and grandparents are our own families. I wasn't used to it at first, but then I thought about it. We just help my parents and children raise them. For thousands of years, it is difficult to change the custom of taking my father's surname as the main surname in China, which has laid the groundwork for me to alienate my grandparents when I grow up.

This is blood relationship.

When my grandson was a child, he followed his mother to his grandmother's house and felt the benefits of going out to eat snacks with relatives. In fact, the most fundamental thing is to go to grandma's house and play with cousins of the same age. By the beginning of junior high school, he will feel less and less about his grandmother's house with the change of age and study.

There is a saying: blind grandma, blind aunt and blind scorpion are just a big flower skin. Grandchildren have deep-rooted feelings for grandparents, even if there is a little contradiction between daughter-in-law and in-laws, it will never affect their feelings for grandparents! A story my grandfather told me when I was a child also fully explained everything: in ancient times, there was an old man wandering around the farmland with his grandson. As it is summer, both children are thirsty and want to drink water. So the old man went to the well to fetch water, but the old man accidentally fell down. Looking at the expressions of the two children, the grandson is crying, grandpa can't die, I want grandpa. Grandson said, my grandfather is at home. The old man didn't drown either, which was the reaction of the old man to test the two children. Therefore, an old woman doesn't have to worry. Even if you bring up a grandson, his surname and background determine his attitude towards life when he grows up. Including the relationship between family and relatives!

Grandparents are family members and grandparents are relatives.

Is it interesting to talk about this all day? No matter who you kiss, at the present age of marriage, when your grandson or grandson has the ability to honor his grandparents, they will probably live to be almost 80 years old, and half of them have no chance. When the old man takes his grandson, he actually helps the child, as long as the child knows how to be grateful. Children who have worked hard to raise don't necessarily listen to their parents, let alone their grandchildren.

I have personal experience. When I was young, I used to live in my grandparents' house. At that time, my grandparents were educated and educated. When I was a child, they taught me to read, and they were very hard on me, so I was a little afraid of them.

When I grow up, I'm about seven or eight years old. At that time, my parents were very busy at work. Every winter and summer vacation, my parents always want me to stay with my grandparents for a while. At first, I will grit my teeth, and then I don't want to go. I feel uncomfortable living in my grandparents' house.

With grandparents, you won't feel this way. When I was a child, I especially liked to go to my grandparents' house. Sometimes I want to buy things and ask my parents for money. If they don't give it, I'll go to my grandfather's house. As long as I don't go home and talk, my grandfather will know what I want to do. He would ask me, "How much is it this time?" Then he gave me money directly, and he gave me more than he asked for every time, and of course he spoiled me a little.

When I grew up, my grandparents grew up, and I learned to be sensible. Every time I come home from school, I go to their home first, chat with them and say something to them. My grandparents feel distressed every time they see me. Therefore, my feelings with my grandparents have always been deeper than those of my grandparents.

When grandchildren grow up, their relationship with grandparents is not as close as theirs. There are several reasons:

Grandchildren and grandparents have an unbreakable blood relationship, and of course they will be closer. As the saying goes, "blood is thicker than water", which has always been the case. Although grandparents also love their grandchildren, they are grandchildren after all, and the word "foreign" shows that their relationship is far away.

Grandson has lived with his parents, grandparents since childhood. Grandparents are his closest relatives, second only to his parents, because they have taken him with them since childhood, played with him, watched him grow up, loved him since childhood and even spoiled him. Grandparents buy whatever their grandchildren want to eat, and grandparents do whatever their grandchildren want to eat. Basically, they will do anything their grandchildren want.

However, grandparents have only a handful of time to see their grandchildren, so they can't stay with him all the time, and they don't pay as much as grandparents. In addition to holidays, I rarely see my grandchildren on weekdays, and naturally I have a sense of distance.

Grandparents and grandparents' living environment is very different for grandchildren. One is close to his home and easy to accept, the other is different and needs him to adapt.

Grandparents and grandchildren are a big family, and many of them have similar living habits. Grandchildren go to grandparents' homes more intimately, and grandparents are unfamiliar with their habits because their grandchildren don't go often.

Different family environment and long-term contact make grandchildren feel different. They can be familiar with their grandparents, but they are relatively unfamiliar with them.

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Different times have different family structures. I'm from the countryside, and I'm talking about the situation in the countryside. In the sixties and seventies, the average family had three to five children. After the 1980s, family planning only gave birth to one child, and there were more than two. Rural customs, girls get married, it is difficult to take care of their younger brothers and sisters, and they can only do their best to be filial to their parents. As for the relationship with grandparents, unconditionally, grandparents are close and family. What is a foreign family? Grandma is the distant home of parents. This is the law of nature. But now there are many only children, depending on who is good and who is bad. Finally, grandpa's milk is the initial foundation. Right? I know, for reference.

A: This is the reality. This is a traditional and secular life prejudice.

Grandma and grandpa were so kind to their grandchildren when they were young, and they tried their best to contribute. When I grow up, I feel separated by a layer of skin, and I have never been so enthusiastic as my grandparents. That is the reality. Especially grandma's enthusiasm for the girl's family, as long as there is something at home, she will give it at once. This spirit is rare in this world. However, when grandparents were seriously ill, only the son, daughter-in-law, grandson and granddaughter came forward, but the girl family was indifferent, and the occasional small gift was moved to tears. The long-term care of the son is an obligation in the hearts of the elderly.

Secular prejudice, family members are different from Hakkas, which is a secular vision. Grandchildren have never been as enthusiastic about grandparents as grandchildren, and every family has a hard time!