Keeping your mouth shut and not exposing your child's shortcomings is the greatest achievement of parents.

To be honest, have you ever exposed your child's shortcomings? For example, when discussing children, many of our parents are used to saying that children are not good, because they think it is modest. For example, if someone praises a child's good study, you must say that the child is not good, and you should think about it if you rack your brains.

I have a deep memory of my childhood. My brother and I grew up in an ordinary family. I lived in my aunt's house for a long time when I was a child. At that time, my mother had a very good friend. They go to the vegetable market to sell vegetables and fruits together. Up to now, this aunt's husband started his own business and became a millionaire.

At that time, my aunt lived next door to us and often chatted with her mother. For example, she will tell my mother that your daughter is very conscious, and you should arrange your own time when studying, so don't worry. My mom would say no, no, no, I don't know where it came from. She saw it, so I don't understand.

My aunt's daughter is one year younger than me, and her grades are ok. At that time, she often played with me Many times, she didn't finish her homework. My aunt will beat her daughter. She is strict with her daughter, but her aunt is very kind to good people and very bad to bad people.

At that time, my hair was long, black and beautiful. The next door keeps saying that my hair is so beautiful. My mother will also say that I am just a little girl now, and my aunt will say that my daughter doesn't have that kind of hair.

Again, if I do well in the exam, my parents usually need to sign the exam, and my mother knows the score very well. At that time, the aunt will discuss with her mother, and her mother also said that she only did better in the exam this time, as if there was nothing to look at. I've always had a hard time understanding my mother's thoughts. So far, my mother and I have discussed why you always have to live with such inferiority.

Tell me more about my aunt who is the head of the family. They are also a son and a daughter. On the surface, my son seems very gentle and obedient during his study. Don't know why! The aunt next door is very good at praising the children, saying that her son is sensible, her daughter is diligent and has good grades. They have a nice house of their own. Life is also easy.

Later, my daughter didn't get into a good middle school in high school. At that time, I realized that her daughter's goodness was all her own. Then her son looks very gentle. Now that everyone is gone, he doesn't want to contact his parents, so he is rebellious. I think these things must have been foretold, but this aunt never speaks ill of her children to outsiders.

Tell outsiders that you will only be laughed at, or that your children will feel inferior. It turned out that I was so miserable in front of my parents. Tell outsiders that you can't solve this problem, you just spit it out and are not responsible for the children.

Growing up is like being in a big yard. Rows of children older than me left a deep impression on me. For children, I suggest parents say more good things and don't need to share their shortcomings with friends.

My relative has a child in high school. Every time I visit, my mother will tell me about her. I said, "Actually, the child is quite good. I think he is very conscious, and he is very serious every time he does his homework. " She would say, "Stop talking about him, unconsciously!

I often secretly look at my mobile phone and put it in my book. I thought we didn't know that he was still angry or unhappy. ""don't listen to my mother, I'm not like that. "

Sometimes he blushes and explains to us, and sometimes he buries his head and says nothing. In fact, such a big child, if he hears his mother say this to others, his heart will definitely feel bad.

However, many parents are used to doing this, and they don't feel too much at all. Find the child's shortcomings, and then zoom in and hold on, thinking it's for the good of the child. Not only do I talk about it every day, but I also like to talk to my relatives and friends.

In order to do this, you can make your child listen to yourself and correct it immediately. For children, it is better to expose shortcomings like this than to criticize. Because children can't accept "exposing shortcomings" more than criticism. Because sometimes criticism comes first, it is acceptable for parents to take care of their feelings.

However, disclosure sometimes comes so suddenly that you don't even have time to react. Look at the mood of adults, not care about the occasion.

Every child cares about his face. Take my daughter for example. She is only 3 years old, but she is very excited and willing to cooperate. You say she's not, turn your face at once. Children have their own faces. We should help correct our mistakes together, and don't say that your child is naughty in front of relatives and friends.

I especially admire my sister. I have about eight sisters, all cousins. Now there are about five children in high school. Sisters share their experiences in educating their children.

My sister said that when I was a child, I helped her check her homework and found mistakes. I can't tell her right away. All I can say is, I hinted a little, and the child found out right away. If you say that she did her homework wrong, the child will be unhappy.

In such a good environment and a family with high emotional intelligence, she was admitted to No.1 Middle School with excellent results and saw many awards at home. It turns out that she is still in the top 50 of middle school, and this result is really good. My sister talked to us except that she didn't like eating and was picky about food.

You might say that children under 50 are not excellent? Everyone has their own weaknesses, which only parents know. For example, she doesn't like talking, doesn't take a shower, doesn't change clothes ... but these are not topics that parents can discuss with others at will.

There is also a sister. She said that her son always observes where his classmates have learned and whether they have fallen behind. He has attached great importance to keeping up with others since he was a child, and he is also conscious at ordinary times. From beginning to end, there was not a word that was bad for his children. He felt that his son's smile was sweet and he was very happy.

I once asked a teacher at a training meeting, "A mother with a child raised her hand". At that time, she was young. The teacher asked, "Who here thinks her children are not beautiful, please raise your hand?" No one raised their hands. If you think your child is not good, why should you let the teacher let the leader let the friend think she is good?

After my daughter was born, I popularized knowledge to my mother. You can't talk about her shortcomings in front of relatives and friends. You should praise her more. For bad daily life, communicate with your daughter at home and slowly improve yourself, and don't let your child feel humiliated.

In the process of raising children, don't think that children have a big temper, but try to read their minds. We should care about their inner thoughts and understand their feelings. Learn to accept their shortcomings, not expose them. Some jokes should not be played and some secrets should not be revealed. This is respect. Keeping your mouth shut and not exposing your child's shortcomings is the greatest achievement of parents.