How to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? I'm driven crazy

Tip 1: Ask for more effort, don’t ask for gain. A big reason for the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that both parties think they are the one who gives the most. The mother-in-law thinks that it is not easy to raise her son after working hard for half her life. She finally got a wife for her son, but she cannot enjoy the blessings. She also has to face difficulties from her ignorant daughter-in-law all day long. It is really annoying. The daughter-in-law thinks that she comes to live with her husband's family and does not need to be supported by her husband's family. She is the one who gives the most to her husband's family by giving birth to sons and daughters. If her mother-in-law continues to let her do this and that, she really does not regard herself as a family member. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law deal with the relationship with this kind of thinking all day long, the relationship between the two will be difficult to manage. Now, it is better for the two of them to have some quiet time and work with a calm mind. Based on the idea of ??"it's all for the family", I think the relationship between the two will definitely ease. Tip 2: Live separately and communicate diligently. For a long time, we have advocated parents-in-law and sons living together as one family. We have noticed that this is a unique product of farming society. For the convenience of labor and taking care of the family, this family model is understandable. However, we have entered a new era, and young people are more advanced and open-minded. If this model is still adopted, communication between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may lead to a very embarrassing situation. Therefore, it is a better method to advocate that the parents-in-law’s family and the daughter-in-law’s family live separately. Distance produces beauty, and in this relaxation, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can produce beauty in a relatively good distance. Tip 3: The son mediates and talks in the middle. As we all know, if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot handle the relationship well, the son will not only be in a very embarrassing situation, but may also create a vicious circle and even hurt the family. However, as a son and a man, while bearing these pressures, you must also have ways to mediate. When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel, if the matter is caused by the mother-in-law, then as a son, he should coax the daughter-in-law well and let the daughter-in-law not get angry with the mother based on the principle of filial piety. The elder is greater. If the incident is caused by the daughter-in-law, the son should communicate well with his wife, explain the ins and outs of the matter calmly, and then apologize to the mother. Tip 4: Participate in interactions, laugh and communicate. Communication is a good way to handle all kinds of relationships, especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can participate in more family activities, such as family birthday parties, dinner parties, parent-child activities, travel, etc. In this way, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is likely to become a relationship of friends, and both parties will be more happy together. With the development of the economy today, it is also a good way to participate in psychological counseling activities and seek solutions from professional psychological counseling institutions to solve the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is related to the happiness and harmony of the family. I hope the above four tips can become a secret for you as a mother-in-law and as a daughter-in-law in your future life. How to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law 2 1. Too lazy to do anything and not grateful. When many women are in love, they spend their boyfriend's money lavishly and point fingers at their boyfriends, and then they don't work hard themselves. They are too lazy to do anything. Maybe Your boyfriend and future in-laws can accept all this before marriage. After all, you haven't been married before. Your future in-laws don't know how lazy you are. They are tolerant, so they don't say much. The overall life before marriage is harmonious. . But after marriage, life is about daily necessities and daily necessities. Suddenly, your husband’s family discovers that your daughter-in-law is too lazy and doesn’t do anything at home, so they point her son to do it. Then they find that the money you earn every month is not enough to spend on yourself. She must let her son spend the pensions of the two elders. Gradually, they discover that you are greedy, lazy, and ungrateful, so they are no longer polite to you. Gradually, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law becomes worse and worse, and finally cannot be reconciled. At this time, you You will also find that your husband is also siding with your mother-in-law, because you have too many human shortcomings. Long-term relationship after marriage has also made your human shortcomings infinitely magnified. At this time, your husband has already I will never love you again.

2. Scolding the husband in front of the mother-in-law or complaining about the mother-in-law in front of the husband. After marriage, whether it is scolding the husband in front of the mother-in-law or complaining about the mother-in-law in front of the husband, this is very unwise behavior. It is the behavior of a stupid woman. The most taboo thing in marriage is for you to accuse your husband in front of your mother-in-law and scold him until he can't hold his head up. You must know that your mother-in-law is your husband's mother. What mother is willing to let others say something bad about her son? . Similarly, in marriage, you cannot speak ill of your mother-in-law in front of your husband, unless your mother-in-law is really too much, and even your husband finds it difficult to stand it. Otherwise, you cannot complain about your mother-in-law. No one is a saint, and no one can do anything. However, just because your mother-in-law treats you badly once or twice does not mean that your mother-in-law is necessarily bad. What you have to do is to be tolerant rather than say bad things about your mother-in-law. 3. Always trying to distance the relationship between your husband and your mother-in-law. If after marriage, you always want to drive a wedge between your husband and your mother-in-law, then you are not a qualified wife. Just like if someone is driving a wedge between your husband and wife, From your point of view, you cannot accept it, and the same is true for the mother-son relationship. No mother or son would be willing for others to instigate their mother-son relationship, even if you are this man's wife. When you live your life with your heart and get along with others, you will understand how to get along with your mother-in-law. In a marriage, if you want a happy life, it is not just about maintaining the relationship between husband and wife, but also the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. What you need to maintain most is that two people live a life, but marriage is not a matter of two people. It is the union of two families. Therefore, in marriage, women must consider the handling of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.