Both are your sons, why are they treated differently?

Brother: "Mom, please accompany me to do my homework."

Me: "I still want to see my brother, you can do it yourself."

After a while I When I entered the house, I saw my brother looking unhappy. I said, "You don't look happy!". He hesitated and said, "Why did you forget about it after you had a younger brother?" I said, "Do you think I have less time to spend with you?" He said yes, and then he cried. . I quickly explained to him that my younger brother was still young and needed his mother more, so, "Then why is your son also treated so unfairly?" my brother asked. I quickly talked about the benefits of being the eldest child. You see, you can see the colorful world outside when you go to school. My younger brother is so looking forward to going out to see it, because he can only stay at home because of the cold weather. Winter vacation is coming soon. I will take you out to play during the vacation. My brother felt that he had an advantage over his younger brother, so he wiped his tears and continued to do his homework. Seeing him cry makes me feel a little sad. After having a younger brother, I spend less time with him. Although my older brother is already 7 years old, he also needs his mother's company, attention, care and more time. Pay attention to brother. Spend more time paying attention to the big baby at home.

Before my younger brother was born, I was afraid that my older brother would not be able to accept my younger brother well, so I did some homework. I read "Second Childhood", bought a picture book for my younger brother to read, and asked my older brother to lie on my belly and listen. Listening to the noise inside, when my younger brother was just born, in order to comfort him, I bought him toys and gave him little surprises every now and then. At that time, my brother slept most of the time. Even if he was awake, as long as I watched him while playing in bed, I still had enough time to spend with him. As my brother grew up, he became more and more active, and he might be in danger if he wasn't careful, so he didn't dare to leave his brother even half a step, which led to my brother giving me a warning. I knew that this was the jealousy that my brother had accumulated for a long time and exploded.

? Usually the elder brother is jealous of the younger brother everywhere. For example, when the elder brother watches his younger brother eat, he also wants to eat, and I allow it. Sometimes when my father is not at home, my brother will ask to sleep with us, and I allow him.

? Jealousy is an emotional and emotional experience that accompanies every child throughout his life. Russell pointed out that children are jealous when they are less than 1 year old. My younger brother is already 1 year old. I have not discovered his jealousy yet. As the younger brother grows up, both of them will have the desire to monopolize their mother.

As a mother, I need to give each child independent time with me.