My mother-in-law asked me to give the dowry room to my brother-in-law. After listening to my brother-in-law, I readily agreed. what do you think?

I think it is best for a person to be reasonable and know how to advance and retreat. Maybe the old people are old because their ideas are a little weird and confused, but the young people don't have such ideas and attitudes. It is out of this point of view and understanding that I decided to suffer some losses myself and help my brother-in-law through the immediate difficulties.

My family is in good condition, coming from a middle-class family and living a well-off life. My husband's family is average. My father-in-law died a few years ago, and only one mother-in-law has retired. He is not an only child, and there is an unmarried brother below, which is worse than my family. But he is the kind of person who is strong and willing to struggle, because he feels like a potential stock. In the end, my parents didn't object to our association. They liked him very much. When we got married, my family married an apartment and said it was our nest. But my husband also prepared the wedding room on his own, so I paid the dowry and kept collecting the rent. In this way, our life will be relatively rich, with food and clothing, a house and a car, and savings, all of which are envied by people around us.

Speaking of my brother-in-law, my husband said that he was spoiled since childhood, and his family loved him very much, especially my mother-in-law. Compared with my two sons, my husband's status is much lower. Although he has never been abused, he has not received much attention from his parents. He has been on his own since he was a child, but even if I catch a cold and sneeze at my brother-in-law, my mother-in-law will be extremely nervous. I listened to it as a joke. After all, my brother-in-law has graduated from college for several years now, and she is also trying to start her own business. No matter how exquisite my husband said he used to be, now I see a young man who works hard, not relying on his family. I sometimes wonder if my husband is jealous and thinks that his brother-in-law has stolen the love of his parents, so he said these strange words.

But then I realized that what my husband said was true. Because not long ago, one day my mother-in-law came to me to discuss things. She asked me if I could let my brother-in-law live in my house after the lease expired and not rent it to others. Brother-in-law has a girlfriend but can't afford a house. Without a house, people won't agree to their marriage. I am not happy in my heart. I just said to think about it, but I didn't agree at that time. Of course, this concerns my interests and rights. This is the property of my family and has nothing to do with my husband's family. If I lend it to my brother-in-law, I will lose a considerable monthly rent. Why? But after a day, my brother-in-law found me and offered to apologize to me, saying that I didn't expect my mother-in-law to do this. He didn't know until later. He felt very rude and made a special trip to say sorry to her. After that, he secretly gave me 50 thousand, saying it was rent, saying that my mother-in-law was too considerate of him, but he knew he couldn't take advantage of me.

I didn't expect my brother-in-law to be so sensible. After listening to my brother-in-law, I returned the money to him at that time. Anyway, we can live well without rent. Since my brother-in-law is sensible, I decided to help him and let him live until he buys his own house. Of course, if I follow my mother-in-law's route, I may not buy it at all. The same thing, two different practices, the final result will be completely opposite. Let's talk about it. What is the key reason?