What do you think of death?

1. Death is inevitable, and everyone is approaching it. This is the end point for everyone, no one is exception, and this is also the fairest place for people.

2. Since death is unavoidable, there is no point in fearing it. The most important thing is to live every day well.

3. According to the survey, the thing that people regret most before death is what they did not do, so while you are young, you can experience the beauty of life. This is the meaning of living.

4. I had an operation under general anesthesia in 2019 and was unconscious on the operating table for 4 hours. In fact, death is not terrible. What is truly terrible is suffering.

5. Everyone comes and dies alone, so you are the most important. First of all, you have to be a completely independent person. At the critical moment, no one is with you and no one can empathize with you.

6. People have no choice when it comes to death, but money and big hospitals can really extend life. So if you want to live a long life, you can only rely on good health and making more money, and nothing else is of use.

7. There was a time when I was most afraid of death, but now I see that the most terrifying thing is not the day of death, but the lack of hope and quality in living.

8. The four greatest blessings for people nowadays are good life, less illness, more money, and quick death. I feel the same way and hope that on the day of my death, I and others will suffer less and not cause any trouble to my family.

9. Life and death are symmetrical to each other and there is no choice. But once you come to this world, you must make these 30,000 days as wonderful as possible.

It is said that the earth has existed for 4.6 billion years, and among the human beings who have lived through this period, no one is more than 200 years old. Therefore, death is the ultimate question. Over 40 years old, let me answer this question. Everyone who lives to old age was once young, and not necessarily young people can live to old age.

01. The only fair thing in the world

Some people think that birth and death are two fair things for everyone. In fact, birth is not fair - being born in an emperor's family The basic conditions of being born into a farmer's family are different. Some people's lives are at the finish line, while others are destined to keep running.

Death is the only fair thing, and the ending is the same for everyone, although immortality seems to be the pursuit of some people.

Perhaps you can live a better life if you can look death in the eye.

02. Everyone has their own considerations when facing death

I have been afraid of death since I was about 12 years old. I suddenly thought that there would be nothing after death, as if there would never be anything in the future. Going through this world, my heart is filled with fear.

Correct reading can heal everything. The following two books and one story established my understanding of death.

"Looking Directly at the Sun"

How does a 70-year-old man view death? Irvin D. Yalom wrote these as "Looking Directly at the Sun".

He writes wisely about how we should live rightly without the religious promise of eternal life after death and without the self-deception of temporarily forgetting death. How can we face the last moment with a calm mind!

We are afraid of death because nothing will be left after death. Think about it, everything we cherish, love, and hate will lose its meaning to us because we disappear (in fact, sleeping is death. Alternative experiences, so some people are so afraid of sleeping that it can develop into a disease), but the book mentions that there will be fluctuating effects - that is, after we die, we can still affect others in various forms, such as the books we have written and the words we have said. All of them influence future generations in every detail. The example in the book is that of a female teacher who was praised by her students' children many years later, and she suddenly realized that she would still have a chance to be remembered after her death, and she felt open-minded.

I don’t necessarily impact the world intentionally, but I think everyone should leave something meaningful to the world during their lifetime. If it feels like it’s a bit too big to say this, then try our best to leave something for our families. Useful things, give your wife the most passionate and sincere love, give your children the correct values ??and education, and give your parents the most sincere gratitude. All of these may not be difficult for us, but they are very meaningful.

Even mere mortals have the opportunity to impact the world.

"The Sunflower Ignores the Sun"

The book tells the story of a little girl who was diagnosed with a physical problem very early and underwent constant surgeries and various treatments, and died at a young age. this world.

If this matter were written by a domestic author, it would probably be a new tragic story.

The author Chen Zijin (Jin) spent his short time in the world with joy. There is no resentment or sorrow in the book, and there is no question: "Why me?"

Maybe "why can't it be you" should be asked more.

The cover of the book has the slogan "A brave soul fighting for life". After reading it, you will find that this slogan is actually extremely inaccurate.

This book writes about a happy life and a calm future facing darkness. I can feel the hardships the author has experienced from the book, and at the same time, I can better understand the author's open-minded and cheerful mood.

Chen Zijin left this world on August 28, 2006. According to Christianity, it is called: Yong'an Lord. Although I do not believe in the Lord, I still wrote on the inside of the book, "On August 28, 2006, there was another smiling angel in heaven."

There are always some people who can transcend death.

Story: The True Master

Quoted from "The Hidden Leaf".

Tajima Mamoru Yagyu was a great kendo master and the swordsmanship teacher of the then shogun Tokugawa Iemitsu.

One day, a Hatamoto came to Tajima Mamoru's residence and asked Tajima Mamoru to be his swordsmanship teacher. But Ma Shou said: "It seems that you are already a master of swordsmanship. Before we become master and apprentice, please tell us which sect you are from!"

Hatamoto replied: "Sorry , I have never learned kendo."

"Are you going to tease me? My eyes are normal."

"I'm sorry, but I don't know what to say."

Because the guest’s denial was very clear, but after Ma Shou thought about it for a moment, he finally asked: "Since you said that, there is nothing wrong. But although it is difficult to explain clearly, you must be some kind of master. Wrong. "

"If I must say it, I will say it. In fact, I only succeeded in learning one thing. When I was a teenager, I swore that as a child. Samurai, never fear death. For many years I have struggled with this problem. Now I am no longer bothered by it."

"Exactly." Tajima Mamoru shouted: "Exactly that. My judgment is not wrong. The ultimate goal of kendo is to no longer be afraid of death. I have taught hundreds of disciples in kendo, but No one can achieve that highest level of enlightenment without learning skills. You are already an excellent master."

Embrace death!

03. The real key is how we live

In recent years, we have often seen news of deaths in the prime of life, not only due to accidents, but also due to overwork and illness. of.

How we die is not important to some extent, the real key is how we live.

The following is a story about a fellow from Tianjin - Bai Fangli.

Uncle Bai is from Tianjin and has been riding three wheels to help students from the age of 77 to 92. When he fell ill at the age of 93, a reporter went to interview him and asked: "Are you going to ride a three-wheeler to earn money after you recover?" (Journalist sister, you must have been dead for many years at 93!!!)

The uncle was illiterate but he was honest and said, "I am too old to ride anymore, but if it gets really good, I can watch the car and continue to donate money."

The uncle said: " Everyone enjoys their own happiness, they enjoy their own happiness, and I enjoy my own happiness. I don’t even expect to support my son. What I am most happy about is donating money so that the children can go to school.

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Yesterday, I saw a question “If you knew you were going to die in a few days, what things would make you regret?” If you were allowed to live for another five years, what regrets would you be prepared to make up for? ”

My answer is: No regrets, it’s okay now. I just need to say goodbye to my family and friends. After voluntarily retiring in 2015, I live every day as if it was my last. No regrets Basic requirements. Read whatever you want; spend a lot of time with your spouse and children, go out for walks often; exercise every day and enjoy it!

If the last day comes unexpectedly, that’s fine! OK, say "goodbye".

No matter how long you live, live happily every day.

Live each day seriously.

How about you. How to deal with death, maybe how to face nature. Even though we know that death is inevitable sooner or later, we still resist stubbornly and try our best to pretend that death is inevitable. Human nature is greed and fear. It is greed. Such a prosperous world represents the fear of Black Sunday. Maybe our minds are clear about this, but there is still an immortal demon living in our hearts. The patients were full of tubes and looked for their relatives with fearful and dull eyes... The rich people tried their best to tell the doctors that we had the money and we must continue to save them until the end. In the end, the sternum was broken and the breath was gone. Their faces were swollen and deformed. Of course, there was nothing wrong with this. The family members used money to pay their final respects, perhaps as a way of comforting themselves. It’s your job. Everyone will send away their loved ones in mutual acquiescence.

Maybe some people choose not to receive medical treatment when they know that they are at the end of their lives. Rescue or over-rescue (Qiqi Suga) Life is about countless choices. If you lose your choice in an accident, you are lucky to be able to make a choice. Let yourself be free to say goodbye to the world and your loved ones, and wait calmly at home or in the hospital. God calls... At that moment, there is no pain, and of course there is no hope. Life is like a fall. This is how I send my parents away while receiving new life... My mother is getting older, and we, the children, decided to give up on excessive resuscitation and let her hold our hands calmly and fall asleep while murmuring. She was talking to me 2 hours ago. At that moment, I knew that she had nothing to fear and nothing to do. It hurts, and it floats away calmly into a cloud. I have already decided that if God allows me to make a choice, I will make the decision not to over-rescue my life when I die. Yes, I want to leave quietly. In this world, no matter whether you have money or not, you are always on your way home. I believe that more and more people will choose to die and be the final master of their own lives.