How do I get along with my future son-in-law?

To be honest, I heard you say that this daughter-in-law town is not very good, but one's resistance is not the answer. If you really want to solve the problem, there are some methods as follows.

First of all, have a good chat with your son, and don’t always use the commanding tone of your elders. Since your son let her live here because he likes her, after all, she also has her own advantages. Maybe there are some shining points that you haven’t seen yet. Anyway, talk to your son first and see what he thinks. If he really likes this woman, he might as well try to change his attitude towards her. People's hearts are made of flesh. Although she did something wrong, your wisdom as an elder can be reflected by comparing your heart to your heart and being tolerant. If both parties are conflicted and will hold grudges, it will be your son who suffers in the end.

The premise is that your son likes her very much and hopes to have a family with him.

First of all, don’t treat her as an outsider, and don’t ask him whether he owes your son or something. Only they can tell clearly about the two of them. After all, many things about young people are still in dispute. don't know. That at least shows that I'm relatively simple at heart, and it wouldn't be worse if I did it deliberately. Treat her as your own daughter and try to communicate with her more. If you don't get it right, you will have to face it for the rest of your life. A bad relationship between the two parties will only add distress to your son. Give her a harmonious environment. Don't think of it as a gift to her, but think of it as your wisdom as elders. Ask her what she wants to eat, ask her if she likes to go for a walk, and ask her what other hobbies she has besides playing games. If you don't like her quitting her job, ask her what kind of job she wants to do and what her ideals are for the future. Don't just scold her, it will also show that you have no quality. If he has any ideals, support him mentally in his efforts. Also, why did she make the video without taking a shower? Is it possible for people to see her disheveled hair? But maybe they are old friends from the past. Anyway, compare your feelings.

Don’t always think that others owe you, because in this way you actually underestimate yourself.

You must know how to give gifts to others. Consider yourself a wise man. Although it is difficult for you to do it.

There is such a story.

Zhang San and Li Si encountered misfortune at the same time. They came to the underworld before King Yama. King Yama said: "You

can be reincarnated and start a new life. Now I only have two people here. There are two kinds of people: one is a person who takes, and the other is a person who gives. Please choose one of them!"

Zhang San is a person with a bright mind. After hearing what King Yama said, Thinking to himself that I have worked so hard all my life and have never enjoyed the carefree days of only asking for things from others, he quickly shouted to King Yama: "I choose first, I choose first, I want to choose what I want to do in my life." People who only take from others." Since King Yama stipulated that they could not choose one kind of person at the same time, Li Si had no choice but to say to King Yama: "Then I can only choose to be the one who gives."

After hearing their decision, King Yama smiled and wrote in their verdict: "Zhang San was reincarnated as a beggar in the next life, because beggars don't have to work in their lives, they only have to reach out to others to beg." Li Si looked around Be a rich man for life, because through his own efforts, Li Si can give away his wealth to others.

So you must know how to give to others appropriately to show your wisdom.