The importance of parents’ precepts and deeds

Although I have not yet become a mother and have no children to educate, my relatives around me are already very worried about educating their children. Their educational concepts and methods also gave me a lot of inspiration.

Maybe it’s because the authorities are obsessive, but bystanders know clearly; maybe it’s because I’ve read a few more years and gained more knowledge; maybe it’s because I became a teacher and deal with students every day. I can better appreciate the importance of parents to their children, and the significance of parents’ precepts and deeds.

Let’s talk about my sister-in-law and her children first. My sister-in-law grew up in a rural area and suffered a lot of hardships and sins. Therefore, as soon as I graduated from junior high school, I went to work in Guangdong to support my family. Later, I met a colleague who worked together and got married, and soon they had their own child. However, they did not have extra time and money to raise the child, so they could only take the child back to their hometown to be cared for by the child's grandmother. This care lasted for ten years!

During this period, my sister-in-law rarely came back. She only came back once to see the children on important days such as Chinese New Year and holidays, or once when the children were on summer or winter vacation. What they bring to their children is more material satisfaction, because they feel that the lack of companionship can only be made up for with material things. As long as the children eat well, wear well, and play happily, it is enough. Of course, that's what they do.

Throughout the child's primary school years, they never asked how the child was doing in his studies; they never asked the child whether he wanted to be with his parents; nor did they ask whether the child was happy in school; let alone Have deeper communication and communication with children. They think: "It's good enough for us to give you food, drink, and school. How do you want us to be your parents? How could you be as happy as you are now when we were children? You don't even have anything to eat and you still go to school."

Parents did not take up the responsibility of educating their children and gave this burden to their children's grandparents. Grandpa and grandma spend most of their time at the mahjong parlor every day, taking their children with them. The smell of smoke lingers in the mahjong parlor every day, swear words are uttered casually, and even tables are turned over in fights when losing money. Children grow up in such an environment every day. Sometimes, grandparents find it troublesome to take care of the child, so they leave the child at home and let him watch TV and play on his mobile phone. The grandparents did not give the children much education. Instead, they saw many bad habits in the mahjong parlor.

No one is aware of children’s education issues, nor does they give children a good growth environment, nor does they serve as a good role model. It was not until later, when their children had some problems in junior high school, that they realized the importance of education.

Once, the child registered for school. His class teacher told the child's grandmother: "Your child never listens to lectures in class, doesn't talk much, and doesn't participate in activities. He is a mess in studies. It's a bit difficult to get into high school with this score!"

After hearing this, the child's grandmother , went home and scolded the child: "What do you do every day? You watch TV and play with mobile phones all day long. No matter how much you don't study every day, you won't get such a low score in the test. You are a pig!" Pigs are smarter than you! From now on, you are not allowed to watch TV every day. You just stay at home and study hard every day." The child stood there silently, without any excuse or displeasure, and just did what he should do. what.

Then, grandma asked the child to go to another room to learn English. The child did as he was told, but as long as his grandmother was not with him, he would hide and play alone. Besides, grandma didn't bother to supervise him. She watched TV alone in the living room with the volume turned up very loud. Why is it so uncomfortable to see this scene? The adults turned on the TV loudly in the living room and watched it proudly, while the children were learning English in the room. What child can learn this?

This day, the child seems to have learned something. However, as long as grandma is not angry, the children can play as they want, as long as they don't get into trouble.

Later, grandma discovered that there was less money on her bank card, and she realized that her child had used the money to play games. The grandmother stomped her feet angrily, and scolded the child bloody. The scolding was mixed with a few threats: "If you dare to steal my money again, I will chop off your hands."

"The child still had the same reaction. He didn't speak or refute, and stood there indifferently.

Time is really a good medicine. It will not stop, it will dilute everyone's memory and numb everyone's nerves. . Sure enough, the child escaped again. Every time the child has a problem, the parents are too far away and have no idea how the child is growing up. This is really sad, I can only watch the child deteriorate day by day.

When the child is in the third grade of junior high school, the parents finally come back to accompany him. Seeing the child like this, he is full of complaints about the child's grandmother. It was the grandma who harmed the child. But, the child’s mother! As the child’s biological mother, you failed to fulfill your responsibilities!

When the child’s mother returned to him, she also played with her mobile phone every day. , a picture of a broken jar, conveying the idea: "Studying is not good anyway, just go out and work outside after graduation. You can also make money by learning some car repair skills." ”

This is a regrettable case. In fact, every parent will encounter the problem of educating their children. However, I hope that every parent can pay attention to their children’s education and put their children’s education on a higher level. The schedule cannot be just talked about and then put on the shelf. Moreover, parents should be more patient, more loving, and more confident. They should learn to get along with their children attentively, enter their world, discover their strengths and weaknesses, and tap their potential. , strive to cultivate them into people with ideals, culture, and quality.

The growth of children is a long process. In this process, parents must educate them themselves and cannot let anyone do it for them. , Secondly, the impact of what parents do on their children is crucial.

When children are born into this world, parents are already their children’s best teachers. This will be the golden period for parents to develop their children's early behavioral habits. At this time, the world that parents build for their children is the best place for them to observe and learn. Therefore, parents should spend more time with their children and not just because of work. Missing the opportunity to accompany them. At the same time, parents must set an example, which is the key to educating children in essence. On the one hand, parents can tell their children some principles of life and behavior through language. On the other hand, parents also You can educate your children subtly and directly through your own actions. If parents can't do something themselves, please don't ask too much of your children. As the saying goes: "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you," this is what parents and children do. An equal relationship. Parents must learn to teach through words and deeds, and cannot separate the two, otherwise they will not achieve a good educational effect.