How to understand how to make children grow up happily?

We all know that computers are composed of hardware systems and software systems. In fact, we are also composed of hardware and software. Children themselves are hardware, and their mood and way of thinking are software.

This question is actually asking how to make children better and better from hardware to software.

First of all, in a safe environment, children can grow up healthily with balanced nutrition, adequate sleep and proper exercise. For the growth of children's hardware, I believe everyone has * * * knowledge. Let me start with children's software and focus on how to make children grow up happily.

If you want to cultivate happy children, you must start with emotional adjustment, which requires parents to realize the importance of emotions and learn to deal with children's emotions scientifically. Why is emotion important? This is because emotional adjustment ability is an important factor affecting a person's mobility, intelligence and contact with others.

Positive emotions can improve the function of human body and motivate people to work hard. On the contrary, negative emotions can make people uncomfortable, slow-witted, slow-moving and inefficient. If children want to be motivated and efficient in their studies, they must cultivate positive and optimistic emotions.

People with strong emotional control ability can observe other people's emotions and drive people around them with happy emotions, so that I can get close and lasting relationships. The closer the interpersonal relationship, the happier people will be. A 75-year-long study by Harvard University shows that friendship and affection are essential to happiness. If you want your child to be happy, you must cultivate his emotional control ability, teach him how to make friends, how to maintain close relationships, and establish good friendship and affection.

After talking about emotional control, let's talk about how to cultivate children's strong thinking ability.

In order to cultivate a smart child, the first thing parents should do is to provide a safe environment for their children. For human beings, almost all skills have evolved to avoid extinction. What the brain is most concerned about is not what it has learned, but how to save itself and how to survive. What it cares about most is safety. Only when it is safe can the brain make room to think about other things. Therefore, in life, if children don't have to worry about being punished for not studying well and their parents don't love them if they accidentally do something wrong, then their mood is cheerful, which is conducive to exerting creativity and learning more vigorously.

How to operate specifically?

Respond to children's emotional expressions in a timely and appropriate manner, and patiently establish a good interactive relationship with children.

Usually, the interaction between parents and children should not only be satisfied with the physical communication of eating and drinking Lazar, but also include instructions, encouragement, guidance, conversation, jokes and so on, that is, deep interaction at the spiritual level.

Another point that parents should pay attention to is that the cultivation of children should not exceed a certain limit. Nowadays, many parents help their children to enroll in various classes, which puts too much pressure on their children and is very unfavorable to their brain development. This will not only cause their children to feel anxious, but also worry that they will not meet their parents' expectations, thus reducing their desire to learn.

To gain the growth of thinking ability, it is necessary to cultivate children's strong learning ability, and transform this learning ability into a way of thinking and migrate it to life. How to cultivate learning ability?

Here, I would like to introduce Norman's fast learning method, which is simple but effective. This method can help us really understand one thing.

Specific steps:

The first step is to choose a concept. This applies to any concept in any discipline.

The second step is to teach this concept. Explain concepts in a language that children can understand.

The third step is to sort out the memory. This step is aimed at what you can't explain clearly in the second step, and then go back to the raw materials to learn again. When you can explain clearly, close the textbook and continue to teach the concept of the second step.

The last step is to review and streamline. Try to explain clearly with the least number of words. At this time, you will find that you really understand the essence of this concept.

Li Xiaolai, who is self-taught, especially emphasizes "concept", which is the foundation of all knowledge structures. The simplest description of the so-called "independent" thinking is that it can use the correct concepts independently and correctly.

When you really understand a concept, you really understand the essence of a thing.

This method is also a way of thinking. When we encounter problems in life, we use this way of thinking to touch the essence of the problem, instead of replacing it with another specious concept.

Summary: To make children grow up happily, it is necessary to make children better and better from hardware to software. 1. Children grow up healthily in a safe environment; 2. Cultivate children's emotional control ability and let them live positively and optimistically; 3. Cultivate super learning ability, that is, thinking mode, and solve problems encountered in study and life. I think so.

When a child makes a mistake, the first thing parents do is not to be fierce, but to think from her position. In what way is guidance more useful?

There is also the need for parents' company. To make children happy, parent-child activities should interact at least three times a week!

I want to send a message to William Wells' friends, saying, "Remember, our children need a happy and energetic mother." After birth, it is common that children are easily neglected. In fact, the healthier and happier their mothers are, the healthier and happier their children will be. Many times, mothers always try their best to take care of their children, but ignore taking care of themselves. As parents, we should not only raise children with healthy ideas, but also educate them with correct emotional ways. Teacher Zhang said that "the secret of raising children lies in the time parents spend with their children", so don't treat children as children who know nothing, but as independent individuals with their own independent thinking ability like us, let them observe more, talk more about their own gains and feelings and think more about themselves. If I were a child, what would I want, not what we need as parents and what our children might need.

My niece Lingling is 8 years old this year. Every time I call my brother and tell him about her, I just sigh and say that she is dragging her feet in her studies. Sometimes she can't write a word on a topic for half an hour, and there are many mistakes. When she talked about it, she became silent and cried. She was so anxious that she just wanted to hit someone. There is nothing she can do. I am always embarrassed at this time. I remember when Lingling was two or three years old, I told him that some things should be guided from now on. He said that the baby is under great pressure to go to school now, so she can play as much as she wants before going to school, and there will be no chance to go to school later. I asked Lingling again, "Are you happy now?" She was silent.

If a child can develop naturally and freely according to his own laws, he will grow up happily. This is by no means the stocking advocated by many parents, but respecting children, being good at observation and helping children to achieve autonomous learning through inner strength.

It is not easy for adults to truly respect children when they are growing up. We need to know what children really need. We often see such a scene: parents lead their children to cross the road. If children walk slowly, parents will blame them and pull them away, which is completely regardless of their wishes. Many parents bought countless toys to make their children happy. In the process of children's growth, she should be influenced by culture, but adults keep them away from culture by playing and sleeping in the "sensitive period". A child who wants to absorb something cannot stop absorbing or moving. When he feels that there is nothing to absorb, he plays with toys to meet his needs.

Children aged 0-6 have an absorbing mind and a sensitive period. We need to provide a good environment, which can meet the inner needs of children and try to eliminate some factors that are not conducive to growth. For example, when the child is 7 or 8 months old, she likes to climb. By crawling, she can exercise her vestibular balance ability and coordinate her big movements. If the parents stop the child from crawling because the ground is not clean at this time, I think he must be unhappy. Older children especially like to imitate adults and like the kitchen. Parents usually refuse to let their children participate in our daily life on the grounds of danger, which is unpleasant for children.

May all children grow up happily!

First, give children enough encouragement. For children, nothing can inspire them to love life and pursue success more than sincere encouragement. As parents, we should fully understand and tolerate the inevitable mistakes and shortcomings in children's growth; Give timely affirmation and encouragement to the specialties and advantages of children's growth. So I can always pay attention to children, find their "bright spots" in time, give them warm appreciation and encouragement, and constantly enhance my self-confidence.

Second, letting go of children's pursuit of happy experience is helpful to cultivate their generous and cheerful personality. As parents, in order to make their children feel happy, they should let their children pursue happiness by themselves. I remember playing hide-and-seek with her when she was very young. When she found me, the excitement was indescribable. Therefore, what I want to do with my heart is to actively guide and cultivate children's extensive interests, provide them with happy choices, and let them maintain this habit of pursuing happiness and bring it into their later lives.

Third, cultivate children's positive mentality As parents, let children understand that the reason why some people are happy all their lives is not smooth sailing, but that they have strong adaptability and good mentality and can cheer up quickly. I have been practicing my strong character and letting my children know that I will never give up and never be discouraged. I pay more attention to giving guidance from behavior, helping children get positive psychological adjustment in time, constantly strengthening their tough psychological quality and having the ability to solve life problems.

This is a problem that all parents care about and have a headache: they all want their children to grow up happily, but at the same time they are trapped in how to do it!

Many parents say that it is impossible for children to learn well without suffering. Where can there be any happiness? Some parents really can't help it. It is also a kind of happiness to let your children be free. In fact, these are all incorrect understandings.

Therefore, we must first understand the true meaning of the word "happiness".

Let me give you an example first:

There are two badminton lovers who invite each other to play badminton every week, and each time they have to play for a long time until their back aches and their legs ache. Their wife asked, since it hurts, why play? Can you stop playing for so long and it doesn't hurt? They say that having this sour feeling is happiness.

There are many similar experiences in our daily life and work. In fact, it also embodies the meaning of the word "happiness": a sense of initiative and a sense of accomplishment.

Therefore, when we educate our children, we should let them grow up happily, that is, from these two aspects, how to cultivate their initiative and what kind of sense of accomplishment.

Let's talk about initiative first: no matter what you do, if you have initiative, you will overcome difficulties or unhappiness in the process of doing things. So how to cultivate children's initiative? It can be cultivated from two aspects: one is to stimulate hobbies; First, the sense of accomplishment of setting goals (short-term, medium-term and long-term); When setting goals, both parents and teachers should take a long-term view. For example, what is the purpose of children's study? Getting into a good university is undoubtedly one of the goals, but think again, what do children need in life? Of course, I will go to the society in the future, work hard and live a good life in the social environment. Therefore, when setting goals, we must not be short-sighted, but only take the child's admission to college as the only achievement goal. Such parents and teachers are irresponsible.

Secondly, talk about the sense of accomplishment: there are many achievements in the education and training of children. However, we can conclude that what children need most when they grow up is the ultimate goal of education and a sense of accomplishment. However, most parents and teachers in China have obviously not done enough in this respect, and take exam-oriented education as the only goal of cultivating children: once the children are admitted to famous universities, everyone can relax. In fact, it often backfires, and parents finally worry about it for a lifetime. This also shows that parents or teachers did not pay attention to cultivating children's initiative in the process of their children's growth, even if the children were admitted to the university. Many factors that have not been done well come from the fact that children did not use the attachment period to cultivate their initiative before the age of 7, including the cultivation of thinking ability and survival ability. In the critical attachment period of children's early childhood,

To sum up: understanding happy growth is how to cultivate children's initiative and sense of purpose in life. I can work hard for my future life goals, and I can grow up happily even if I encounter difficulties, measures and unhappiness in the process.

Pain, and happiness.

Happiness: reduce the psychological pressure brought by the surrounding environment and ensure the motivation of children to learn and explore.

Growth: let your ability be exercised and lay a good foundation for your future study and life.

We often say that education is to light a torch in a child's heart, not to fill a glass of water. This is because only by stimulating children's inner motivation will they take the initiative to learn, improve themselves and explore the world.

If you rely on indoctrination and coercion, most children will play games and rest for revenge once they enter the university and are out of the supervision of their parents. Because that's not the life they used to like, but they have been depressed. This is why many college students play games all night as soon as they enter college, play truant every day, and even often sleep until noon.

Happiness is to give children a relaxed environment. Studies have shown that in chronic stress environment (parents quarreling, too many forbidden items, etc. After a long time, the sebum alcohol secreted by children will increase, leading to emotional disorder, bad temper and obesity.

In fact, if you think about it, you will understand that even we adults feel uncomfortable being criticized by our boss every day, let alone children. We adults have experienced hardships, and we are more able to bear the pressure in our hearts, and we can vent with our friends after work. However, for the time of 1, children can't express and vent in this environment. You can imagine the pressure they are under.

As for growth, it is to lay a good foundation for the future. On the premise of happiness, children will be more willing to explore and learn. Just as we are more efficient when we are in a good mood.

And what kind of exploration is more conducive to future growth? Before the age of 6, just let the children move! Enough exercise can exercise the muscles and internal organs of the body. A large number of sensory contacts such as vision, hearing and touch can bring various sensory impressions to children's brains, and the synthesis of various sensory impressions is the embodiment of children's intelligence.

Therefore, the language thinking, mathematical thinking and spatial thinking we usually talk about are nothing more than exposing children to more of these aspects.

After the age of 6, you will begin to prepare for entering the society in the future. How to communicate with people, how to ensure good quality, how to learn the concept of money, how to manage money, how to learn the habit of learning, and how to keep the desire to explore knowledge are all the needs of children's growth.

At the same time, these are all in a relaxed and happy mood, so that we can better study and explore and travel our own system.

What is forcibly instilled only exists in the child's brain, and its value will not be much higher than that of 1000 yuan computer.

Family is the cradle of children's growth, and our parents are their first teachers. Family education is very important in children's growth. (1) For today's children, nothing can motivate them to love life and pursue success more than sincere encouragement. As parents, we should fully understand and tolerate the inevitable mistakes and shortcomings in the process of children's growth, and affirm and encourage the advantages in growth in time to continuously enhance their self-confidence. (2) In order to make children feel happy and let them pursue their own happiness, this pursuit of happiness can be brought into life. (3) Parents should let their children know that anything will happen in a person's life, and they should be adaptable, have a good attitude and be able to cheer up quickly. (4) Although children are small, they also have their own activity circles, which leads to their own joys and sorrows. They also need to have their own confidence. Therefore, parents need to spend time with their children, listen to their voices, and enlighten them, no matter how busy they are at work. In this way, children can feel happy time, enjoy the warmth of family and grow up healthily and happily.

In life, parents must not be sloppy or sloppy when taking care of their children and doing what they should do. Get close to nature and let children do what they can. You should rest assured in your study, pay more attention to the observation of rain, give your children some space, and reduce the study tension. In leisure time, let children participate in the rain, talk with adults, create a good atmosphere, and observe the progress and growth of children. The most important thing is for children's physical health and mental health.

Hello, I'm glad to answer your question.

In fact, happiness in children's world is very simple, because children are simple and easy to satisfy. For example, getting an interesting toy, eating a delicious cake and making a new friend can make them happy for a long time.

To make children grow up happily, parents should not put too much pressure on their children first. There are many parents around me, and they all follow a point, that is, they can't let their babies lose at the starting line of educating their children. Let children participate in various types of early education, interest classes and so on from the age of one or two. I have never considered whether children like it or not. My little nephew, who has just entered the kindergarten class, arranges interest classes from Monday to Sunday after school every day. He can't take a day off a week and runs from one interest class to another every day. Make a 5-year-old child busier than an adult! I once asked my little nephew, do you like your life now? He replied: "I can't help it when I see that my classmates are learning and my mother wants me to learn." It can be seen that parents now always control their children with their own ideas, but they don't necessarily like them.

In fact, it is good to let children grow up freely. Every child has a process of growth, and each child's talent is different, which needs parents to discover slowly. Taking children to nature for a walk before school, finding some interesting things and doing something they like will make them live happier!