When you encounter problems, you may wish to change your thinking mode.

Text/Flying Brother who loves to learn

‖ ? Brother Fei has something to say, focusing on the study, reading and life of college students.

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We always have this experience. When we encounter a bad thing, we often think that the result of it is very bad, and we are always worried that it will affect ourselves, thus falling into such a dilemma: the harder we try to do it well, the things will often get out of control, and the result will be more and more anxious. The more anxious you are, the worse things get.

A classmate once talked to me. He said, "Brother Fei, I have been suffering from insomnia recently. What should I do? "

"How can I lose sleep well?" I asked.

"I don't know. I just can't sleep in bed every night. I tossed and turned. The more I climb, the more I feel unable to sleep. Now I am particularly afraid of the dark, and my roommates have opinions on me. "

"Drink some hot milk or soak your feet before going to bed at night." I tried to find out what I knew and suggested to him.

"I have tried everything, and it has no effect." He said to me.

"Do you think this insomnia has an effect on you?" I asked a strange question.

"Of course, I am always absent-minded in class now, and I will have an exam in a few days. I haven't reviewed yet. Being in a bad mood every day, how can it not affect it? Brother Fei. "

I listened quietly and suddenly remembered something that happened to me a long time ago. The college entrance examination was coming that year. I often suffered from insomnia and couldn't sleep well for a while. I took several mock exams, but my grades were not satisfactory, and I felt very anxious and depressed. This state continued intermittently until the college entrance examination day.

I still couldn't sleep the night before the college entrance examination. I tossed and turned in bed, but I couldn't sleep. So I simply didn't sleep and kept my eyes open until dawn.

At that moment in the examination room, I told myself that even if I had insomnia all night, I could still do well in the exam, so I should believe in myself.

With this change of thinking, my college entrance examination went smoothly and my grades came out, much better than I expected.

Now think back to the college entrance examination. If I had thought like this classmate and stayed up all night, I thought it was definitely over. It's really over

In life, we must tolerate our imperfections, because the more we pursue perfection, the more we can't take a step, and finally we will only fall into a state of more and more anxiety.

So this classmate is the same. He just thinks that insomnia will have a great influence on him. The stronger this thought is, the more he can't sleep.

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I often hear some students tell me something "big", but many things, what they call "big", in my opinion, are just their own thinking stuck in some inertia. Many problems can be solved as long as they change their way of thinking a little.

Take the above classmate as an example. He thinks insomnia has a great influence on him because he is too worried about it. But as long as he asks himself a few questions, predicts the possibility of things happening and the solution, he will soon realize his mistake.

For this student, the worst result of insomnia is nothing more than inattention in class, which affects review. But is this completely caused by insomnia?

I said to this classmate, "when you can't sleep, you don't have to force yourself to fall asleep." Maybe you can get up and read. "

A few days later, I went to ask this classmate again: "How is insomnia now?"

"The elder brother of the fly, it's amazing. I didn't force myself to go to sleep after listening to your words. I soon slept well and my spirit was much better. " He said.

Yes, no one said that your insomnia would affect you. As long as you think that insomnia will affect your academic performance and your mental state, it will definitely affect it. In fact, this is your mentality.

As long as you think that none of these problems can affect you, it won't affect you.

Therefore, to solve many so-called problems, what we need is not any methods and skills, but a change in the way of thinking.

Don't think that you can't find a good job because you are introverted. Think about the introverts you know. Their jobs are not worse than those of extroverts. Don't deny your poor self-control. Instead, learn from those who use their time effectively and how they control it.

Those students whose academic performance is better than yours don't mean that they won't encounter your problems, and there is no special way. They just know how to change their thinking mode when they encounter problems.

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There is a story in Zhihu that a library has built a new library near the original site. After the new library is completed, all the books in the original site need to be moved to the new address. Needless to say, everyone knows that hundreds of thousands of books will be moved to a new place. How much manpower and material resources are needed? The curator is also very aware of this problem, and ordinary people may be thinking at this time, if we reduce the cost and relocate these books. However, the curator did not do this, but opened a new policy, that is, borrowing books from the old site for free, but on one condition, it must be returned to the new site after the borrowing time is up. In this way, the original thinking of moving books with huge manpower and material resources has changed into borrowing books from the old site and returning them to the new site at zero cost, which is a good example of thinking transformation ability.

Of course, the so-called "thinking upgrade" does not directly give you specific methods, but requires you to look at the problem from a unique perspective. It will make you jump out of the original "thinking inertia", enhance your perspective on problems from a deeper level, and easily solve problems in life.

So how can we change our thinking?

My suggestion is to get in touch with different perspectives, such as reading some books with different views from yours and trying to make friends with different personalities. Only when you start to try to put yourself in others' shoes will you understand others and the world more easily.

After graduating for so many years, the more people and things I have contacted, the more I feel the limitations of my thinking mode. Those things that I insisted on being right at that time seem to be just so now, and those things that I once thought were wrong and unreasonable, only in retrospect do I know that I am just too young and naive to understand.

So, when you encounter a problem, you might as well change your thinking mode.

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