What are the similarities between the New Year customs written by Liang Shiqiu?

Staying up late

Set off firecrackers

New Year’s Eve dinner

New Year greetings

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When I was a child, I didn’t particularly like celebrating the New Year. I had to stay up late on New Year’s Eve, but I couldn’t go to bed at twelve o’clock, which was a torture for a child who was used to going to bed early. The front yard and back yard were all hung with lanterns, palace lanterns and gauze lanterns. The candlelight was brilliant, and the ground was covered with sesame straw, which made a squeaking sound when stepped on. All of this was certainly interesting, but the cold wind blew so hard that my face turned red. Just very uncomfortable. Hulu and pheasants are played on the kang table, and there is no place for children. The New Year's money is not free, it should be kowtowed like pounding garlic. There are images of ancestors in the hall, and the elders pointed out: "This is your great-grandfather, great-grandmother, great-great-grandfather, great-great-grandmother..." Although they are all calm and kind, I still can't understand the meaning of pursuing the past with caution. "Girls love playboys and want sex..." But I'm afraid of those big-ass thugs and two-kickers. Others set off firecrackers, and I hid in the house and covered my ears. Each person is given a bag of mixed food. Huh, look at the layer of dust on the preserved peaches and candied dates. How can you put it in your mouth? The New Year's Eve dinner is usually very sumptuous. On the first day of the new year, people don't go to work, so New Year's dishes are actually big pot dishes. The big pot of stewed meat is made with vermicelli and mushrooms; the big pot of stewed chicken is made with winter bamboo shoots and sweet potatoes. They are all placed in extra-large pots, jars, and basins. After that, I ate whatever I wanted, and probably couldn’t run out of food for more than ten days. In fact, I cleaned up the leftovers every day. The vat full of steamed buns, the vat full of pickled cabbage, the vat full of salty pimples, I don’t know when it will bottom out. Mustard pile, vegetarian gluten, and coriander are relatively popular. On New Year's Eve, at the end of the day, the boiled dumplings were served. I was so sleepy that I was hanging upside down. How could I have the appetite to eat? I ate two of them randomly and then fell asleep, not knowing that the east was white.

I got up especially early on the first day of junior high school, combed my braids, put on new clothes, a big cotton-padded jacket, a new blue cloth robe, a black mandarin jacket, and chinchilla velvet boots with a green nose and face. When you see someone, you have to say hello and say: "New Year's greetings." At three o'clock in the morning, the mule and sedan have been harnessed, and the attendant is holding the worship box and is ordered to go to the homes of the closest people to pay New Year's greetings. If you are lucky and someone blocks your way, the best thing is to hand in a post and turn around and leave. Otherwise, after saying "please", you have to go to the hall and enter the room, and you have to kowtow upward at least three times to complete the ceremony. I have done this job several times, and I feel like a loser from the bottom of my heart.

In the first two years of the Republic of China, my grandparents passed away one after another. The family was led by my father, who carried out a reform movement in the family lifestyle and got rid of many old habits, including New Year rituals. I am no longer sent out to kowtow to New Year greetings from door to door. From now on, I am no longer a kowtower. Instead of making New Year dishes during the Chinese New Year, eight large dishes and some side dishes are ordered from Zhimei Zhai, packed into four round baskets, and picked up at home on New Year's Day. I also buy some fresh vegetables at home to supplement them. The strange thing of eating boiled dumplings for several days in a row no longer occurs in my house. My father said: "I can celebrate the New Year on whichever day I want, so why bother with everyone else?" When we visit Changdian, we must go there, not to drink soybean juice, eat boiled peas, or those big candied haws. It was because I wanted to go to Neptune Village and Fire Temple to buy used books. We have also been to Baiyun Temple once, and we ate dust along the way. The temple was crowded with people, and there were no gods anywhere. I never gave it a second thought. During the Chinese New Year, one of my most unforgettable entertainments was flying a kite. When the wind was nice and the sun was shining, I would pick up a long bamboo pole in the yard alone, holding the pole in one hand and a string string in the other, watching the kite rise slowly, riding the wind. When I got up, I encountered a strong wind for a moment and stopped steadily in the mid-air. Although I was freezing and crying, my heart felt happy.

At the beginning of the first year of the Republic of China, President Yuan Shikai instigated Cao Kun's troops stationed in Lumicang to mutiny and plundered Pingjin. That day was the twelfth day of the first lunar month, which made a tragic and absurd mistake for the people's joyful New Year holiday. It’s over. From now on, every New Year there will be a shadow in my heart that cannot be dispelled. Everyone says congratulations on the new happiness, but I don’t know where the happiness comes from.

“It’s the father’s fault if he doesn’t teach him.” Times are different now. When parents get older, their children also have the obligation to educate their parents. It sounds a bit harsh to say it, but it is often the case.

“Eat till you grow old, learn till you grow old.

"The first half of the sentence is good for everyone, but the second half is not easy to do. When a person reaches seventy or eighty years old, his face is as frozen as a pear, he is demented and yellow, and his steps are difficult, what else can you teach him? He can only play with his grandson (if he is allowed to do so) do something like this), or just sit on a wooden bench in the park and bask in the sun. At this time, children should teach their children according to their aptitude and teach their parents not to give up on themselves. They should "ring the clock every day as a monk" and "life does not begin until seventy." . As a Western proverb goes: “No dog is too old to learn new tricks. "How can humans be inferior to dogs? And many examples can be easily cited, such as:

1. Moses' grandmother was still painting when she was a hundred years old.

2. Russell IX At the age of fourteen, he was still running for world peace.

3. Bernard Shaw was still writing plays at the age of ninety-two. 4. Schweitzer was still practicing medicine in Africa at the age of eighty-nine. p>

5. Goethe was eighty-three years old when he finished writing his "Faust"

Insinuations taught him to think about others and strive for the best, and not to be content with old age and to eat all day long. . There is no hope for a young person who has no future and will repent one day. If he has no future for an older person, what hope does he have?

The child has grown up and even given birth to a boy. In the eyes of his parents, he is still a child, so Lao Laizi wears colorful clothes and crows on the ground, which is considered an act of filial piety. The parents should be over 90 years old. This kind of filial piety cannot happen now. Today's children will fly away as soon as their wings are strong. After that, the man will marry and the woman will marry, and the young couple will become an independent unit and live under the same roof for five generations. It has become a fantasy, or actually a nightmare. Modern children should remind their parents early on how to spend their old age, tell them how to save for retirement, and how to exercise to avoid all kinds of diseases. They are mentally prepared and need to seek good fortune for themselves. As the saying goes: "One person can feed ten sons, but ten sons cannot feed one father." "That's because the son himself has to support his son, and he has too much time to take care of himself. He has to take care of both the ups and downs, and he is too busy. Ten sons blame each other, and the father has no one to care about.

The theory of generation gap , which makes a lot of sense. However, how to communicate this gap has to be subtle. Children of the previous generation have many strange habits. For example, their parents often do not understand the way they use money. People often wonder, what do you want with so much money? You can’t even carry a penny into the coffin! The money looks like a bunch of money, and it’s hard to take it off. There is no use in complaining. If you see that one of his chairs is missing a leg and has a brick to support it, you might as well buy it for him. A swivel chair, a recliner, etc., and see if he is willing to sit on it. If his clothes are stretched and stained, you might as well buy him a loose and big jacket, and see if he is willing to wear it. This will of course cost a lot. However, this is a case study teaching method, and teaching aids are inevitable. The ultimate goal is to let parents know how to live a modern life, and to let them know that consumption is not necessarily wasteful.

Everyone who starts from thrift will cherish it. Materials. Not a grain of rice should be left in the bowl, let alone a piece of paper or a piece of rope. Even if there is a room full of scraps of metal, Tao Kan’s story of bamboo and sawdust continues. It is said that Tao Kan at least has a place to store those bamboo and sawdust. How can he accommodate such a large amount of things in the cramped situation of three bedrooms and two living rooms, so the children have to be responsible for clearing them at home from time to time? Parents should be taught not to feel bad about the old garbage at home. If the old ones don’t go away, the new ones won’t come in.

We Chinese generally don’t have the habit of making wills, even though our children will suffer a lot after their death. There is blood, or a nanmu table is cut in half to divide it equally, or the lawsuit has been embarrassing for many years, but the reason is that people call death "not taboo" when they are alive. Or "should not be tabooed", which means tabooing things when they can, and then not tabooing them again until they are embarrassed. Of course, it is impossible to force parents to make a will, and it is also difficult to talk about it.

How to get your parents to make a will early is to act accordingly. When your parents are in a cheerful mood, speak tactfully, speak well, and avoid hurting their feelings. It seemed too late to wait until his parents were cured of illness and Yi Sui was about to die before asking him to dictate his last words.

There are many methods of education, and teaching by words is not as good as teaching by example. If parents are not imbecile, they will probably know how to imitate. In public places, if young people know not to make noise, their parents will probably not speak loudly. If young people knew how to queue up, their parents would stop rushing to get there first. If young people don't leave their dogs on the sidewalk with their dogs, their parents may be embarrassed to spit around. All kinds of unspoken teachings have a great influence. Parents educate their children, and children also educate their parents. Some things need to be explained, for example: gaining weight in middle age is not a good sign, high blood pressure should be prevented, and cholesterol should be paid attention to, etc.

Some parents make mistakes in their behavior, and are even so vicious that they cannot be nurtured. As children, we also have the responsibility to educate. Confucius said: "When it comes to your parents, you need to give them some advice; if you don't follow your will, you should respect it without violating it, and work hard without complaining." This means that if your parents make mistakes, you should tactfully advise them and don't ignore them; if they don't listen, don't give up and ignore them. , let alone resentment. Of course, corporal punishment is not allowed. Judging from the frail appearance of his parents, they are not good enough to be a Zunquan.