Why do some people feel extremely insecure in their feelings?

My personal opinion is that the reasons for insecurity vary from person to person.

Take me for example, I am a person who is easily insecure in love. Typical is the way I get along with my predecessor and now. Let's call them "boys a and Mr. b"

1. I met the boy A in the game. At that time, I was only 17 years old and belonged to online dating. Like all young people who fall in love, we were all carried away by love at that time, and we were inseparable, and there were always endless words no matter day or night.

The turning point of things is that I saw a conversation about his space, which was a gift from a girl, and the girl also attached a note, which wrote down the dribs and drabs that the boy A paid for him. It records things I don't know, and he has never been so kind to me. ...

I was wronged, quarreled with him and broke up. Finally, he deleted it and said it.

But our relationship didn't go back to the original point, and I became suspicious. He will get angry if he doesn't answer my phone for a while, and he will contact that girl more and more times without telling me. No one answered an ordinary phone call, which became the last straw for us to crush the camel. ...

2. Mr. B is my present position, and I became attached to him at work, my boss. At that time, I was 19 years old, and my husband b was seven years older than me. Because the company doesn't allow office romance, we fell in love secretly. Mr. b didn't admit it to the people around him. We are lovers. But in fact, Mr. B is the boss. In fact, an open relationship is not impossible.

I was worried at the time. After all, Mr. B is much older than me, and I'm afraid he will play with my feelings.

But Mr. B has a great advantage. No matter how bad the truth is, he won't lie to me. No matter what kind of anxiety I have in my heart, I will give me the most positive answer after I ask him, and he will really correct all the problems I can do, explain the reasons why I can't, and try to make up for them.

Although I had doubts at first, I finally walked down safely. Even during our love, we never quarreled and turned red.

As far as my emotional experience is concerned, the main reason why I feel insecure is that I am not mature enough. I am not mature enough, and you are not mature enough to tolerate my immaturity.

There are not so many right and wrong, but only time.