Be a man in advance

Emotional choice 1:

Be a man in advance

On the bulletin board of an enterprise, I saw that "when others help you, you must thank them and look them in the eyes to show your sincerity." When you bring inconvenience to others, you must apologize in time to avoid leaving a bad impression. Don't jump to conclusions when you don't know a person well enough. Hearing is empty, seeing is believing, and sometimes eyes can deceive us. "These three sentences deeply touched me and made me think of the truth of being a man in advance.

Make a career first, be a man first. Everything starts with being a man. Throughout the ages, people have been demanding people-oriented "University" said: "From the emperor to Shu Ren, one is to cultivate one's morality"; Confucianism takes "self-cultivation, keeping the family in order, governing the country and leveling the world" as the basic criterion for cultivating talents; Sima Guang wrote in the book "Learning from each other" that "talent, virtue and capital, virtue and talent are handsome"; Tao Xingzhi, a people's educator, said: "Teach a thousand religions, teach people to seek truth" and "learn a thousand religions, learn to be a man"; Chairman Mao said: Be a "noble person, a pure person, a moral person, a person who breaks away from low tastes and benefits the people". These are all talking about the importance of being a man.

In history, all those who have achieved great things have taken Lide as the first priority. Qu Yuan's "Xiu Yuan has a long way to go, and I will go up and down" makes Li Sao a precedent for romantic literature. Sima Qian wrote Records of the Historian bluntly, which became the swan song of historians. Zhou Enlai "studied for the rise of China" and eventually became a good prime minister of the people. ...

Sima Guang said, "A gentleman thinks that talent is good, while a villain thinks that talent is evil.". People who think they are evil include Zhao Gao and Qin Gui in ancient times, and now there are Liu Qingshan, Zhang Zishan and Lai Changxing.

This shows that one should abide by the principle of self. A man should have a correct life belief and persistent pursuit of life. He should conform to the historical trend and not go with the flow. Tao Yuanming didn't bend his back for five measures of rice, Zhu Ziqing would rather starve to death than eat American flour, and Lu Xun "bowed his head and was willing to be a willing ox". Being a man should be honed in practice. We grow up in a peaceful environment and need to exercise ourselves in practice. People who are unwilling to endure hardships and struggle hard can't achieve great things, nor can they become indomitable talents.

Respect others and be lenient with others. We often say, "Be lenient with others, be lenient with others." In fact, tolerance is the embodiment of a person's knowledge, mind and personality strength. There is a saying: "All rivers run into the sea, with great tolerance". The real strong man is that he can make people sincerely support him and can't help loving him. His strength is not angry, his strength is not roaring. If you look at the dissatisfaction of leaders and colleagues and look at the world coldly, you can only make yourself miserable. We cannot change the world, but we can change ourselves. To some extent, respecting others means respecting yourself. Appreciate others and be good at discovering their advantages. For example, children appreciate his innocence, young people appreciate his bodybuilding and vigor, middle-aged people appreciate his maturity and openness, and old people appreciate his vicissitudes and meticulousness. Smart people appreciate his wisdom, wooden people appreciate his duty, elegant people appreciate his temperament, unconventional people appreciate his free and easy, rude people appreciate his generosity, and steady people appreciate his calm atmosphere.

For relatives, we are gratified by a family relationship, for brothers and sisters, we cherish a friendship, for classmates, we are happy to meet in the prime of life, for colleagues, we are surprised by a * * * event, for opponents, we are lucky to meet a friend, and for defeating opponents, we regard it as a storm on the way forward. Where can there be a rainbow without a storm? This requires us to adjust our mentality and look at things from the sunny side. Knowledge is deep, but life is not high or low. Educator Zhu said: "small is small, big is big, and there is no abandonment." No matter what you do, you can be a noble person.

Entrepreneurs, businessmen, politicians and ordinary people face different situations and all love to quote this sentence. It reflects the practice and thinking of all social strata on how to be a man, how to be a good person and the pursuit of kindness.

Bill? Gates once said: "I rank personality first in all human qualities, surpassing wisdom, innovation, emotional intelligence, * * * and so on. I think that if a person has a problem with his character, he is not worthy of a company to consider hiring him. "

Honest people can keep their promises, respect each other and help each other, thus making their career bigger and stronger. Therefore, no matter what happens, we must remember the essence of being a man: kindness and integrity, and insisting on character first. (Han Lingsha)

1860, as an American presidential candidate and party, Lincoln participated in the presidential election. He went on a lecture tour alone to sell himself-he couldn't afford to hire someone to serve him. Douglas, Lincoln's biggest rival and Democratic candidate, is a rich man with a special train and a band, and is making a grand tour in America. The train is also equipped with a salute. 32 salutes were fired everywhere, and speeches were made to show off people's prominent aristocratic origins and strong economic foundation.

Someone asked Lincoln's family during his speech. Lincoln said seriously, "I have a good wife and three smart children. They are priceless to me." Besides, I rented an office with a desk, three chairs, a bookcase in the corner and books wrapped in the bookcase, each of which is worth reading. This is my general situation. I really have nothing to rely on. The only thing I can rely on is you. "

Lincoln's heartfelt speech deeply touched the audience and won the hearts of thousands of Americans. He finally defeated Douglas with deep pockets and became the first civilian president in American history.

This story tells us that only inner beauty is reliable and long-lasting, and it is worthy of our pursuit and respect. Although the external appearance, figure, style, power and property are also attractive, the internal morality, knowledge, talent, sincerity and self-confidence are more attractive.

There is a question circulating in the workplace-what is ten MINUS one? There are three people in the interview, and the other two are graduate students. I saw the first one quickly and confidently say, "Be as flat as you want." The second man gushed: "ten MINUS one equals eight, which is consumption;" Equal to 12, which is management; Equal to 15, which is finance; Equal to 100 means winning the prize. " Looking at their cheerful appearance, the job seeker's mind was blank, and finally he had to answer sadly: "Ten minus one equals nine". And prepared for the defeat of the election. But the boss announced the admission on the spot. Asking the reason is his honesty and surprisingly simple.

In today's society, the principle of employing people in enterprises tends to put personality first. He Boquan, president of Guangdong Jinri Group, said: "The principle of employing people is to have both ability and political integrity, and to put morality first. For example, morality is like the direction of a train, and talent is like horsepower. The direction trajectory is biased, and the greater the horsepower, the greater the harm. "

In fact, being a man and doing things are inseparable. In the process of doing what the human body is doing, the purpose of doing things is to make people do more valuable. The two are mutual conditions and preconditions. The focus of this sentence is "being a man" and the carrier is "doing things". If the carrier is removed, people can only walk. What is the difference with vegetarians? I'm afraid I can't do anything well if I don't know the basic principles of being a man.

There are usually two kinds of people who are very sympathetic. First, people say that they are "good people, but have no potential"; The second is "there is potential, but it is too bad." The former, who works with heart and treats others sincerely, is limited to lack of knowledge, weak understanding, weak execution, low efficiency, low success rate and frequent mistakes; The latter, smart and capable, has the ability to do things, and there is no lack of courage, but it is too subjective and doesn't care much about other people's feelings. Sometimes they infringe on the interests of others with selfishness and make enemies by doing things. The former, others understand the sincerity of doing things, but the result of things denies being human and pitiful; The latter rose to the principle of social life, directly denying the feeling of being a man and doing nothing. It is even more pitiful to do something thankless.

Both kinds of people are losers, and the key is not to handle the relationship between being a man and doing things well. Everyone understands this truth, but it is not satisfactory and painful to handle it.

This kind of distress is accompanied by the whole process of the development of human society, which is the distress of present people and the thinking of ancient people. More than 2,000 years ago, when Confucius roamed the land of the Central Plains in the snowy winter of Wan Li, it was this problem that he discussed most with his students. Confucius put forward three criteria for dealing with people: virtue, merit and virtue. First-class "virtue" is to set an example of moral education in the process of doing things; Second-class "meritorious service" is to achieve the cause and seek welfare for the public; The second kind of "statement" is to explore and establish norms for doing things. In this "three-stand" life, Confucius added one of the most important elements in the process of doing things: the third party-other people related to your life and things. See if you use morality to motivate him, bring him benefits, and give him guidance and warning on the code of conduct. This indicates an important principle of being a man and doing things, the principle of "altruism". (true friends)

On the basis of this principle, Confucius also put forward the words "Gong, Kuan, Xin, Min and Hui" as the essence. Respect for people will not be disrespected by others, tolerance will be supported by others, credibility will be trusted by others, dedication will be realized with the help of others, and others can mobilize their own human resources to achieve the same cause. Another principle has been added, the principle of selflessness.

Our distress stems from our indifference to history. In the requirement of "being a man first, then doing things", there should be principles as the soul. Confucius has told his students in the snowstorm. If, from now on, all of us are willing to understand the distant guide who came from two thousand years ago, and add the principles of "selflessness" and "altruism" in the process of dealing with the relationship between being a man and doing things, we will be selfless in being a man and doing things selflessly, people and things will be integrated, and there will be more and more capable good people.

As young comrades in enterprises, we must establish four kinds of mentality:

1。 A grateful attitude

It is precisely because enterprises have brought us a platform for survival and development. )

2。 The mentality of giving up and getting.

No pains, no gains. )

3。 A sense of responsibility

Taking responsibility will make you mature. )

4。 The mentality of grinding a sword for three years (poetic screen name)

Be sure to love every line, do a good job in every line, understand in your work and improve in your understanding. Generally speaking, three years in an enterprise is not only three years of work, but also three years of understanding and training. We should enrich our world outlook, improve our academic qualifications and enrich our human resources so that we can make greater and more dedicated contributions in the future. )

Emotional choice 2:

Give a speech in advance

He was born in a poor family in Hong Kong and was sent to a theatrical troupe by his family in his early years. At that time, acting was a low-level business, and only poor families with no way out could do it.

According to the rules of the old pear garden, my father signed a life and death certificate with the troupe, and within the agreed time limit, his power of life and death was in the hands of the master. The discipline in the troupe is extremely strict. He should have tried to live under his parents' knees, but he practiced under the lash and abuse of his master and suffered a lot. After a while, he sneaked home, and his father flew into a rage and resolutely told him to go back: "A man and a gentleman should keep his word and have signed a contract, and never give up halfway. Although we are poor, our ambitions cannot be short! " He had to return to the troupe and practice hard for more than ten years.

Finally, he learned something, and the opera industry plummeted. He has a skill, but he is useless. At that time, the Hong Kong film industry developed rapidly, but all the male movie stars were more powerful and imposing than Pan An. He is not tall, with a big nose and small eyes. How does he get along in the film industry?

It is said that he entered the Shaw studio in Hong Kong and made a movie "Smelly Martial Arts" as a walk-on. The first protagonist he played was actually a "dead body". No matter how hard and tired you are, it's nothing. What's more, walk-on people have no dignity, and they are often teased and ridiculed. Under such circumstances, he didn't complain, but he still worked hard. Because he learned a good kung fu and was kind, a few years later, he gradually became the protagonist and became famous, earning 3000 yuan a month.

One day, Mr. He from the industry asked him out to play the leading role in a new play. "In addition to the due remuneration, we have to pay you a penalty of 654.38 million yuan." With that, Mr. He forcibly wrote a check on him and left in a hurry.

He looked at it carefully, and the check actually signed 654.38+00,000, which is a huge sum! He suffered a lot from snacks and tasted hardships. Isn't it looking forward to this day? But on second thought, if I break the contract, half of the film I am making will be aborted and the company will suffer heavy losses. He couldn't bear to give up because of emotion and reason.

After a sleepless night, the next morning, he found Mr. He and returned the check. Mr. He was very surprised. He simply said, "I love money, too, but I can't break my promise to others because of 1 10,000." A gentleman should be a promise. "

Mr. He admired the young man very much, and his story spread quickly. The company was very moved after learning about it, and took the initiative to buy Mr. He's new script and gave it to him to direct and perform. In this way, he created the box office record of that year with the movie "Laughing Boxing" and achieved great success.

He was only 22 years old that year, and all of Hong Kong knew him-Jackie Chan.

For more than 30 years, Jackie Chan has been working hard. He was seriously injured 29 times, but he never came down. He has made more than 80 films, including two. 900 million die-hard fans, and the only China actor who left his nose print on the Avenue of Stars.

Once, Jackie Chan was invited to attend an award ceremony abroad, and a large number of Hollywood big-name movie stars gathered. He was a little weak and stood humbly and regularly. Unexpectedly, those big names all lined up actively and came up to shake hands with him one by one. Then he suddenly realized, "Oh, I'm a big star, too."

In a TV interview, Jackie Chan recalled these past events and said with deep feelings: "Frankly speaking, I got a lot at the moment. However, if I had betrayed my faith, escaped from the troupe without this excellent martial arts, or got 654.38+0 million as soon as I left, my life would definitely be rewritten. I just want to tell young people at the moment by personal experience that when things that money can buy are always worthless, people should be honest and keep their promises. "

It is the most precious thing to be a talent in advance.

Emotional choice 3:

Be sincere, sincerity is the capital of doing things; To be a loving person, love is a social platform; To be a confident person, self-confidence is the driving force for success; Be modest, modesty is a good friend of progress; A man should have respect, which is a workshop to cultivate personality; A man should have enterprise, which is the source of continuous survival; Men should have a tolerant heart, which is the adhesive of society; A person should have a just heart, which is the balance wheel of life; To be a man, you should have a normal heart, which is the secret of being a man; Being a man of backbone is the backbone of life; Be diligent in life, and diligence is the foundation of settling down; Being a man should be dedicated, and dedication is the weight of life value.

People often say: "It's hard to be a man! People are hard to do! It is difficult to be a man! " Being a man and doing things is not a small problem, but an important topic that accompanies one's life. By reading the book "Learn to be a Man in advance", I have a better understanding of being a man. Combining with daily work, many truths are worth learning. We should seriously understand the golden rule in the book and lay a solid foundation for our career. Let me talk about some points I understand:

1. Learn and understand how to look at problems from the other side's standpoint. Everything should be viewed from the other side's standpoint, on the other hand, we can also examine our own omissions. "Understanding" is a concrete manifestation of thinking from the other side's position. We can think about what others think, where are the contradictions between others and us, and find the key points to better solve contradictions in our work. Thinking from each other's standpoint is to help yourself better. Why not?

It is not good to criticize, complain or scold. This is our usual behavior, so why bother each other loudly. Excellent teachers will not easily use naked criticism, and it is useless to complain and scold. They are prone to rebellious psychology and anxiety, and even affect work efficiency and hinder the generation of inspiration. Communication is the most effective solution, and encouragement can make everyone regain confidence!

3. Warm and sincere praise. This is the combination of 1 just now, so don't complain, encourage and praise each other. Respect the people around you, forget that you are complimenting them, and really feel that they are really nice. Everyone needs praise. If people around him live in harmony, there will be less friction and things will be easier.

4. Listen more, listen more and talk less. Listen to others. God gave us two ears and one mouth, which means we should talk less and listen more.

5. It is not good to behave smarter than others. Full loss, little gain. I have heard of Taoism, and I specialize in it. Everyone has a different understanding of different aspects. We can't be proud that I am better than others in every field of work. Many times we still need to understand like others. Personality is that young people often ask old comrades in their units for advice. They have accumulated valuable experience and can reduce our detours. Colleagues around will love modest people.

6. Be considerate. This is a very important factor in the work. Only full of * * * can you infect everything around you. Only when others see your attitude will they see your self-motivation. A dedicated work attitude can change your work situation, and then change your life. Loyal, honest, enterprising, optimistic, United, work enthusiastically for 8 hours every day. Store your thoughts in your brain, praise yourself once a day, and firmly believe that you can succeed!

In short, being a man is the basis of doing things, and doing things is the embodiment of being a man. Everyone should be a good official, regardless of big or small officials. No matter how big or small, do something practical. "A small victory depends on wisdom, and a big victory depends on virtue". Be sure to be honest and do things in a down-to-earth manner. Only in this way can we succeed.

Finally, I want to end my speech with a famous saying: A person's life has some ups and downs, which will not rise forever and will not be miserable forever. This kind of training is exactly what a person needs. Therefore, those who float on it need not be proud; Those who sink below need not be pessimistic. We must advance optimistically with a straightforward and modest attitude.