The 40-day-old baby girl was slapped by the nanny. What should working mothers do without the help of the elderly?

Recently, I watched the hot search video of Weibo. The baby is only 40 days old, and both parents have gone to work, leaving the nanny and the child alone. In the meantime, my mother missed her children, glanced at the camera and found that the nanny was shaking the child violently, throwing it up hard and slapping the child.

Every mother can't stand watching videos.

Anyone who has taken care of children knows that children can't shake. Dad Bao coaxed the child, and when he was a little older, his mother would be angry, not to mention treating the child like a nanny in the video. To tell the truth, washing vegetables is lighter than shaking children.

The 40-day-old baby can't stand upside down yet, and it's too soft to hold. According to the nanny's rocking method, the baby will definitely have to shake the baby syndrome.

The brain of such a big baby is underdeveloped, and suddenly an epiphany occurs. Although there is no injury in appearance, there may be bleeding in the brain, which may lead to the rupture of nerve connections in the brain and may also cause skull damage.

The baby's father, still calm, did not move the nanny's finger and called the police directly. Unfortunately, the punishment is not strong. Nanny only detained 15 days and fined 500 yuan. This is not enough to make up for one tenth of the damage she did to the baby.

Every family has a difficult experience, and it is really difficult for the young couple to think about it. 40 days is equivalent to giving birth to a child, and my mother hurried to work.

Since giving birth to a child, she hasn't had much time to rest, so it's very important for her to come to this job. There are no elderly people at home to help, but if there are elderly people at home, even if they are in poor health and can't take care of the children, they will only be responsible for supervising the nanny to take care of the children so that the baby will not suffer this crime.

No mother wants to give the baby who can't talk to the nanny alone. This must be the last resort. As a result, the nanny took advantage.

Even more exasperating, the nanny claimed to have taken care of many children. I really don't know how many children she gave birth to.

There is a huge demand in the domestic market now. It used to be said that women hold up half the sky, but now it is said that women hold up half the sky. They must take care of the children at home, do housework and work as hard as men outside.

If either party is negligent, the sky will fall. It happened that half the sky would not fall. What the nanny can do is to help the mothers stay at home for half a day.

The cost of hiring a nanny has gone up in recent years, which has exceeded the salary of many white-collar workers.

According to the market in Shanghai, 10 years ago, you could get a live-in nanny for 4,000 yuan, but now you can get at least 6,000 yuan and 7,000 yuan, which is still the kind of person who is mainly responsible for cleaning and cooking without children. Taking care of children depends on the age of the baby.

10 years ago, the monthly income was almost 8,000 yuan a month. After 10, the monthly income/kloc-0,000,000 to 20000 is normal.

The money collected by domestic service has never been lower than inflation, but has the quality of domestic workers improved in the past 10 years?

It should be said that there are indeed more and more high-end nannies. With a turtle as a nanny and a master as a nanny, the ceiling of the domestic industry is indeed getting higher and higher. For example, if someone recruits a nanny in a circle of friends, the requirements are as follows:

After reading it, I only thought of three words, that is, "I don't deserve it."

On the other hand, however, the lower limit of domestic industries is still the same.

Many people think that women can do housework as long as they have hands and feet and can do housework. This has caused the domestic workers to be mixed, and everyone has it.

Some nannies have dirty hands and feet and often take things from their host's house. The host family was patient enough to resign from her job. She changed an intermediary and continued to harm the next one. Shanghai is so big and there are so many intermediaries. She really doesn't have to worry about finding a job if she wants to change places.

Like the nanny who shakes the baby in the video, her face is covered with mosaics, and 500 yuan's fine is only her salary for one or two days. After her release, she was a hero. If she changed the intermediary, she would still say the same thing: I have been taking care of children for more than ten years and have rich experience ... (You have more experience in shaking children, so it is more suitable for dry-mixed concrete, and you can shake them as you want, but it is not suitable for taking care of children. )

The so-called domestic intermediary is actually supported by these aunts. So they won't check their aunts' work experience, but they can give their aunts a physical examination, even if they are responsible intermediaries.

The consequence is that employers find it too difficult to find a reliable domestic aunt! A slightly better aunt will never let anyone go, even if she doesn't need it. According to word of mouth, it takes several minutes to find another job through introduction.

I was working when I recalled my daughter 1 year-old. My mother has a weak waist and can't take care of the children by herself, so I have to ask the live-in nanny for help. She said she was at home at six o'clock in the evening. She rested after work and didn't go to work on weekends. It stands to reason that it is always safe to have old people watching at home.

Not exactly.

Let's talk about those who work less than three days.

Some aunts take a bite with a spoon before feeding their baby complementary food. My mother was startled and said, why are you doing this? People say, I'll try the temperature so as not to burn the child. After this aunt was dismissed, my mother asked for her medical report.

An aunt has the habit of taking a nap, putting the child to sleep and then falling asleep. She said that she was tired after a busy day. Originally, my mother wanted to put up with it, but whether the child woke up or not, she had to sleep until midnight.

And all kinds of bad hygiene habits. The towel for wiping your hands is the same as the towel for washing your face. Wipe the baby with a piece of gauze from beginning to end. Holding a baby is like holding a chicken. This is very impolite.

Let's talk about finding problems after working for a period of time.

I was particularly impressed by having two aunts.

There is an aunt in Shandong who is very talkative. When chatting, she told me that she had a good way to take care of children and raise them scientifically. My mother trusts her. But I found that every time she took care of the child, the baby was especially obedient and honest, and she did whatever she was asked to do, just like changing a child.

The child 1 is over years old and can't ask anything. There was no such thing as a camera at that time. My mother sometimes takes a nap in the middle of the afternoon and doesn't stare all the time.

My aunt is usually not at home on weekends, and I take care of my children at home. I found that every time I mentioned menstruation, Eva began to cry, and she could even clearly say the words "Don't menstruation".

After several visits, I insisted on changing people.

There is also an aunt Chongming, who looks clean and diligent. She takes my daughter out for a walk every afternoon. She was so hardworking that she went out with her child on her back without a cart.

My grandmother came to my house once, and when she saw that we let my aunt take the baby out alone, she was very uneasy. She said, if you don't know the root, how dare you give the child to others?

My mother said: her ID card is still on behalf of the agency, and she is a local, so she will be fine.

My grandmother is still worried and secretly follows. After half an hour, my grandmother came back and said that my aunt was carrying her children and carrying empty mineral water bottles all the way to the waste recycling station. ...

Well, I will do housework and find a part-time job. Aunt is really too hard. We were worried that she was too involved in part-time work and lost her children, so we finally gave her the job.

From my personal experience, the quality of nannies is really different. Their careers are also quite special, unlike ordinary colleagues or subordinates, they can keep their distance if they are unhappy.

Nanny is an outsider deeply involved in the employer's life. Whether you believe her or not, you have to accept the fact that she lives with you and helps you with your children.

Because you have to help with the children, the cost of changing nannies is very high. Adults are fine, and it is difficult for children to adapt to one caregiver after another, which will make the baby feel poor.

At the same time, their relationship with their employers is also very delicate. As far as I know, most employers are very polite to nannies. Employers in Shanghai never call them "nannies". They are all aunts.

In addition to talking about salary, menstruation will go back to his hometown to visit relatives every holiday, and the employer will give extra red envelopes. I hope my aunt can thank her wholeheartedly and be kind to her children. Don't be so careless.

Nanny shaking the baby for 40 days should be a wake-up call for the domestic industry.

As an intermediary, aunt must get the work record of each employer. Make sure she has no bad record of stealing or abusing children. Any nanny who abuses her children will not only lose her nanny qualification forever, but also be fined, which will make her miserable.

Auntie who was dismissed because of poor hygiene habits must receive training before she can re-take up her post.

As a treasure mother, while giving her aunt trust, she should also install monitoring at home to ensure the safety of her baby.

Only when the domestic industry is more standardized can working mothers work with peace of mind.

Nannies can be well paid, but not without high quality.