How to treat husband's lack of progress and domestic cold violence?

In fact, men who are used to using cold violence have three characteristics, and you will know how to solve cold violence after listening.

First, extreme selfishness.

The thinking logic of this kind of person is: I don't want to talk now, I just don't talk, I don't care about your feelings at all, I only care about my own feelings.

And your feelings, I can ignore, I can take the strategy of turning a blind eye and listening but not listening. Your feelings are secondary to him. I don't care about you at all.

Every time my friend Jewel Lee has a conflict with her husband because of some trivial matter, she always wants to solve what happened that day, but her husband always takes an indifferent attitude regardless of right or wrong.

She wants to talk it over with her husband. She is going to spread it out and say that whoever is wrong will change. She wants a harmonious family, but no matter how she talks to her husband, he always sits on the sofa without saying a word and occasionally fiddles with his mobile phone.

After talking too much and not seeing her husband respond, she was anxious, and then the two had a more intense quarrel. Li Fei was out of breath, then she packed her bags and went back to her family.

It has been more than a week since she went back to her parents' house, and her husband didn't call her, let alone pick her up at her parents' house, as if nothing had happened. Mother-in-law will be very angry if she doesn't come to play at home and knows that they have quarreled.

Then let her husband pick her up at her parents' house. If it weren't for her mother-in-law, her husband probably wouldn't want to take her home. Jewel Lee was angry and anxious about this, and she was helpless to her husband. She is anxious every day.

Second, the sense of responsibility.

He doesn't know the word responsibility. He doesn't understand that all the joys and sorrows in a relationship need to be solved and managed. When he has no sense of responsibility, he naturally won't consider whether you are too uncomfortable to sleep all night. As long as he can achieve the purpose of making you uncomfortable, he feels that his purpose has been achieved.

A man who doesn't love you and care about you won't care about everything about you. Your life and death, as well as your emotions, have nothing to do with him. The reason why he doesn't divorce you may be because of face problems or family persuasion.

Because in his heart, it doesn't matter who he marries, and he doesn't love or care much. As long as someone prepares him three meals a day and washes his clothes every day, it will be fine. Anyway, he has to pay a lot of money to marry a nanny, but it is different to marry a wife, just like a free nanny, and he works hard.

This kind of man is not only selfish, but also particularly irresponsible. He forgot his responsibilities and obligations as a man and husband. He forgot that a harmonious family needs the joint efforts of husband and wife.

He overestimated himself. If he doesn't love it, he shouldn't marry home. If he does, he should be responsible to the end. This is what a man should do. No one deserves such unfair treatment. You need to know who can't live without who in this world.

Third, there is no supply capacity.

In our daily life, when we see an unexpected stranger, we cry. We will sympathize with those who need help, not to mention that you are the closest person to him.

When you are frustrated, or depressed, when you want him to give you some comfort after you quarrel over some trivial matters, or take the initiative to say: You are in a bad mood now, leave yourself alone for a while, and we will talk it over when you calm down. "

Did you find out? He doesn't want to tell you such a short sentence, because he doesn't care about you, and he doesn't want to ease the relationship with you at all, just don't want to give you a little tenderness and make you chilling.

To put it bluntly, he just doesn't love you enough or doesn't love you at all. If he really loves you, why won't he give you a little tenderness and care?