What is a married couple?

One: tie your hair and share a pillow, and you are friends in the grave.

We often hear the word "married wife". The original meaning of "marrying a wife" is: "Men come of age, 20 years old, and women are 15 years old, which just happens to take the crown." In ancient times, both men and women had to have long hair, and when they reached a certain age, they would hold a "rite of passage" for them. When a man wears a crown, he puts his hair in a bun, which is called a "knot", and then puts on a hat. In Shuowen, the total name of the crown is also. Call them adults. It is recorded in the Book of Rites Quli that men have 20 crowns. It means to hold a coronation ceremony and give it a word. Crown age means that the man is twenty years old, which means that he has just reached the age of adulthood. Twenty years old is also called "the year of weak crown".

In many areas of our country, underage women are called "girls", which can also be seen in many novels written by the ancients. In addition, in the old days, it was also said that "girl" was a handmaid of a large family. "Girl" also includes intimacy. Some elders call their younger generation with a smile: "You are a dead girl, and you can't even do a little thing well!" In ancient times, the real meaning of "girl" refers to a style of women combing their hair, which can often be seen in today's movies and TV shows. For example, in the movie "Dream of Red Mansions", the hair styles of maids who serve their masters are all combed into symmetrical double bun and stuck on the top of their heads, just like a forked ya character. Cheng Zongluo's "Ancient Yangzhou Zhuzhi Ci" contains: a clever bun and two temples. When a woman reaches the age of fifteen, she will be given a gift, that is, "hairpin ceremony", which means that a woman will come of age at the age of fifteen. Zi: The original meaning, the hairpin used in ancient times to curl your hair or button your hat, means that you can curl your hair now and then use Zi, which was called Zi Nian in ancient times. According to the ancients, when men and women reach adulthood, it means that they can get married and start a family.

Ancient people were very solemn when crowning and giving gifts. That's why there is the word "wife", which means the original wife. Tie your hair is also called tie your hair. In ancient times, men began to tie their hair in childhood, because it refers to early adulthood. Having a knot in your hair also means getting married. On the wedding day, men and women tie their hair in a bun, so it is called a bun. A couple on their wedding night: "Cross silk knot dragons and phoenixes, carve colorful clouds, one inch is concentric, and a hundred years will last forever." It means: two new people sit on the bed, male left and female right, each cut off a lock of their own hair, and then tied these two long locks together, swearing that they will be soul mates, love forever, live and die together, and never part. Throughout the ages, despite the good wishes of "one inch with one heart" and "long life for a hundred years", things have changed, and life is inevitably suffering from acacia, just as in ancient times, I always said in my heart: This is the joy of knot, what can you do? Women always carefully wrap their love expectations and best wishes in their hair, shiny black hair and skillfully combed hair. In a sense, it is the expectation and guarantee to win love and happiness.

The word "knot" used in the word "knot" is the most meaningful. Nowadays, there are probably several "Chinese knots" hanging in the living room of every household, and lux "concentric knots" will also be seen in the wedding bridal chamber. The meaning of "knot" includes firmness, combination and companionship. In ancient times, "knot" was connected with "bun", which means total hair. The bun is tied at the top of the hair. A poetess in the Tang Dynasty wrote a poem "Midnight Song": "Nong not only cuts clouds, but also distributes them. I have nowhere to go, and I am United. " In ancient times, the bun on the wife's head in the bridal chamber could not be untied by herself. The ancient book "Wedding in Yi Li" records: "The master enters the room and takes off the bride's tassel." It means that only the husband can untie the coiled bun, and then embrace each other, loving and lingering, inseparable. Later, people called men and women who got married for the first time "married couples".

In the Han Dynasty in China, there was a custom of holding funeral ceremonies. If the married wife breaks off early for some reason, the husband will break the comb they used when they got married, divide it into two parts, put some strands of his wife's green hair on it, and bury the other half in the coffin, to show that he never forgets his married wife and commemorate this deep love. In "New Poetry Yutai Poetry for Jiao Zhongqing's Wife", he wrote: "Make a pillow mat and be friends with the grave." Although this poem is a tragic story with the feudal patriarchal clan system as the background. At that time, lovers in love, if a woman gave a lock of her hair to a man as a token, it was like she gave her body to a man as an important token. Sometimes, however, a lock of a lover's hair is just like what Li Bai, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, said: "White hair is three thousands of feet, and sorrow is like a long beard", and the hair becomes "loose hair". Only in ancient times, women couldn't hear the song "Short Hair" sung today: I have cut my hair short, cut my troubles short, cut a fork I don't love, and struggled inch by inch. ...

Two: A knot is a lifetime.

On Saturday morning, as soon as I sat up in bed, I saw my wife coming over and asked, "Imagine what it would be like if I cut my hair short?" I smiled and replied, "What do you mean? You are still you, or my wife! " "What do you say, if you cut your hair short ..." I smiled and said, "What do you think will happen? Think I think you're uglier? Afraid of writing divorce letters like the ancients before? Haha, don't worry, you won't! Besides, in modern society, you can't just write a divorce letter and sweep your wife out. " "Beautiful you! It's enough that I don't take off you! " The wife smiled and said, "You can take the ribs out of the refrigerator and wash them. I'll be back when I get out. " The wife opened the door and went downstairs after saying this. Suddenly, I seemed to realize what might happen, but I couldn't believe it. But I quickly shouted: "wife, I like long hair fluttering!" " "

Before that, my wife kept nagging in my ear, "I'm cruel this time!" Cut your hair firmly! No more hesitation! "She said this sentence has worn out my ears. Every time I listen to her, I smile and ask, "Do you have the heart to cut off your long hair that has been left for so many years?" "Yes, it doesn't feel right to be a mother-in-law, with long hair," but she always talks about it. Probably all women in the world will make up their minds about their heads. I'm in the computer room, finishing a manuscript I wrote last night. It wasn't long before I heard my wife shouting "open the door" at the door. When I heard the sound of opening the door, I found my wife standing in front of me had her hair cut short. I don't know how she made up her mind to cut off her long hair that has been floating for more than ten years! My wife's cheeks are red. She put her hands over her head and asked me, "Do you think my hairstyle looks good? "Then he lowered his head, just like the bride who had just been unveiled in the movie." How beautiful! "I'm a little reluctant, but my wife bowed her head shyly. Alas, Xu Zhimo, why do you say: the gentleness of bowing your head is the most, like the shyness of an invincible water lotus in the cool wind. ...

I recall the day when I first met her at noon, just like yesterday, vividly, just like a memory fragment shown in a movie. Question and answer scene by scene, clear as new, you can even feel the temperature at that time as long as you reach out your hand. At noon that day, after the introducer informed us separately, we met at the gate of the park. I watched her beautiful black hair dancing in the wind, and I could smell the faint and charming perfume in her hair in the oncoming wind. We stood beside a large green soft grass, like a green carpet. I smell the faint scent of grass and flowers, look at the blue sky and a few white clouds, and feel that everything in front of me is fresh and pleasant. Not far ahead is a large lush pine forest. Her voice is gentle, shy and sweet. The wind stopped, long hair was quietly draped over the shoulders and sideburns, and black hair was waist-high. I face such a beautiful, dignified, elegant and noble woman, and I have a feeling that I dare not get too close to her. When she speaks, her cheeks are charming and shy, which is fascinating. As if she just smiled gently again, the whole world would laugh with her.

According to legend, the ancient Emperor Wu of China was attracted by Wei Zifu's black hair when he first met her, so there was such a record: "I was convinced when I saw her hairdressing, and I accepted it in the palace." My wife and I have been married for years, and she only cut her hair twice, plus this time today. The first time she cut it a few days before giving birth, saying that it was enough to wipe her head with a towel dipped in warm water when she was confined. The wife said that washing your hair might delay the care of the children. I recall a snowy night at 2: 30 in the morning, when my wife felt abdominal pain and amniotic fluid began to ooze from her lower body. On the way to the hospital, the cold wind was chilly and the snow was fluttering. Some people say that snowflakes are a gift from beautiful angels to the earth. We are ready for the most precious gift: the arrival of a new life. My wife lies in my arms. I have never been so excited. I'm going to be a father. There is also a woman who is a mother in this world. I am holding my wife, and I can't find a more suitable sentence in my mind. I attached it to my wife's ear and said, "Thank you!" " "I saw tears in my wife's eyes. Usually men before marriage don't understand why women like to cry. After he gets married, he will understand why women cry: or the person she loves most hurts her; Or her favorite person sincerely said to her: "wife, thank you, I love you!" " "

A woman will have the most beautiful name: mother. There is a proverb in foreign countries that God can't be everywhere, so he created the mother. The most beautiful and touching smile in the world should be a new mother. When she held her new life in her arms for the first time, she showed plump and white breasts. She reached out her left hand, made a V-shaped nipple with her index finger and middle finger, and then put the faint red nipple in the child's mouth. We can see the oil painting "The Virgin on the Green Pad" created by the great Italian painter Andrea solari. She has one. In the loving and gentle embrace of mother, the groans of human pain will turn into sweet and happy snores! We can often see an elderly couple holding each other for a walk in the park. If a new friend knows her, the man will introduce her like this: "She is my wife and we are married." Marriage is holding hands for a lifetime; To get married is to be together forever and grow old together! It is a romantic oath of "you have me and I have you"!

"We are married." It is a promise of "life and death are big and fun is endless". Hold your hand and grow old with your son! "I stopped tapping on the keyboard, stood up, yawned and sat down again. Reaching for the insulated teacup that my wife put on the edge of the computer desk before going to bed, I unscrewed the lid and took a sip. At that time, the room was full of fragrant teas. Look back at the wife who has fallen asleep and listen to her quiet and even breathing. I opened the folder where the songs were stored in the computer hard disk, and then turned the sound of the player down. This is my wife's favorite song, Lin Huiping's "Married for Life": "I always feel uneasy about the feelings that I often rub with you, like my hair blown away by the wind; Always make you look different, long hair or short hair, as long as you like; Why do we still have so many unnecessary reasons to quarrel? You forgot to promise that you would love me till I die. I love you, and it will be my whole life. If I don't let go and look back, I agree to live forever. I love you all my life, and this is my view of our love ... "I am married and I love her very much. A knot is a lifetime!