Why is it not necessarily a good thing to say that the first half of life is too smooth?

Old people often say that a person's happiness is limited. If the first half of your life is too smooth, you have never suffered, you have not made progress, and you have not worked hard, you will run out of blessings, and the second half may be bitter.

I know someone who is like this. The only daughter in our yard is one year younger than me. She grew up in luxury. She is a spoiled and unruly princess who wants to get wind and rain. At that time, the family was quite poor. There is no TV at home, but she does. Every time I want to go to her house to watch TV, she opens her hands on both sides of the door and won't let me go to their house. When I was in junior high school, one day she suddenly disappeared and couldn't be found anywhere. Her family thought something had happened to her and her parents gave birth to another child. As a result, after two years, she came back by herself. Anyway, she has always been one of those disobedient children.

Later, I heard that she found a husband, and the conditions in our hometown were not bad. I gave birth to a son after marriage, and the result was cerebral palsy, which was left to my mother-in-law. She has been working in a factory outside and has not been pregnant since she was 3 1 year old. Anyway, I heard that she has been struggling since then, and her emotional career has been struggling. I wonder if she used up all her childhood blessings.

My brother is such a person. 1996 just turned 30 years old, he drove a Santana car and took more than 20 dump trucks to the northeast to contract earthwork.

Cheng, who came back a few years later, opened the best dance hall in the county, followed by three or five minions and came back regularly.

Running to Macau for a few days is a very important person in our small county.

My father was an autobot in the army in his early years. After retirement, he drove a truck in the gypsum mine in the county for many years. In the late 1980 s, my father asked my brother to take up his post and become a teacher.

A worker envied by everyone in the countryside, he quickly learned driving skills from his master, and his monthly income was nearly 100 yuan, which was the same as his income in that year.

Compared with partners, it is very promising.

In those years, township enterprises flourished. One of my father's comrades-in-arms contracted a plastic factory in the county, and the business was very hot. Several comrades came to see us.

When I went home to play, I deliberately asked my brother to quit his job and drive in his factory. Considering that his son finally took over, the father never put down his answer.

It should be. It can be said unintentionally. The listener is interested. My brother thinks that he has been working in a factory and will eventually drive a truck like his father all his life, and then

Said this dead salary didn't appeal to him much. After thinking about it for more than ten days, I went to the factory department to go through the resignation formalities without consulting anyone in my family.

I was so angry that my parents were half dead.

My brother can't tell right from wrong by doing so. Every decision in life is just to change the next stage of life. My father's comrades were right.

My brother takes special care of him. I gave him the only Santana key in the factory that day. This car was in the county seat, which was millions more than it is now.

Luxury cars have face. My brother drove it to take the boss to the provincial capital to talk about business, and arranged for customers in the factory to eat and drink in the city. The boss's connections.

And friends, whenever there are big and small things to borrow a car, I have to arrange two packs of good cigarettes and good wine for my brother. In the factory, he is better than the deputy director and the workshop director.

Although it is still popular, not only is my salary twice as high as before, but I have met many successful people in various industries in my boss's circle of friends.

As the saying goes, "husband and wife fly far with birds, and the quality of people is high." In a blink of an eye, my brother worked in a plastic factory for five or six years, and the boss regarded him as a nephew.

Seeing him and trusting him, Ran Yan became the boss's right-hand man, often driving alone to represent the factory in business.

A friend who works in the northeast, he came back from the north this time, just looking for some dump trucks to load earthwork in the northeast, my brother and this person.

The conversation hit it off, and he went back to the factory to report to the boss. The boss knew from his tone that his brother had made up his mind and he was old.

In the past two years, the business of plastic factory has been declining, so I decided to lend it to my brother in the name of the factory, or help him get on the horse and let him ride.

Santana, which has used this machine for several years, let him drive away besides 30w.

In the 1990s, migrant workers in Hubei were everywhere in Northeast China. In those years, my brother can be said to be the pride of the spring breeze. He is trying to make money. Many people in the family drive dump trucks.

Friends in the first eight rounds all appreciated his motorcade. At the peak, my brother's motorcade reached more than 30 dump trucks and made more friends.

At the same time, because of business contacts, I often play cards with the contractor in my hometown.

In 2000, my brother came back from the northeast and brought back two brand-new 2000 Santana cars, one of which was given to the boss who helped him.

In his eyes, this uncle is an important person in his life.

At the beginning of the new century, karaoke and dance halls can be seen everywhere in small counties. In recent years, he has been used to places like this outside.

As soon as my friend arranged it, he found a venue of more than 800 square meters in the city and opened one of the best local dance halls, with ten.

Two luxurious karaoke bars and audio equipment, my brother spent nearly 200w W, and from then on, my brother began to move towards the glory of life.

Decline, since then I began to play cards freely. I went to Macao for a few days, went to the hotel in the provincial capital to eat and drink, and followed

Take the main road, three or five classes behind, and his parents and sisters advised him to do more. He always said, "Make money for use."

Those who come to spend will come when they go. "

Finally, one day two years later, my brother disappeared for more than ten days, and the phone was always turned off. I heard he was playing cards, except.

I gave the ballroom to others, and I still owe a lot of money to run it. My family and uncle went through a lot of trouble and finally solved the problem, brother.

When I came back, I couldn't stand it. Those young friends left him one by one, relying only on my sister-in-law as a primary school teacher to make a living.

Now back to your question: why is it not necessarily a good thing to say that the first half of life is too smooth?

The foregoing describes my brother's smooth life track from his twenties to his thirties. It stands to reason that if he can grasp his life experience well, he will be sure.

There will be no such situation as sweet first and bitter later. China people's allusions about the prodigal son who doesn't change money, goes astray, corrects his mistakes when he knows it, and makes up for it after it is too late.

Everywhere, but in real life this probability is very small. Let me talk about my three views according to my brother's later life.

Point.

First, the first half of his life is too smooth, which will give him an illusion, overestimate his ability and not cherish the wealth he got too smoothly. My brother always thought that the success of his career came from his cleverness and diligence, ignoring the old ones.

The solid foundation laid for him by his generation is often based on the opportunity and luck of an era, and it has an impulsive and courageous achievement.

When I was young, I overestimated my ability, but neglected to learn and improve myself. Even if I have made great achievements temporarily, it is not precious.

Cherish the wealth you got too smoothly. This is called unworthiness of virtue. Once you fall, it's hard to get up again.

Second, the first half of my life was too smooth, and I became arrogant from then on. I don't want to start with small things anymore. When my brother was young, he was regarded as a man who made a lot of money in the world. After he suffered setbacks in life, he was ashamed to meet people, even the basic life.

Without landing, he is still arrogant. He can't do great things, and he doesn't want to do small things. His family once tried to help him scrape together some money to buy a truck. After all, he

He is also an old driver with a B-photo. He thinks that driving a big truck again will make people look down upon him, let alone let him apply for a job in the labor market. He is alone.

Isn't it harder than killing someone who used to earn more than 10 thousand a day and be a boss?

Third, the first half of my life was too smooth. Abandoned by friends after frustration, even abandoned by lovers. I lost confidence in everything. My brother stayed at home for three years and never went out. My sister-in-law couldn't stand this timid husband, and then she left him with her son.

However, just after the Spring Festival in 2006, over 40 years old, he set foot on the train going south alone. He still has a knot, even in restaurants.

Working to wash dishes, but also to find a place where no one knows him, with such a mentality to go out to work, can it be better, more than ten years?

In the past, he didn't contact any friends at home. He always recalls the good old days. No matter what he does, he can't lift his spirits and make no money.

Qian Qian went to a bar to drink alone, worked as a salesman, opened a food stall and delivered a courier. Now in his fifties, he is still in a family.

The factory is a security guard.

What I want to say is that this sentence in Wang Baochi's Seven Laws of Persuasion is very classic: "Heroes have suffered a lot since ancient times and have never been handsome." It expresses success.

Everyone has experienced hardships, and the first half of his life is too smooth, so it is difficult for a dude who is easy to get wealth to get ahead.

In my opinion, the fortune of a person's life is limited. He has never experienced vicissitudes in his first half of life, and even if he has achieved something, he will not cherish it. His brother is one year old.

It is light to mistake the help given by relatives and friends for your own ability. When you need to prove your strength with your ability in the future, the timing and fortune will change again.

I don't like him, my father said. His disadvantage is that the first half of his life is too smooth.

The first half of a person's life is not smooth, which is not a good thing. Lucky people in the first half of their lives are much luckier than unlucky people and can be cured by the energy stored in their lucky childhood. In the first half of my life, unfortunate people have been healing their childhood all their lives.

Because I have been in the system and stayed in the organization department for several years, I said two young and promising cadres who were promoted smoothly in the early stage and suffered a cliff-like decline in the later stage. Their roller coaster-style official career may explain the problem of the subject-it is not necessarily a good thing that people's first half of life is too smooth.

First, from the president of the student union in colleges and universities to the secretary of the Youth League Committee to the youngest county magistrate, a casual move proves that Mrding was a man of the hour when he was in college, with extroversion, strong organization and high emotional intelligence! Climb all the way from the president of the department student union to the president of the school student union. After graduation, he took the exam in Selected Graduates Province and was directly admitted by the Youth League Committee. Mrding people are tall and natural and unrestrained, and they sing well, which really suits the work of the Youth League Committee. After working in the Youth League Committee for 8 years, Lao Dingdang was elected as the secretary of the Youth League Committee and a veritable county-level leader! I remember when I was training in the Party School of the Municipal Party Committee, I invited Mrding to give a lecture to our young cadres. The first time I saw Secretary Ding's elegant demeanor, I was eloquent and talked about it in Kan Kan. It was really a wonderful article! At that time, I realized that people can sit on the seat of county-level leaders at a young age and have strong strength as the backing.

As soon as the new party secretary took office, he started the growth project of young cadres and vigorously promoted the use of young cadres. As the leader of the city's young cadres, Mrding was directly appointed as the county magistrate, the youngest county magistrate since the founding of the city. Mrding lived up to his mission. After arriving in the county, he vigorously rectified the style of cadres and began to operate on laziness and hill-ism. The county is calm, praised by the masses, satisfied with the leaders, and the investment projects are endless. The county's total annual investment attraction directly climbed from the penultimate to the positive second in the city! Mrding is in high spirits, ready to rock the boat! However, success also invests, and failure also invests. Because of an investment mistake, Mrding was directly removed from the post of county magistrate, and was also disciplined, only retaining a section-level treatment, which is nine Niu Yi hairs.

It is a so-called environmental protection technology project. It is said that the patented technology of a famous university professor has been applied, and it is among the top in the world in sewage treatment. The matchmaker of this project was Mrding's former teacher, so Mrding attached great importance to it and personally took the county government team to inspect this environmental protection technology company. Everyone thinks that this project is very promising, and it can even trigger a revolution in the sewage treatment industry. Everything is going well. Mrding personally drafted the feasibility study report and investigation report, passed the examination of the Standing Committee of the county party committee, and successfully put it on record in the whole city. Three months later, the project was completed in a hurry. Because it is the No.1 project under the name of the county magistrate, it can be saved in land approval and environmental assessment, and it can be compressed if it can be compressed. Everything is for the rapid progress of the project, and everything is because the county magistrate stares at it every day and cares about the project progress. The so-called radish doesn't wash the mud soon, and it is easy to make mistakes when it is busy. The young county magistrate worked day and night like chicken blood, and he was a little confused when he worked below, and then something happened.

The environmental protection technology company has run away! The land transfer fee returned by the local government was swept into the thin air overnight, and this document of returning the land transfer fee in advance was naturally recognized by the county magistrate in charge of the money. So the county magistrate is the first person responsible for the end of accountability! After the punishment decision, Mrding wanted to cry. After so many years of hard work, he has been promoted to a county-level real position and has a bright future. In this way, because an investment project is completely ruined, it is directly reduced to one section. Mrding couldn't stand the blow and resigned from public office after half a year. It is said that he went to DC to look for a job, but not many people know what he is doing now.

Second, the leading secretary was born, and the young one was in charge. Xiaoyan, whose career was ruined by a meal, is a lucky one. After working for more than half a year, she was transferred from the organization department to the municipal government office as a secretary for the new executive vice mayor. Xiaoyan is very clever and won the favor of leaders, so leaders always take Xiaoyan with them when they jump ship. The executive vice mayor is young and promising. After a full term, he was directly transferred back to the provincial unit as the top leader and promoted to the main hall class. Xiaoyan followed him to the provincial unit and soon became the deputy director somewhere. More than six years later, the leader returned to the city from the provincial unit and became the secretary of the municipal party Committee. At this point, Xiaoyan has been promoted to a first-class researcher and can no longer be a secretary to the leader. However, Xiaoyan is very loyal. After some complicated operations, he successfully followed the old leader to the city, temporarily served as the deputy secretary of a county, and was elected as the county magistrate six months later.

County magistrates in their early forties, though not the youngest, are rare. Xiaoyan has been a secretary to the leader for a long time. She has been well informed and learned a lot, so don't be afraid when she gets to the position of county magistrate. She is really precocious. Because Guanshan is the background of the county party secretary, even the top county party secretary is very polite to Xiaoyan. The Standing Committee members basically have no different opinions on Xiaoyan's investment projects, planning and construction. Xiaoyan's success in the position of county magistrate, coupled with her high emotional intelligence, respect for the county party secretary, arrogance, and good at uniting team members, makes the leadership of this county extremely United. Unity is strength, and such a team has a strong fighting capacity, so the county's GDP growth rate, investment, project operating rate and various comprehensive evaluations are among the best in the city, and the secretary of the municipal party Committee is very satisfied with Xiaoyan's performance. Such outstanding young cadres are brought out by themselves, which is really worthy of pride and pride.

However, an ordinary wine game ruined all this. This wine fair is so confusing that it can be called "Rashomon", because the place to eat is an ordinary farm, and the participants are all acquaintances, that is, two bottles of Maotai are served, or an old wine treasured by a deputy for many years. Everything seems to be all right, a table of ordinary farm food, eight hours' journey, and a few colleagues have a drink, even if it is public money to eat and drink. But the next day, ShengJiWei came to the tip-off, with photos of eating, close-ups of Maotai, and scenes of Xiaoyan drinking ... Then the investigation team went to the city, talked with a bunch of people, and finally made no public decision, but affected by this, Xiaoyan was transferred from the county magistrate's post and went to a bureau directly under the city to hang a deputy director, and her career can be said to be over. The old leader was promoted again and went to the province. This time there was no Xiaoyan.

Third, the conclusion that "getting fat first is not fat, and then getting fat will break the kang" and "it is not necessarily good after hours", whether it is rural slang or old adage, tells us a truth-people can't live a life that is too smooth and has no setbacks. Once they hit a hurdle, they may not be able to live. On the contrary, it is the people who stumble along the way who can achieve great things. The two people I listed are really lucky, and they are also rare young and promising cadres in the system. They are highly educated, active in thinking, enterprising and innovative, and have fully demonstrated their abilities and achievements when they are in charge of the government. If it weren't for those accidents, they should have made greater achievements, and they could go further in their official career, and even have an unlimited future. Unfortunately, this is only if. When chatting with colleagues, they will lament that young cadres are promoted quickly and have many problems. Cadres who are too obedient in the early stage often can't go far. Even if they don't make mistakes, it's hard to reach the top. Once they encounter obstacles, they will stop directly. On the contrary, those cadres who came all the way from villages and towns made no big mistakes or small mistakes, but landed smoothly. Probably analyze, there are several reasons why cadres who are too obedient in the early stage can't go far:

1. Without the purgatory test of villages and towns, it is impossible to understand the complex situation at the grassroots level. These particularly successful cadres in the early stage often have no grassroots work experience, let alone township leaders' work experience. They are high above, taking the high-level route and floating on it for so many years. If it is in a public institution, this problem is not big, but once it is managed, this defect will develop into a fatal injury. Once you encounter complicated personnel relations and major tests, you may roll over if you are careless, and all your previous efforts will be wasted. Why do promoting cadres, especially leading cadres in charge, pay special attention to the integrity of resumes? Young cadres in some government agencies and units should also make up for grassroots work experience's part by taking temporary training to make up for this lesson.

2. Airborne cadres often have the problem of acclimatization. Acclimatization is a common phenomenon. I remember when I was a child, my parents would bring a handful of hometown. Although this is unscientific, it can't be said to be superstition. Similarly, so do cadres. In the past, many cadres, especially those in charge, parachuted from higher authorities to local offices were often difficult to adapt. Many of them applied for their original positions after working for several years. What is the reason? It is because of acclimatization that grass-roots units and institutions are really completely different worlds. The words, meetings, rules and regulations of the organs have really reached the grassroots level and are almost completely useless. People who are used to the pace of office work are often uncomfortable at the grassroots level.

To give the simplest example, the Organization Department of the Municipal Party Committee once sent a section chief to the village to hang a deputy secretary to focus on grassroots party building. I was an organization director. I once went to a village with him for investigation. When I arrived at the village Committee, I found that General Tie had closed the door and no one was there. The deputy secretary who was rejected was very angry. She cursed the village cadres for getting paid but freeloading and not even opening the door during working hours. Then she called the organization department of the municipal party Committee and suggested that they send someone to investigate this matter and see how many village cadres are vegetarians. I quickly stopped him and told him that it was the autumn harvest season, the villagers were busy harvesting rice, and the village cadres also had to harvest rice. If they don't farm, they can't support their families with these salaries. The deputy secretary is a city man. I really don't know this, so I took him to other places to find the village secretary. The village secretary is almost 60 years old. He has been a village cadre for more than 20 years and is highly respected. As a result, the deputy secretary swept away the sight of the village secretary, from the duty system of village cadres to the concept of serving the people, from Scientific Outlook on Development to the year of grassroots organization construction, and finally asked the village secretary, "Who are you looking for when you work in the fields like this?" Is this how you serve the masses? "I'm afraid the old secretary has never been asked like this in my life, let alone a young man, so he took the seal out of his pocket and said to us word by word:" I have always brought the seal with me. When the farm is busy, no one goes to the village Committee to handle affairs. Call me directly if you need a seal, talk about things in other places, and work on the spot. "I know all the rules you said. I also want to sit in the office, answer the phone and play computer like you every day. No way, I want to farm, because my salary is less than 10 thousand a year, and I have to deal with villagers' contradictions at any time. I can't lie in the office every day ... "This made me feel the hardships of the grassroots for the first time and was deeply educated. The deputy secretary was also deeply moved, saying that he knew too little about rural work. Now, the deputy secretary has become the secretary of the township party Committee, and she has walked steadily and solidly all the way, perhaps because she made up the class of grass-roots work in time and really adapted to the local water and soil.

3. Being young is both an advantage and a disadvantage. Young people are enterprising, self-motivated, innovative, energetic and enthusiastic, which are all advantages. The same is true of the two cadres listed. They have their own unique advantages and strengths when they can climb to the top in the year of no doubt. Otherwise, the Organization would not have made such an arrangement. But youth is also a shortcoming, impulsive, out of control, lacking stability, and often showing out of control when encountering contradictions and challenges ... If they can pass this test and walk through this most difficult road, they will glow with amazing combat effectiveness and growth, which is also the original intention and purpose of our organizations at all levels to fully promote the rejuvenation of cadres.

The author analyzes that it may be the following reasons-

First, the blessings of a person's life are limited. As the old saying goes, there are eight fights in life, and you will not rest until you die! How much a person can get in his life is doomed. You spent most of the first half of his life, and naturally you can only suffer and suffer in the second half.

Second, most people who are too successful in the first half of their lives have superior family circumstances and are easy to develop the habit of arrogance. Because of his father's shadow, it is easy to breed arrogant and uninhibited character and not know the difficulties of the world. Once the family fortune declines, they will be at a loss and don't know how to integrate into society and stand on their own feet;

Third, people who lived too smoothly in the first half of their lives, because they grew up under the protection of their parents, have never experienced the ups and downs of life and do not know the hardships in the world. After living independently, once you encounter difficulties and hardships, you will easily give up on yourself and lose the courage to fight against fate and the indomitable perseverance to face setbacks;

Fourth, people who are lucky in the first half of their lives have no gratitude for their life experiences because they don't work hard in good times; Lack of awe of the impermanence of life! So I don't know whether we should cherish and cultivate good fortune in this world, and don't forget to repay the society between "giving up" and "getting".

A classmate, whose father is a divisional cadre in the army, basically won't look at the poor children in our class with his eyes. What I remember most clearly is that when the children of several troops in the class were in conflict, he took his father out, bigger than anyone else. And always: go home and tell my dad that you bully me and let my dad give you some color to see see! They didn't graduate from junior high school and left school when the troops transferred to defense. I heard that he later became a soldier. After he retired, he worked in a TV station of a mining bureau in Shanxi, and then there was no news ... A few years ago, he also came to the 50th anniversary celebration party of junior high school students. I'll never see the high spirits and frivolity of my youth again. The bony face is engraved with the wind and frost of the years, and the expression is dull. When he speaks, he always follows what others say. Later, I heard children from other troops say that his father made a mistake, and he was squeezed out of the unit and depressed for a long time. His wife divorced him long ago, and the child was awarded to his wife. Now he lives alone in another province. ...

In him, no one knows exactly what has changed in life, and naturally he will not tell his classmates who have been separated for more than 50 years. I only know that he quietly quit his classmates soon after the party!

Among my classmates, like him, a bureaucratic child who was unattainable in our eyes at that time, it seems that few of them lived smoothly and never saw the spring breeze again. That kind of frustration and loneliness will leak out from time to time through words and deeds! There are several children of workers and peasants who were poor at that time. Now they are rich bosses and have wealth! Except for travel expenses, Xiamen party and Fuzhou party are all covered and funded by them. ...

I found that such a person who was reincarnated very smoothly in the first half of his life, his parents are likely to leave in the second half of his life, his family will encounter some changes, and then various destiny symphonies will be played, otherwise he may run out of smooth and healthy life in the first half of his life, and his life in the second half will be short or something else. Most unhappy or poor people, although their parents are poor or their childhood is rough, usually their relatives will live and get up in the second half of their lives to live better. I know a beautiful woman with a really good family condition. Her parents are CPPCC members. She never wears delicate makeup when she goes out, and she has never encountered the storms of ordinary people. She lives much better than many families. But when she was 27 years old, her father died and her husband left in the same year. She took her mother to see a doctor. When she was in the hospital, she lost her exquisiteness and fell into the hard life of ordinary people.

Say a superstitious word, that is, how many blessings a person has in his life and how much money he earns are doomed. If he uses up the first half of his life, he is gone, and the second half is doomed to suffer. Examples like this abound around him. Most people stumble in the first half of their lives, but they begin to change their destiny in their thirties. A person's golden decade is 35-45 years old. If he doesn't change his fortune by the age of 45, he is basically doomed to be mediocre all his life. Of course, there are people who have a good life or a bad life, but after all, there are not many such people. The average person always has such a lucky few years, some people have a year or two, and some people have decades, so we can't generalize. Another person has lazy cancer, which will not go well in the first half or the second half.

The first half of life is the first half of life with infinite possibilities. If you make mistakes, suffer and fail, you can have a chance to turn over. The first half of life is also the first half of personality habits. If the first half of life goes too smoothly, it is really not a good thing for ordinary people. If they have never been beaten by society and want everything, it is easy for them to be arrogant and think too highly of themselves. In the second half of life, basic health declines, and personality habits and behaviors are also qualitative. There are always three ups and downs in life. Those who are too smooth in the first half of life will encounter setbacks in the second half, and they will not be able to pass in their hearts, faces and bodies. Personality and arrogance will lead a miserable life.

It is not necessarily a good thing that the first half of life is too smooth. I agree with this sentence. I met a man who had a smooth life in the first half and a lot of trouble in the second half.

A friend of mine, since he left school, most people rely on loess, but he started as a substitute teacher, then joined the government department and then became a full member.

But he was ambitious, and a friend opened a clothing factory. He invested all his savings, borrowed 1 tens of thousands of debts, and gave them all to his friends to take care of, making himself a casual shopkeeper.

In the first year of the partnership, the business of the clothing factory was very good. Everyone got 300,000 yuan, and everyone was very happy.

After the friend tasted the sweetness, he invested 6.5438+0 million yuan in the second year. He also let his wife participate in the management and let his friends take care of it.

When he was ready to enjoy the success at the end of the year, his friend called and told him that his business was lost and he couldn't find anyone to look for. I don't know where he went. The investment of more than 2 million hit Shui Piao in this way, and I really want to cry!

I also went to jail for embezzlement. The property at home has also become the property of others, and his wife and children are homeless and live a dependent life.

My friend's first half life was too smooth, he didn't know the cruelty of human nature, and he didn't have the heart to prevent others. As a result, I was cheated by more than 2 million friends. The other party lost a word and ended the cooperative relationship.

There is a saying that times make heroes. Born in troubled times, the hero has seen many scenes, honed his mind in difficult times, and constantly grew into a strong and brave person who can face countless setbacks.

"Failure is the mother of success" and "Learning from mistakes". The hardships of the first half of life lay the foundation for the success of the second half. Suffering can make people grow continuously; Suffering can make people accumulate experience continuously; Suffering can make people mature mentally.