How to chat with your girlfriend

What are the topics of chatting with your girlfriend and chatting with your girlfriend?

In the book "Bad Boys Teach You How to Date for the First Time to Attract Girls", Tango, a well-known pick-up girl, mentioned that chatting with men and women, going deep into her heart, is closer rather than stagnant.

。 I'm afraid these problems are common to many people.

In fact, these problems are all the same-you care too much about her, and you are always careful when you speak, and gradually there is no topic, let alone a deeper topic, and it is hard to see that your relationship can develop further. Especially when you really like her, you will care about what she thinks and her hobbies, and you want to cater to her everything you say.

Think carefully about how to answer the next sentence and what you are interested in ... What topics men and women chat about, go deep into her heart, and have a closer relationship instead of stagnation.

I'm afraid these problems are common to many people. In fact, these problems are all the same-you care too much about her, always speak carefully, and gradually there is no topic, let alone a deeper topic, and it is hard to see that your relationship can develop further.

Especially when you really like her, you will be very concerned about her thoughts and hobbies, and everything you say will cater to her. Think carefully about how to answer the next sentence and what to say before you are interested.

If you are short-circuited and unexpected, you will suddenly become very embarrassed, and you will become very anxious-what should I do if there is a silence? But people get confused when they are in a hurry, so they don't know what to say. I can understand how you feel in this situation.

you must be very surprised. Why do you stutter and feel awkward in front of her? You always can't think of the topic. As mentioned above, your concern for her opinion is one of the obvious reasons. You always feel that no matter what you do or say, it will affect your impression in her heart, and the topic she talks with you is related to her feelings when she is with you, and it will affect whether she will fall in love with you.

so if you think too much about the result, you will behave like this. It's like you like A very much. If you like her, she is attracted to you, and of course you feel very happy. If you like her, but you are completely unattractive to her, of course, you will be very painful and frustrated.

If you like her, it is easy for her behavior to determine your own state of mind. Your mood is no longer controlled by yourself, but by her reaction-whether she returns phone calls or smiles at you. This will weaken your attraction to her and reduce your own charm.

Think back to life, which man will be controlled by others at will and still be attractive to women? At least I haven't seen it, because women have a strong sense of smell for finding such men. The legendary sixth sense really exists. Most women have it, but most men don't, and probably haven't felt it.

once she finds out that what she says and does can control your mood, it means that you can be controlled at will in her mind. It is natural that they will not deliberately notice this phenomenon, and then your attraction in your heart will be greatly weakened.

There is a paradox here: liking her will of course care about her and her feelings about herself, so she will care about everything that may affect her feelings. Care here seems to be inevitable.

but you should try not to care too much at the emotional level. Maybe you know very well in theory, that you can't show too much concern, and that you should be comfortable, but in fact, when you are with her, you will still be nervous. When you are nervous, you will forget all the theories, and you still can't find a topic to talk about.

since this has happened to me, how can I change this situation? The following skills, which I explored in my long-term teaching and my own practice, are to add some new elements on the basis of what I have taught before. Do you remember how to make your words more humorous by distorting her meaning? Let's look back: using a framework of "she is after you", deliberately distorting her meaning, playing silly jokes on her, and sometimes flirting with her with jokes about feelings, which women are very interested in.

Now, on this basis, I'm going to teach you another method. The combination of the two can play a huge role. Just a few words can be like magic-I just met you, fell in love with you immediately, and even let her who wants to leave you come back to you. In the process of chatting between men and women, grasp the key words in her words at will, even just one, and then deliberately distort her meaning accordingly.

In this way, you can solve the above problems first-you won't have nothing to say, not only have a topic, but also show your sense of humor in the next topic; After that, you can make fun of her and laugh at her in good faith, but you can also make her laugh. Here's a true story, my friend's.

once he made an appointment to meet a girl in a coffee shop, and the girl told him, "I'm sorry, I have something at home, so I may have to go home first." If a girl tells you this, how do you want to respond? Using the above method, do you want to determine which keyword? Is the key word "home"? And say, "Well, why don't I take you?" Or the key word "something"? And say, "What is it? Can I help? " .

。 He pretended to be surprised and said, "Go home? ！” But we just met for the first time. How can we be so casual? I'm a conservative man, and I won't go home with you! (Here, a frame is used to distort her original meaning.) She smiled and said, "Haha, that's not what I meant. I meant going home alone."

He immediately replied, "I know what you mean, but I'm determined not to go home with you. I'm a principled person. Forget it." She laughed and denied, "That's not true. You misunderstood me."

He went on to say, "Besides, my house is super comfortable, and it's guaranteed to be more beautiful than yours. If you really think so, you should come to my house with me." In this way, he opened the chatterbox between them, and the more girls talked with him, the more they felt.

After that, like many lovers who have developed for a long time, the girls first had dinner with him, watched movies, visited the night scene together, and returned.

went back to his home together. Key words don't have to be grasped and understood in the discourse.

Talking with your girlfriend

First of all, know her life now, which will show that you are very careful and considerate.

If she likes to eat, talk to her about food in a place. If she likes to talk about love, talk about love. It's best to read more touching love stories recently. You can tell the story brilliantly with your eloquence, and it's best to combine it with you. Talking about movies, anything will do, as long as you have sufficient connotation to believe that any topic can make her like listening.

If you want to chat with content and topics, it is inseparable from your knowledge. Boring topics can only make her bother you.

just watch more things. Topic: 1. Do you remember the interesting things about the Mid-Autumn Festival? 2. Customs vary from place to place. Can you talk about the unique customs in your hometown? 3. What kind of moon cakes do you like best? 4. Where do you like to watch the moon best on Mid-Autumn Festival night? Please call 999 to the management! Topic: 1. What do you think of the crazy idolize phenomenon among teenagers? 2. Do you have idolize complex? Which star do you like best? What do you like? 3. Should a star give up some personal preferences and privacy for the sake of public image? Topic: 1. Do you like online games? United, legendary or other? Why do you like it? 2. Are you addicted to online games? 3. Are you an expert in online games? Talk about your experience in playing games online? Topic: 1. Which of the four major cuisines do you like? Why? 2. Can you accept the hobby of eating mice? 3. American fast food is very popular in China. What do you think? 4. What do you like to eat? Tell me about some of your best home-cooked dishes. Topic: 1. Do you like sports? What kind of sports do you like best? 2. Tickets for the Women's World Cup are much cheaper than those for the Men's World Cup. Do you think women's sports are unattractive? 3. Can you accept high-risk sports such as mountaineering or bungee jumping? Topic: 1. Do you think watching TV can replace reading? Which one do you prefer? 2. How often do you read a book on average? 3. What kind of TV programs do you like to watch? What do you think about the phenomenon of advertising in TV programs? Please call 999 to ask questions: 1. What kind of movies do you like to watch? Comedy, action or? 2. Do you like watching movies or watching movies at home? Talk about different feelings? 3. Introduce some of your favorite movies? 4. What do you think is the best movie to watch when you are in love? Please call 9 for wheat. Oh, stupid.

besides eating, people are studying and working.

care about her life and friends around her. Something she likes.

favorite person. Favorite snacks and favorite things to do.

。 A lot.

take your time.

。 You can tell her what you used to be and some interesting things that happened to you before! When you say this, you can probably guess what she likes, because if she likes something, she will definitely ask more questions. Good luck! Pay more attention to the things around you, maybe you will have a topic, and look at her usual hobbies. You can study some by yourself, so as to communicate. More is to go out for a walk, look at things ~ pay more attention to the details, listen to each other's words, catch those subtle changes, then respond, give each other care and understanding inadvertently, and then give each other some small surprises and touches, and try to achieve that kind of tacit understanding until you have a heart. I suggest that when you are talking to her, you show enough interest to find some current events in various forums, or pick up some school anecdotes, and talk about whatever you want. Now the information is constantly updated every day. You should recharge your batteries before going to bed at night and find more topics to prepare, so that you will be furious the next day. There is something wrong with your way of speaking, so don't chase after it. You keep asking questions, and the other party can only answer them, but it is too late to express their thoughts.

This will put you at a disadvantage. You will tell everything, but in fact you don't know what the other person thinks. Solution: After asking questions, listen to each other's answers, let her fully express and read more.

it doesn't matter what you think now, what matters is what she thinks. If you want to be her support, you can't be too weak.

Daily weather, life, reading some short stories, telling her stories ... 1) Topics at work 2) Her preferences 3) Her idols 4) Pets 5) Clothing/cosmetics 6) Humorous jokes 7) Movies/music 8) Interesting things in daily life 9) You don't need to be artificial and exaggerated, just have your heart, and she will feel your sincerity. I have to praise her for her beauty and loveliness.

share her difficulties. After all, what a girl wants is a boyfriend who can make her happy and share the difficulties. Usually, everyone is most concerned about their own problems. As long as they ask the right questions and listen attentively, Israel will definitely regard us as bosom friends, and then give us a chance to express ourselves in return. One after another, the strange embarrassment of the first date will become a long talk.

The following topics can promote intimacy: 1. What do you do? Why do you like this job? What are the biggest challenges? What is the biggest setback? What are your hopes for your job and future? ) 2. So far, what achievements have you made in your life? Are there any major setbacks? 3. What do you love most? (Why are you interested?) 4. What was the most memorable happy event last year? (or unfortunate things? 5. What would you do with your job? 6. How do you like to spend your holidays? 7. Do you want to be famous? (Why) 8. If you had a million dollars, what would you do with it? 9. In your family, how did you grow up from childhood? 1. What personality advantages did you have during your growth? (Are there any shortcomings of fear? 11. What kind of relationship do you want to develop? 12. Are you romantic? (How romantic? What do you think is the difference between men and women? 14. What will make you happy? 15. What makes you sad? 16. When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up? 17. What do you think is the difference between you and others? 18. Do you believe in gods? What do you think of the gods? 19. To what extent do you think your personal behavior has an impact on changing society? 2. What do you think are the important events in society at present? What action would you take if possible? Some of the above topics seem to involve too much personal issues, especially for people who are dating for the first time, but please remember that few people don't care about themselves, and as long as they don't ask each other like a survey account, everyone is willing to discuss their own problems. And there are three.

Chatting with my girlfriend

Well, I said I'm a girl, but I'll give you some advice.

My boyfriend is not very good at finding topics, so I usually say it. When I get up in the morning, he will send me a good morning message, greet each other and ask what I am doing and what I had for breakfast.

Then, give a general idea of what you are going to do today. Does it make you feel distressed or confused, or happy or interesting? Whenever there are a few interesting things in your life, you can tell them to your girlfriend.

occasionally ask your girlfriend about her family, such as what her relationship with her parents is like. There is also what constellation the girlfriend is, what she likes to eat and what she likes to do.

You can also imagine your future, such as where you will work in the future, and you can also talk about sweet words, such as buying a diamond ring for your girlfriend, buying beautiful clothes, taking her shopping and eating delicious food. If you think the food in any place is delicious and distinctive, you can tell her to take you to eat next time.

what's the taste like? But ...

。 These topics are all raised by me. = = My boyfriend and I are talking about everything on the phone. When we talk more, everyone is familiar with it, and our feelings will go further and there will be more tacit understanding, so we don't need to communicate so much.

why don't you and your girlfriend have anything to talk about? You lack the same circle. This circle can be friends and classmates, but because my boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship, I only occasionally tell interesting stories about my classmates.

My boyfriend and I play the same game. We play games together every night, and we have more tacit understanding. Also, I recommend you to watch a piece of software on your mobile phone called Encyclopedia of Embarrassment.

it's commonly known as "Qianbai". There are funny clips of real people and stories in it. I like them very much. If you like them after watching them, you can recommend them to your girlfriend. If your girlfriend is not available, you can choose a joke and send it to your girlfriend to make her happy.

I believe your relationship will go further! .

what topic to talk to your girlfriend

Khan, buddy, it depends on yourself. What is your personality?

not in his face.