What should a man do if his daughter-in-law doesn't respect her mother-in-law?

1, separate, don't let mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live under the same roof. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is mostly caused by trivial matters in daily life. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law don't like each other and often have disputes, the best solution must be to separate, so that the contradictions between the two will naturally decrease and the impression of each other will change after a long time. 2. Deal with a man as he deals with you. Although this method is a bit clumsy, it is the most effective. Simply put, the man treats his mother-in-law like a daughter-in-law, so that they can feel what it is like not to be respected. The worst result is nothing more than the daughter-in-law's emotional breakdown and divorce. If the woman doesn't realize her own problems, there is nothing to miss in this marriage. Divorce is also a relief. 3. The bottom line is that the daughter-in-law does not respect her in-laws. Talking about this kind of thing can be said to be trivial. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be just one person's fault. If a man is always partial to one side, it is easy to destroy the marriage. In this case, the most sensible way is to take three chapters. The husband and wife have agreed on what to say and what not to say, and treat the elderly on both sides with a standard, and some problems will be solved easily. If your wife is unkind to your parents, you have to talk to her. She also has parents. When she is unkind to her parents, don't blame her for being fierce. You just need to talk to her. Apply what she did to your parents to her parents and see how she will react. At this time, she will feel something. Method 2: Protect parents. My wife treats my parents badly. As the son of my parents, don't mess with my wife. It is everyone's responsibility to respect my parents. It's not easy for my parents to raise us so big. If I don't honor them, it will be very unfilial, and your children may not be good to you in the future. Method 3: Don't use violence. Some men will use violence after learning that their wives are not filial to their parents. This is a very bad way to deal with it. If they want their wives to be kind to their parents, they should settle it peacefully. You can't use violence against a woman. Although she has done something wrong, violence can't solve the problem, and she won't just because you hit her parents. Method 4: Have a good discussion. Maybe a wife will be bad to her parents for some reason, but this cannot be an excuse for being bad to her parents. You should talk to her. It is not easy for parents to raise children, so since two people are together, they should be filial to each other's parents and be kind to each other at the same time. Method 5: Let her think. If a wife fails to honor her parents, she should think about why, and at the same time talk to her and let her think for herself. As a junior, it is very important to be filial to your parents. When she can't do this, she is wrong. Let her think about it and then improve it. Method 6: Educate her well. Of course, when it comes to education, I feel very uncomfortable, but I can't help it, because unfilial is a big deal. When you or your partner can't do it, you should think and learn from each other, so as to set a good example for your children. What if the daughter-in-law doesn't honor her parents? First, a good man asks his daughter-in-law to do what she usually does to be filial to her grave. She just wants your daughter-in-law to be your spokesperson and let her give your parents what you bought for them. Parents must be very happy to see her daughter-in-law buy something for themselves. When they go out, they can tell others that my daughter-in-law bought it, and they feel very bright on their faces. Second, not expressing opinions means talking less and listening more after marriage. After all, with parents and daughter-in-law present, no one will criticize anyone. If you are with your parents or daughter-in-law, it is different. Maybe when you are with your parents, you will tell your daughter-in-law what happened. Similarly, when you are with your daughter-in-law, you will criticize your parents and say that you don't like it. Don't do it at this time. This is the mud. They just want to vent in front of you and let you know about it. If you want to express your opinion, you will doubt whether you are like this in front of your parents or daughter-in-law, even though you mean well. Third, we must take good care of our parents and daughter-in-law. Some men, whether it's their daughter-in-law's fault or not, will never let their parents go. They are old, what do you care about with them? It's not easy for them to raise me for decades. You follow them, they mean no harm. But some of them are typical of marrying a daughter-in-law and forgetting her mother. After they got married, they only looked at their wives and listened to them, making their parents cry silently. Fourth, learn to do face work. When there are differences or conflicts between your wife and parents, you should follow them, but only if you have your own judgment and thinking, and you can't be led by the nose, because everyone's views are from their own perspective, which is not comprehensive and objective. 5. Say nice things about each other behind their backs and learn to praise others. This is a key point. You should talk more about the benefits of your daughter-in-law in front of your parents when your daughter-in-law is away. When parents are away, talk about the benefits of parents in front of the daughter-in-law and cooperate with the first one. The effect is great. After all, it is difficult for both sides to sit down and communicate deeply, especially when there is conflict, you can't understand each other. At this time, it is time for you to play. 6. Take the initiative to help his wife integrate into his family and make her feel like a member of the family. Maybe all husbands will shout: since he married his wife and went home, how could he reject her? However, although some men don't have such thoughts subjectively, they are actually doing such things, making their wives feel that they are outsiders in your family and are excluded everywhere. Therefore, it is necessary to communicate with your wife more and let her give more advice. What if the daughter-in-law is not filial? First, take the lead in filial piety. Many mother-in-law accused their wives of being "unfilial". In fact, your attitude determines your wife's attitude. When a son is filial, his wife will naturally follow suit. She calls them mom and dad because she loves you. You care about taking care of your mother, your wife will naturally dare not neglect, and your mother-in-law will care as much as mother and daughter. Because she will think that her husband is a person who sincerely respects her mother-in-law, she will respect you more, and she will take care of her mother-in-law and run the family more attentively. Second, let the wife be a good person. An important point to solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to increase the intimacy between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. A smart husband will give his wife the opportunity to be a good person. What should I buy to honor my parents after the holiday? At home, I will guide my wife to praise her mother-in-law, her exquisite cooking, her housekeeping, her family harmony and let her do anything that can please her parents. Even if I made it myself, I would like to mention that I have a wife's heart. People's hearts are all meat, and no one will be indifferent to goodwill. Third, don't quarrel with your wife in front of your mother-in-law. A wife's position in the family is often given by her husband. When two people live together, there are not only wine and coffee, but also trivial things. Naturally, they will quarrel, but don't quarrel in front of their mother-in-law. Because this may imply that the mother: first, because the daughter-in-law did not do well, she quarreled with you-of course, the mother will stand on your side; On the one hand, your daughter-in-law has no weight in your heart, so you don't respect her so much. In the long run, the mother-in-law will disrespect her wife and deepen the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Fourth, treat parents and in-laws equally. Maybe someone wants to ask, is this related to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? Of course it matters. When a man regards his parents-in-law as his own parents to be filial and caring, the woman who marries him will naturally take it to heart. Women are emotional animals. If you treat her parents well, she won't be indifferent to her in-laws. If you buy gifts to visit her every year, she won't be indifferent to her in-laws. Kiss what he loves, love what he loves. In fact, women understand that if they marry a man, they will never escape from his family and his parents. Even if you live independently, even if you don't need the help of your parents-in-law, because the natural blood relationship between your husband and your parents-in-law will always exist. So what women do depends on what men do. 5. Manage your own relationship. There is a saying that the key to managing the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to manage the relationship between husband and wife. A good relationship between husband and wife will not worry the elders at home, and there will be many contradictions. When a woman really loves her husband, she will love her parents from the heart. When you know this woman, understand her pains and see her difficulties, you will naturally sympathize with her and love her. You will support each other and agree on many issues. Even if there is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, based on her love for you, she is willing to take the initiative to show weakness and resolve it, even if it is a compromise. Because she doesn't want the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to bring you trouble and destroy your harmonious atmosphere, more because she is willing to face problems with you and join hands with you for life. What if the daughter-in-law doesn't respect her mother-in-law? 2. A good man asks his daughter-in-law to do something when you buy things to honor your parents, or to make your parents happy and let his wife come forward. In this way, the mother will feel that her daughter-in-law is reasonable, even if she has some small frictions with her daughter-in-law in life, she can not take it to heart. Second, learn to hide on both sides. Don't talk on both sides. As a man who can't talk, don't talk casually, especially at family gatherings. The wife said that her mother-in-law was not good, and her mother complained that her daughter-in-law was not filial. Originally, it was just out of women's complaining nature, and it passed after listening. If you take it seriously, if you spread it from both sides, or just let it drift, it is purely asking for trouble. Third, don't be a "baby face" or a "flower magpie". In short, a "baby boy" is a man who always obeys his mother. And "flower magpie" refers to a man who listens to his wife in everything. The word "flower magpie" comes from the following sentence: "flower magpie, with a tail, married his daughter-in-law and forgot his mother." As the saying goes, "it is difficult for an honest official to break housework". In the long-term process of dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I found that when there are problems, neither party is absolutely right nor absolutely wrong. This requires men to have enough patience and rational minds, to maintain an objective and neutral attitude towards problems, not to take sides easily, and finally to make a decision that satisfies both sides. Whether it is favoring the mother or the wife, it will make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law unbalanced and hurt the feelings of one of them. Fourth, don't have the concept of "inherit the wind". Many husbands seem to have this idea and like to hang this sentence on their lips to show their respect and "filial piety" to their parents. Especially after the wife was wronged by her mother, this sentence appeared the most frequently. Only when she knew that her mother was wrong did she dare to say to her wife: inherit the wind, she is not right, it is my mother. Please forgive me! So the wives had nowhere to vent their grievances and had to secretly cry. In this kind of family, because women can't get the protection of their husbands, their love for them will gradually fade away until they are disappointed with their marriage. Some may run away from their marriage, and some may turn from tolerance to counterattack, eventually leaving everyone in this relationship scarred. My daughter-in-law was angry with me, so I told her at my mother's side, what would you do if her parents had friction with her wife? Are you telling your wife that everything is true? If she is wrong, she is also my mother, so bear with it! Such a husband does not understand a loving daughter-in-law, which will only make her love for her husband fade away until she is disappointed with her marriage. The correct way is to tell your wife I love you, calm her down, and then deal with things in different categories. If it is really the parents' fault, remind them gently and kindly. Sixth, learn to "obey" When the wife and mother have differences of opinion, of course, it is to persuade the good not to persuade the evil. First of all, you should have your own view of right and wrong and quickly judge the correct way, and then promise in front of two adults to coax them. Just do what you think is right behind the backs of two adults. Say nice things about each other behind their backs, so that you can leave a good impression between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. As a man, in order to please your mother or your wife, it is easy to speak ill of your wife when the other person is not around. But this will only please the mother or wife temporarily, but it is not conducive to the establishment of a long-term good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. When dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, men should learn to speak well of each other behind their backs and continue to speak well of each other. Because only by constantly saying good things will there be a brainwashing effect and a good impression between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Eight, take the initiative to help his wife integrate into the family, rather than helping his family reject her. Maybe all husbands will shout: since he married his wife and went home, how could he refuse her? However, although some men don't have such thoughts subjectively, they are actually doing such things, making their wives feel that they are outsiders in your family and are excluded everywhere. When a woman gets married and enters a completely unfamiliar environment, it is inevitable that she will feel at a loss and naturally feel defensive. In this family, only her husband is the closest person to her, and some behaviors of other people in her husband's family, although subjectively harmless, will be considered by her as behaviors that hurt her. At this time, you need your husband to be a bridge of communication. Please don't blindly accuse her of being "sensitive, oversensitive and narrow-minded ...", which will only make the distance between the wife and her family farther away and eventually exclude her from this big family.