Rolling is a baby's nature? No, it's "bad brain"

Every time a child and his parents get angry, the old people at home always advise the parents who are about to get angry: "Don't argue with the child, the child hasn't grown up yet."

At first glance, it always seems strange (not like a good word), but when you think about it carefully, it really is.

Children have a bad temper and are noisy. Many times, we attribute the children's performance to psychological reasons, perhaps because they have entered an emotional sensitive period. Or is it related to the cultivation of family members' usual education methods?

In fact, children splash water because their brains are not well developed.

To understand the baby's mood, look at the brain first.

When a child is born, the brain weighs only between 350 and 400 grams, which is 25% of the adult brain.

By 1 year, it can reach 50% of the adult brain weight, and by 2 years old it can reach 75%. According to the current brain science research, it takes about 25 years for the human brain to complete its development.

In the process of children's brain development, the development progress of "accessories" in different parts of the brain is different, among which the brain "accessories" that control emotional expression and behavior are called amygdala and prefrontal cortex.

Although these two brain structures are related to people's emotional control, they are not easy to deal with in children's brains.

Let's talk about the difference between the two.

Almond: This almond is not edible. When the baby is born, the amygdala in the brain is fully developed. It can generate, identify and regulate emotions, and control learning and memory. Does it sound like a "three-good student" with both talent and learning?

When people are frightened and threatened, the amygdala can also control you to attack or escape. In short, it basically gives the command of the current emotional response.

The amygdala can't store people's specific memories of something, but can only remember the emotional stimulus at that time and remember this stimulus for a long time.

As the saying goes, once bitten, twice shy. Many people were chased or bitten by dogs when they were young, which made them afraid to run away when they saw dogs when they grew up. That's the reason.

Moreover, as a nerve center, the amygdala also plays a key role when impulsive emotions overwhelm reason.

Prefrontal cortex: The partner who is not satisfied with the amygdala is the prefrontal cortex. It is usually called the command and control center of the brain, which is responsible for thinking, emotional regulation, observing other people's thoughts and emotions, and developing empathy. It allows us to rationally face and control emotional fluctuations.

A cold knowledge: the prefrontal cortex is not fully developed at birth, but it will begin to develop when the child is 2-3 years old, and it will gradually reach its peak at the age of 6, and it will not be fully developed until the twenties.

Therefore, when children are young, the ups and downs of emotions are controlled by the impulse faction representing the amygdala, which means that the rational prefrontal cortex has not yet reached that stage.

The two brain structures that control each other's emotions, one early and the other late, are not well coordinated at all, and do not operate at the same time. Impulse and reason complement each other.

Therefore, children often lose their temper, are unreasonable and cry.

Splashing water is a brain problem. Do you care?

Of course I know.

Since the child's emotional control ability is poor, it is because the brain is not fully developed, so we parents can't "add fuel to the fire" when the child has emotional problems, and don't let it go when the child is unreasonable.

Although from a physiological point of view, children's emotions have their own laws of natural development, the guidance of the day after tomorrow is also very important for shaping children's correct emotional expression.

Teach children to recognize and express emotions.

Even the youngest child has emotions. When the child is emotional, you can guide the child and ask the child, "What's wrong with you?" Are you angry, sad or jealous? ...

Parents can use some emotional cards to play games with their baby to identify emotions, and at the same time guide the child to express his emotions, and gradually have a clearer understanding of emotions, laying the foundation for his next emotional development.

Meet children's emotional needs for value.

Many times, parents are busy with work and children are handed over to the elderly, but children's feelings for their parents are irreplaceable by anyone.

If parents spend too little time with their children, children will easily form loneliness, inferiority, timidity, cowardice and even attack.

Both parents have a good working and family relationship. They can send their children to kindergarten during the day and have at least one companion to accompany them to play and live at night.

Secondly, children can learn to call their parents and video chat, which can not only meet their emotional needs, but also exercise their language skills.

At the same time, if parents can't pick up their children or pick them up late, they must make it clear to their children in advance, otherwise the children will watch their other half being picked up one by one, leaving them alone in the end, which will easily lead to abandonment.

Cultivate children's positive and optimistic attitude

With the improvement of people's living conditions, children's living environment is much better than in the past, which leads to many children being spoiled.

Spoiled by their parents, such children will collapse when they encounter a little setback and lose their temper when they encounter something unsatisfactory.

In order to prevent children from getting worse, parents should find ways to improve their resilience, encourage their children to face difficulties with a positive attitude and cope with their future life with a sunny and optimistic attitude.