How should an introverted newcomer get along with colleagues who are all of the opposite sex?

I recently joined an IT company as an intern. After joining, I found that the team was all members of the opposite sex. I am not a very sociable person. I have to think about things in my head three times before talking to others. I am also very afraid of troublesome others. In fact, there is nothing wrong with getting along with the opposite sex, but it is a bit strange to have only the opposite sex in the team. After all, the modes and topics of getting along are different. What's even worse is that the seats there were full, and I was placed in a place that was a little far away from my team. It was even harder to get to know each other through small talk. Now that I have just joined the job, I have not been assigned any tasks. I am told that there is really nothing I can do and I need to familiarize myself with it first. Occasionally I went to ask everyone if they needed help, and they all said nothing happened. It was hard for me to just stand there and find topics to talk to when others were working, so I came back very embarrassed. Even if they work overtime, they ask me to go first. I really hope that I can work with everyone, even if I work overtime. I also know that work is not about socializing, but being able to integrate into a team must be better for work. The atmosphere in the team is actually quite good, and the people are nice, but in my situation, I really don’t know how to increase communication opportunities, let alone how to integrate into them. If this continues, I feel that my social disorder is getting more serious... Can anyone give me any feasible suggestions? Thank you everyone~

Hello M~ Your situation falls into the category of interpersonal communication for newcomers in the workplace. Since we have talked about it, let’s talk about it together.

1. Based on gender type, the communication of newcomers in the workplace is divided into five categories:

1. Men fall into the crowd of men. This is the simplest, good brothers and good friends, just roll up your sleeves and get to work, it’s useless if you don’t have sex.

2. Men fall into a pile of women. Just like a butterfly flying into the flowers, just don't get confused and confused. Be a hard-working bee and work hard to do more. It's always right.

3. Women fall into the pile of men. Generally speaking, they are relatively "favored", they will take good care of you at work, and they won't argue with you. But life may be a little rougher, such as the smell of men's cigarettes, mixed smells, sloppy desks...

4. Women fall into the pile of women. A common profession is that of an actor or model, surrounded by beautiful girls. Three women in one drama, ten girls... As a newcomer, it is right to keep a low profile, be well-behaved, play less drama, and learn to observe secretly first.

5. To a balanced secondary school environment. All things newbies need to be aware of apply to you. Including: low-key, polite, modest, honest, talk less and do more... Keep the 24-character socialist core values ??in mind to ensure that you overcome all obstacles:

Prosperity, democracy, civilization, harmony,

Freedom, equality, justice, rule of law,

Patriotism, dedication, integrity, and friendliness.

Second, if you look back at your description, you can generally tell that you are in the third situation.

First of all, I would like to congratulate you. There is no more intrigue and there will be no palace drama.

We must always remember "I am a small official, I am a small official".

1. Have a good attitude. You can tell that you are cared for by your colleagues who are reluctant to ask you to work overtime. Don't feel like you can't communicate with them or get along with them. Even if everyone doesn't show that they are very attentive to you (technical geeks are mostly reserved), remember that you are the one who is valued.

2. Give full play to your advantages. The biggest advantage of girls is that they are careful and patient. If they think they are introverted, then they should learn to "show weakness" and show their male colleagues "I don't understand a lot and I need you to teach me" instead of asking them if they need help. Ask them specific technical questions. Technical men are not good at finding topics to chat with, but they must be able to talk about the technical issues they are good at. Communication through specific work will be much smoother.

3. Ways to close the distance.

Most otakus like to play games. If you like it too, it is a good way to form a team to fight monsters together after work. Find their core person and learn from him at work or in the second dimension, and naturally you will be able to quickly integrate into their circle.

Observe others, give them some time, and don’t think that you will have social barriers. In fact, they may be more anxious to have a harmonious relationship than you are.

I am Bai Xiaobai. I wish you can integrate into the new environment quickly. If you still encounter problems, you can continue to ask questions~ Focus on the happiness of women in the workplace WeChat public account [Bai Xiaobai Online] ID: bxblady