Things in class - how to improve students’ emotional intelligence

In our teaching, we always talk about students. We can’t help but praise those students who are sensible, well-spoken, down-to-earth, hard-working... and we can’t help but complain about those students who have low emotional intelligence and don’t know how to do it. Can't speak, can't do things...

In life, we have gradually discovered the importance of emotional intelligence to a person.

What is emotional intelligence? Teacher Chen said that his preferred statement is: Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and get along with others.

Although the level of emotional intelligence is related to a person's personality, it can still be effectively improved through appropriate education.

Teachers must first have high emotional intelligence. Intentional actions can strengthen the educational effect, and students will be influenced by what they hear and see, which will inevitably have an impact.

1. Greetings from teachers and students

We need to start with the details to cultivate students with high emotional intelligence. I remember a questionnaire survey: Who is your favorite teacher and why? A student answered: History teacher, because every time after class, we say goodbye to the teacher, she will bow.

Watching The Age of Awakening with my students, I was deeply moved by the scenes of teachers and students greeting each other.

Every time I went to class, I would bow seriously in response to the students' greetings. Students learn respect and feedback as we greet each other.

2. Let’s talk about little Mingyan

Last night, Grandpa Akihiko called and said that in the afternoon, when he asked Akihiko what the name of the classmate in your class was, he didn’t expect that Akihiko actually said he didn’t know. , the old man felt that his children were too ignorant. Maybe he drank wine. Grandpa Akihiko talked a lot to me. He called Akihiko little Akihiko...

Akihiko is a very special person. My child, in addition to drawing in class every day, picks her fingers. As soon as the scars on her hands are healed, she opens them. She always fails to complete her study tasks and needs to be reminded by the teacher. She doesn't like to talk, is not good at hygiene, and her limbs are not very good. Coordination...

Before taking over the class, some teachers were worried that she had psychological problems, and also suggested that parents should take the child to see her. I did not agree. This child just lacked maternal love. She was raised by her grandfather and aunt, and she has been taken care of by her father for the past two or three years, but her father dotes on her. In Grandpa Akihiko's words, she is a spoiled child. I hope I can talk to my child more in private, teach her etiquette, teach her how to behave, teach her how to make friends...

I have actually been working on it, and I have a big class every day on the problem of uncoordinated limbs. I will guide her every time, from lagging behind in running for one or two laps to now basically not falling behind, from being unable to do many movements, to now doing it decently...

Regarding personal hygiene, I will learn it after class on Friday. She was told to go home and take a shower on the weekend, and the teacher would check to see if she was clean on Monday. I remember that after the flag-raising was over this Monday, I held her arm and said, "Come and see if the teacher has taken a shower?" She was surprised, maybe she didn't expect me to act so intimately (because of her personality and lack of hygiene, students rarely have contact with her), she nodded and said: Wash it. I took a look, and it was indeed a lot cleaner... This child is not good at dealing with classmates. In fact, he just has no one to guide him. People with low emotional intelligence also have no one to teach them.

Therefore, cultivating Akihiko’s emotional intelligence requires, as Teacher Chen said, start with the details: say hello, thank you, say goodbye, express apology, read the hints, think from others’ perspective...

3. Anti-terrorism drill

To carry out emotional intelligence education, you need to seize the opportunity.

Last week, the school conducted an anti-terrorism drill. In order to test students' true reactions, students could not be informed.

However, necessary education is still necessary. I used the fire drill work arrangement to interrupt and chat with the students about some news (hostage-taking, campus security incidents...), especially when I talked about the training I had done before. When the class heard a case, the students listened attentively. I knew that the opportunity for education had come. On the one hand, I reproduced the case and asked: What should we do if we encounter gangsters entering our campus?

The students were talking all over the place, and I immediately asked: What should boys do?

The students seemed to understand my intention, and they all said they should protect girls.

During the recess that day, the assembly was over and the students were returning to the teaching building. The alarm suddenly sounded. I knew that the drill had begun. I said loudly: Go back to the classroom quickly and hide!

The students didn't know what was going on. The teachers looked panicked and asked them to run quickly, so they quickly ran back to their classrooms.

After I entered the class, what I saw was that the girls were standing together at the back window of the classroom, and the boys were nervously and orderly closing the windows at the front window, using tables to block the front and back doors, tightening the curtains... and... Some boys picked up brooms and mops and stood next to their companions.

At this time, the chemistry teacher knocked on the door and wanted to collect photos, but the students thought that the chemistry teacher was pretending to be a gangster, deliberately tempting them to open the door, and refused to open the door no matter what...

Children I was very satisfied with their reaction. The boys knew how to protect the girls. They worked together, were well prepared, had awareness of prevention, and were highly vigilant...

Later, when I went out, I saw that no other class had their curtains drawn. , the students said, wouldn’t they have exposed themselves if they didn’t close the curtains?

I thought so. Students are indeed more thoughtful than I thought.

4. Unexplained absence

During the delay in the morning, Han Bo and Haoyi disappeared without asking for leave. After questioning, the two children ran to help Aning tidy up the bedding and help their classmates. It's a good thing, but not asking for leave is wrong. This trend must be stopped immediately.

The two children are usually very lazy. They run around the classroom during self-study classes. Every time they ask, there is always a reason: collecting homework, which teacher wants to count what, and who the teacher wants to watch to endorse... …

School is over and they haven’t come back yet.

After thinking about it, I feel that we must take action so that they can realize the seriousness of unexplained absences. I asked the students to move both of their desks into the hallway. At the same time, I dug out the student code of conduct, which contained a rule about not skipping classes, and printed it out. Getting ready to get off work.

I thought they would come to me after lunch break in the afternoon, but unexpectedly, they came running out of breath.

I handed them the Ten Prohibitions, and then said: I won’t stop you from having food and accommodation, but you are absent from class without asking for leave, so can I assume that you don’t want to go to class, right? Want to get the teacher suspended? Since we don’t want to be in the class so much, then let’s stay outside the class from now on, right?

The two of them bowed their heads in silence, perhaps realizing that they really shouldn't be absent from class, and their usual laughter was gone.

It was already time to eat. I waved my hand and asked them to leave. Let’s go eat first. If there are any questions, we’ll talk about it in the afternoon.

As soon as the lunch break ended in the afternoon, the two children ran over immediately when they saw me and stood at the door of the office politely, looking like they were waiting for me to "give up". I gave them two choices: A. According to 10. The method for dealing with absenteeism is not allowed. B. According to the class convention: move out of the original seat and listen to the class next to the class. They chose B.

The two children behaved themselves in their new positions throughout the afternoon. When school was over, I asked them to move back to their original positions, and also talked about their problems and how to deal with them more appropriately when encountering such problems in the future.

I don’t know whether such a heavy-handed education will be useful to the two of them. I don’t know if it has any warning effect on other students. Let’s see how they perform next.